cancer man-virgo man

I am a cancer male -that fell in love with a virgo male. We broke up 2 months after a very intense, loving, yet he drove me crazy emotionally - was very confusing and selfish. Even though I would never revisit that relationship, I am hurting - He lost a good guy - He broke my trust - which is death to me!
He is angry because I totally cut him off- no friendship - nothing -
Any feedback?

Both Cancers and Virgos are EXTREMELY sensitive people. Unfortunately, when severely hurt, they don't always know how to express themselves without hurting others.

I am a cancer male -that fell in love with a virgo male. We broke up 2 months after a very intense, loving, yet he drove me crazy emotionally - was very confusing and selfish. Even though I would never revisit that relationship, I am hurting - He lost a good guy - He broke my trust - which is death to me!
He is angry because I totally cut him off- no friendship - nothing -
He says he loves and misses me terribly -
Any feedback?

I am a Scorpio. I would do the same thing you did. If somebody betrays me like that, I cannot have anything whatsoever to do with them after they hurt me like that. I just cannot face someone who has hurt me like that and pretend that everything is ok. You did the right thing--You need a Scorpio!!! Scorpios are the most loyal of all signs and they are just as loving and caring for you as you would be for them! Good luck!

I am a cancer male -that fell in love with a virgo male. We broke up 2 months after a very intense, loving, yet he drove me crazy emotionally - was very confusing and selfish. Even though I would never revisit that relationship, I am hurting - He lost a good guy - He broke my trust - which is death to me!
He is angry because I totally cut him off- no friendship - nothing -
He says he loves and misses me terribly -
I still feel an emotional attachment to him ...but I know I could never trust him again!
Any feedback - does he really miss me?

I am a cancer male -that fell in love with a virgo male. We broke up 2 months after a very intense, loving, yet he drove me crazy emotionally - was very confusing and selfish. Even though I would never revisit that relationship, I am hurting - He lost a good guy - He broke my trust - which is death to me!
He is angry because I totally cut him off- no friendship - nothing -
He says he loves and misses me terribly -
I still feel an emotional attachment to him ...but I know I could never trust him again!
Any feedback - what's the deal with him?

I'm a woman, but I've dated a Virgo men and I'll tell you, "It was heaven!"
Beside the fact that they are very, very possesive. What's theirs is theirs and that's that. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.
Virgo's are very idealist. They want you to appear (notice the use of the word appear, it's important)to fulfill their every dream to others.
Simply put, they care about what other people see & think more than they will ever admit.

WEll i think you should give him another chance, i'm sure that he'll improve. Or on the other hand if he has done something that is really really bad, then forget about him, you'll find somebody better.

Hi!
I am female...
I feel as you do about trust and once I feel betrayed, I cannot resume as though nothing has happened...
I would do the same thing you do...it would be over completely for me!
I hope your next relationship is all you dream of!
Star

Thanks to all of you for your imput. This has been most difficult for me, and being a cancer male, I have a hard time letting go of things that I love. Friends tell to move on, get laid, hook up, but that's not me. I loved this man and loved being his friend/boyfriend and in a relationship.

Thanks to all of you for your imput. This has been most difficult for me, and being a cancer male, I have a hard time letting go of things that I love. Friends tell to move on, get laid, hook up, but that's not me. I loved this man and loved being his friend/boyfriend and in a relationship.
I know I couldn't return to the realtionship - and have a hard time even being in a friendship because of that word TRUST -
He betrayed me with another - which only added salt to an already gaping wound.
Am I feeling sorry for myself?

Hi,

If he betrayed you to another, you are so right to let go. Who's to tell when he will do this again? Once you let someone back into your life with this hanging over, he will always somehow think that he can do this again, whether they admit it or not. I understand totally re: betrayal - Trust is the main focus on relationships and if you don't have that you have nothing. You are a Cancer Male, I'm sure you will find what you are looking for and deserve.

All the best to you!!
Whatever

thanks whatever, that's what everyone tells me. I do deserve better,I know in my heart that I do. He destroyed everything - even our friendship which really hurts, but I truly cannot have him back in anyway, shape or form. The "shell" is tougher than ever.
Thanks again.

I am a Scorpio, so there is no middle-of the road playing around with me. It hurts too much to go back to someone who has betrayed you like that. You NEED to really connect with another water sign (Scorpio or Pisces), preferably a Scorpio who can love you every bit as much as you loved him. You should not let anybody betray you and then take them back afterwards and here is why -- You are much too loving of a person and you deserve someone who can love you every bit as much as you love them. Virgos are too earthy to reciprocate that to you. While yes Virgos and Cancers are compatible, you are most compatible with other water signs. Water signs can understand you and you can understand them much better. Please listen to me--Find another water sign--Scorpio is best. =D

Thanks D - My mother and sister are scorpios - and they are the best!!
Thanks for the encouragement - it has been difficult!!!

I can only imagine the pain you are feeling, (been burned too unfortunately)-- but you have to believe me that there others out there that won't play games with your heart like the Virgoan did to you. You have to believe that there is someone out their who wants to love you just as much as you love them!!! I PROMISE! And when you find that person I wanna be in the front row cheering you on. And while you find that person, your Virgo ex will really realize what a dumb mistake he made and he will maybe even beg you to take him back. And you know what? You won't cuz you'll have someone who's not afraid to show you how much they love you too! =D

you are the best, thanks! Everyone says he's going to try to come back into my life, but of course not to let him. Unfortunately, I never really expressed my true feelings after he told me about the other guy. I think I was just on denial. But, I think I am going to email him today and really express myself - and then close and lock the door!

I think that would be a really excellent idea. Just stick to your guns and do it. I think that Earth signs sometimes have difficulty understanding emotions as well as we do. When he betrayed you, he knew it would hurt you. But he did not know to what extent. He didn't take any of this into consideration when he hurt you, and now you are making the right decision by not taking him back so you can make sure that you will never be hurt like this again.

And you are the best!!! =D

d- i WROTE UP THE LETTER i WANTED TO EMAIL, BUT NOW I DONT KNOW IF I WANT TO SEND IT. HE KNOWS EXACTLY WHAT HE DID - IF HE HAS A HEART, HE'S GOT TO.
HE SCREWED UP - BUT HES SO SELFISH AND SELF RIGHTEOUS HE MIGHT NOT. HE'S NOT WORTH MY TIME ANYMORE.

The person who burned me was a Leo/Virgo cusp. I had another Virgo friend who burned me too.


Virgos are very aware of their actions, he knows what he did. If you send him the letter, just make sure that this will be the last you send to him. Have closure. He knows you are a very sensitive person, because he shares some (not all) of your sensitivity.

The truth is he has much less of a heart than you do and whatever you do, just make sure you find a guy who will make you happy and reciprocate all 150% of your love that you have for him, right back to you. (A SCORPIO)! You need a Scorpio! A Scorpio needs you!!! =D

Ok Yes you should send the letter. Just carefully think over what you want to say..no just speak from your heart. He will then understand exactly how you have been feeling and how you currently feel. I promise you that regardless of whether or not he responds to your letter, he will have a good understanding of how you feel. That should help to give you some closure I hope.

I also understand that you don't come equipped with an on-and-off switch and that your pain from what he did to you and your feelings for him don't just go away overnight. But if you can find someone who is a loving person, who is too serious about loving you to play these bull $ h!t games and is totally devoted to you, you will be in less pain over your ex, than you are experiencing now. I am sorry for your pain. 😢

I am so glad that you said that He's not worth your time anymore! The dickhead certainly ISN'T!!!! =D

..sometimes I wish I wasnt so sensitive about things, wish I could be more non chalant about things. Being a cancer is Not easy - and being a cancer "gay" man sometimes is even harder. Im hanging in there! Thanks again for all the support, I love you for it, and don't even know you, but the heart is good, and I feel it!

That is one of the nicest things anybody has ever said to me. You are who you are, don't try to change yourself. Don't even wish you could be different!!! You are a great guy with a huge heart. (and I do mean huge) That's something that is rare in most people. Do you have e-mail or instant messenger? I would love to listen to you and just be there for you if you still would like to talk and see how you're doing!

your welcome - I do have an email address - but really dont want to post it on here. You have been a great supporter thru so much confusion and hurt with my ex. I love him still very much, and miss him so much too, but know I did the right thing. He is not a bad person - has some very good qualities - some gentle like mine. I know deep down he feels guilty, and knows how much this has hurt me. He acts like a child and plays the victim.
The sad part is, underneath all the "muck" that a intimate relationship has, we had a good emotional friendship. Very open, understanding, comforting, safe and secure. I think I miss that the most. I think he does too. Plus the fact that I'm cute. ( ha ha).

I bet you are cute. I am a cute guy too! =P But I understand you not wanting to post your email address here! (As you can see I haven't posted mine here either)! lol

I just want you to know that I have been where you are right now, and you're right. The feelings do not go away overnight. They probably won't go away anytime soon. But when you find the right guy for you, the one who can love you back just the way you love him. It will make you feel the closure to this realtionship. I'm sure the Virgo dude had some good qualities, (why the heck else would have been with him if he hadn't). I think that a part of you will always love him. A part of him will always love you too.

BUT the thing is that you know how to deal with your feelings, so that you are able to keep a close relationship with someone. He on the other hand probably had some very genuine feelings for you, but decided that he would take the coward's way out and not deal with his feelings for you instead he hurt you very much. You're still hurting.

But it's very hard for most people (no matter how open-minded they are) to get back to the way anything was before, after you have been betrayed.

I don't want you to get hurt again! (Yeah I know we don't know each other), but this guy is not worth waiting around to see if he'll play with your heart like this some more.

You know what, he does feel guilty.

But you need to find someone who can always do right by you. Not do whatever suits them all the time. And when you find someone who can love you unconditionally no matter what (WITHOUT BAILING ON YOU EVER)!--Then you will know that you have found the right one. =D

I love you for being strong enough to share your feelings in this difficult time you are having. It just shows me what I assumed all along--You have a very big heart.

D -maybe you are the "new" man in my life...ha ha
You make me feel good - tingle, in fact.
How can I talk to you? and Where are you?

Hey I am Scorpio470@hotmail.com

I'll tell ya more there.

I emailed you.

Thank you. =D I e-mailed you back.

Listen, are you sick of this smiley face ( =D )should I change it to this ( :o) )—

not sick of your smiley face - smiles are good!
I am doing good today - feel better and stronger - I am going to be fine.
It just saddens me that the person you absolutely once loved, cannot be part of your life. My hope someday is that we can sit across each other, have a drink, and notice how much we've grown as men during out separtation and healing time. Oh, I don't know. Maybe I wont even care at that point, but once I genuinly care about someone, I usually do for life.

That's very sweet of you, but don't worry about me!!! He was a compulsive liar and I am relieved in a way, that he won't have anymore opportunities to hurt me. And now your guy won't be able to hurt you anymore than he already has either. That makes me glad. I am glad to hear you are doing better today. =D

Ignore my last response! I completely misread your message. I hope that you will find comfort in knowing that there are a lot of people in this world (your friends and family) who love you very much and are there for you! You are a wonderful person and don't need people to play with your heart. You have no time for that bullshit!

I am going to make this my last as I'm going to be out of town.


Just remember, you deserve better!!!

..Just a huge THANK YOU to all of you who offered advice on my breakup - It really helped tremendously, and now feel after 2 months and 2 weeks (to be exact), I am finally ready to put that all behind me and move on to "someone" that I truly deserve. My relationship was a "cathartic" experience, with alot of pain and uncertainty, but I can tell you this - I am stronger, more confident, happier, and am ready to grab life by the "balls".
Thanks to all who offered advice and direction - especially dear Robert- you were a gem!

Breaking up in any relationship can be painful. Especially when you have bonded with someone the way you bonded with your Virgo man. But when somebody betrays you, it shatters the trust you once had for them and it destroys the bond you shared. It just doesn't feel the same anymore.

You are a very kind, warm-hearted, generous loving guy and you should always remember that. You might be thinking, well how do I know that? I can just tell that you give your all to somebody who you love. If a person cannot return that to you, than that person does not deserve to be with you!
You deserve only the best and I am fully confident that you will find him someday!
Robert Monroe

Thank you dear Robert - please keep in touch!

Sorry I haven't gotten back to you sooner. How are you doing?

Don't e-mail me! I closed that account because it is full. I will have to get another e-mail address. But in the meantime, I read in a post you wrote above that you have found strength that you never thought you had.

You are a very strong person! May you continue to find your strength within and I just wish you all the happiness and love you want out of life. You deserve it. You are a wonderful person. Never forget that!

So glad to hear from you. You were like an angel that came and went. I am doing good. Beginning to come back around and "shine" once more! I hear that "he" is not doing very well. I don't know how true that is, but? He needs to go inside his own self, and do some serious soul searching. I, on the other hand, am moving on baby...and Fast! Talk to me soon, dear Robert!!!!!

You are so kind and compassionate. I know that it's only a matter of time before you will find someone who will enter your life who can completely devote themself to you and love you fully.

You won't have to wonder whether or not he is always faithful and committed to you because you will know it. You won't have to worry or second guess him at all. He will return your love that you have for him, right back to you. =D

rOBERT - Ii i Wi

rOBERT - I WENT TO A PSYCHIC OVER THE WEEKEND, AND SHE TOLD ME THE SAME THING. tHE RELATIONSHIP I DESIRE WILL HAPPEN WITHIN 3 MONTHS, AND IT WILL BE FAST. HOWEVER, SHE SAID MY EX DOES STILL CARES, LOVES ME AND THINKS ABOUT ME ALOT - AND MIGHT TRY TO COME BACK. UGH!!!!!!!!!! THE CONNECTION BETWEEN US IS TOO STRONG.
HOW HAVE YOU BEEN - YOU HAVE BEEN SUCH AN INSPIRATION TO ME - THANK YU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU FOR BEING WITH ME THRU THIS - AND I DON'T EVEN KNOW YOU, BUT I CAN FEEL WE ARE KINDERED SPIRITS.
A BIG HUG TO YOU!

A big hug right back atcha!!! Don't say UGH!!! The hardest part is already over with. You have decided that you are not going to put your life on hold and wait for your ex to continue to play more games with your heart. Instead, you have come to a realization about yourself. You realized and I have realized that you are a very strong man. You have so much in you, that I bet you even surprised yourself. Well, I wish you the best in your new relationship to come.


P.S. I feel the same way about you, and I am amazed at your strength! You're terrific. =)




rOBERT - I WENT TO A PSYCHIC OVER THE WEEKEND, AND SHE TOLD ME THE SAME THING. tHE RELATIONSHIP I DESIRE WILL HAPPEN WITHIN 3 MONTHS, AND IT WILL BE FAST. HOWEVER, SHE SAID MY EX DOES STILL CARES, LOVES ME AND THINKS ABOUT ME ALOT - AND MIGHT TRY TO COME BACK. UGH!!!!!!!!!! THE CONNECTION BETWEEN US IS TOO STRONG.
HOW HAVE YOU BEEN - YOU HAVE BEEN SUCH AN INSPIRATION TO ME - THANK YU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU FOR BEING WITH ME THRU THIS - AND I DON'T EVEN KNOW YOU, BUT I CAN FEEL WE ARE KINDERED SPIRITS.
A BIG HUG TO YOU!

A big hug right back atcha!!! Don't say UGH!!! The hardest part is already over with. You have decided that you are not going to put your life on hold and wait for your ex to continue to play more games with your heart. Instead, you have come to a realization about yourself. You realized and I have realized that you are a very strong man. You have so much in you, that I bet you even surprised yourself. Well, I wish you the best in your new relationship to come.


P.S. I feel the same way about you, and I am amazed at your strength! You're terrific. =)