Question for the Cancerian fellowship

How important is privacy to you?

Say for instance, you were potentially to allow someone very close to you and you suspected that most of what you say to them might possibly be shared with at least one other person, would this impact the way you feel about them?

I feel exactly the same.

My little sister is one of those people, who I love, but I am careful with what I say around her.

It doesn't matter why a person might share my personal thoughts and feelings with others, even if their reasoning seems nice and innocent, it still mortifies me and makes my blood run cold.

When I don't sense security in the way of privacy, my shell will remain locked. It's as simple as that.

Very

Same. When I share information about myself it's usually something I will rarely tell someone and don't just want any person to know. So it stings a lot when I find out so and so told this person. It had happened to me quite a few times and learned who not to tell. Sometimes I would find someone I could trust to help vent about problems- but if I know that person goes to someone else and toads they're out of the list. I just don't like random people knowing my business and questioning it without me telling them myself.

Posted by clare
How important is privacy to you?

Say for instance, you were potentially to allow someone very close to you and you suspected that most of what you say to them might possibly be shared with at least one other person, would this impact the way you feel about them?

Yes. If I knew things said in confidence were being shared, that person would be knocked down a few notches (if family) and totally out (if not family).
Then there is the rare few for "fun", where, knowing what they're doing, you start feeding them bullshit so they start looking like the fool when they pass that information on.

Posted by clare
How important is privacy to you?

Say for instance, you were potentially to allow someone very close to you and you suspected that most of what you say to them might possibly be shared with at least one other person, would this impact the way you feel about them?

I have sun in the 12th house and moon in the 8th, privacy and secrecy are sacred to me. so sacred that if I didn't trust you, you would not be in my life or it would be so minimal that you would not be able to share secrets with another person. This is not even betrayal, but shared secrets given in trust.

ah. I knew this thread would be comforting. 🤗

it's just nice to be understood.

It's very important to me! If I confide in you, I would expect you to keep it to yourself and not share! I'm a firm believer that it's not my place to tell other people your business if you confide in me. What you tell me stays with me and if someone asks me about you or tries to get information, I'll let you know upfront you need to ask that person don't ask me. I have a selected few and even with those selected few I re-frame from saying everything that goes on with me.

I had a big Hulk moment last year with my siblings and Mom. Both were passing gossip I shared in confidence and wouldn't talk with me about it. Finally Mom blurted out a jab that involved something I told my brother. I don't tell them anything anymore. And you know what? They don't get why I'm butthurt about their shit talking.

Privacy. Very Important. To the point where I need to know who the people i'm close to are close to. Can I trust the people they are close to. To me you are as trustworthy as the people you're closest to. I CAN'T HAVE ANY LEAKS.