Is this a cancer's mind?

Do you ever just think about someone then end up completely losing yourself in scenarios that your mind has made up about you two?

Yess, then i try to forget about them completely to gain control. Hate losing myself.

Posted by thinktoomuch
This is females mind.

But perhaps that´s the same as a cancers 😉

SMDH lol

Posted by Namy
Yess, then i try to forget about them completely to gain control. Hate losing myself.

How long does that takes?

Yeah, I do.

Posted by marissa12
Yes. All the time. I have to stop myself from texting the person I was thinking about, by just changing my thoughts completely

Is that hard to do?

I definitely enjoy daydreaming about certain situations, especially if it's with someone I like lol
I like to play it out and see what could happen.

Posted by Ryoko
I do this all the time and I have no planets in Cancer. I think my fantasies come from having Neptune in my first house.

Wow, that's interesting to research

Posted by narayana
Yes, I do imagine that kind of scenarios a lot, but only if they have never hurt me.

Once something falls apart in reality, I can't fantasize about them anymore, if a thought or a memory randomly pops up, I get so anxious, sometimes even to the point I start feeling nauseous. I don't know if it's a good or a bad thing, all I know is that I just can't keep imagining them in a positive way, it makes me sick.

What's your definition of falling apart?

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Posted by narayana
Yes, I do imagine that kind of scenarios a lot, but only if they have never hurt me.

Once something falls apart in reality, I can't fantasize about them anymore, if a thought or a memory randomly pops up, I get so anxious, sometimes even to the point I start feeling nauseous. I don't know if it's a good or a bad thing, all I know is that I just can't keep imagining them in a positive way, it makes me sick.

What's your definition of falling apart?

If it's obvious that you have to move on, either they are moving somewhere far away... or they aren't interested in building a serious relationship - this happened to me once and it was so bad I literally couldn't eat anything because of the flashbacks that popped up in my mind. All the fantasies swiped out immediately, all I could think of was how I would hurt them back and I struggled very hard to fight these thoughts. They still sometimes haunt me

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I was sent this by a friend who is a cancer. They were referring my ex cancer

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Posted by narayana
Yes, I do imagine that kind of scenarios a lot, but only if they have never hurt me.

Once something falls apart in reality, I can't fantasize about them anymore, if a thought or a memory randomly pops up, I get so anxious, sometimes even to the point I start feeling nauseous. I don't know if it's a good or a bad thing, all I know is that I just can't keep imagining them in a positive way, it makes me sick.

What's your definition of falling apart?

If it's obvious that you have to move on, either they are moving somewhere far away... or they aren't interested in building a serious relationship - this happened to me once and it was so bad I literally couldn't eat anything because of the flashbacks that popped up in my mind. All the fantasies swiped out immediately, all I could think of was how I would hurt them back and I struggled very hard to fight these thoughts. They still sometimes haunt me

I was sent this by a friend who is a cancer. They were referring my ex cancer

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My cancer moved away and we could deal with the long distance

Posted by LunarMan
This is not my behaviour,personally speaking. If i am attracted to someone,i will immediately approach the person and ask them out,if they are not interested i will simply lose the attraction and move on.

I have a practical and logical mind and though i do understand romantic and emotional matters don't always have clear logic or rationale,however i see nothing constructive channeling energy into hypothetical scenarios,mental obsessing and fantasising about a love interest. I think it is far more constructive to put those feelings into a practical solution,like spending time with the actual person instead of fantasising.

Most of my time is spent working,eating healthy and keeping fit,admittedly i focus more on work than romance (Capricorn in 5th house),and health and fitness is my greatest joy (Virgo ascendant).

Hmmm. So you've never had a love lost and fantasized about what if?

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Posted by Namy
Yess, then i try to forget about them completely to gain control. Hate losing myself.

How long does that takes?

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Depends on the person..weeks, months...some even years. Some i just forget.