Saw my Cancer ex for the first time in a year &1/2

I've never been more hurt by anyone in my entire life, and a lot of it was due to the fact that I volunteered to be a part of this toxic relationship. He and I are very different; in communication especially. His chart is riddled with Cancer and Scorpio placements, including Cancer sun, Cancer moon, Cancer merc, Cancer Venus and Scorpio mars. As a few people know on this forum, I'm and Aries Third Decan sun, Libra moon, Taurus merc, Taurus Venus and Gem mars. Some placements work, but honestly I've never met anyone as closed off as him. Which, I understand it takes water signs longer to process and express their feelings; I never forced him to do so. But my issue was that I was more attached to the relationship than him. At least, it seemed so. He had gotten another girl pregnant while we were on a break, which he decided not to tell me for two months. And it ended up not being his but basically he felt overwhelmed by that and just ditched me, cut me off after over a year of clinging to me. Granted, I was more emotionally expressive but he would not let me go until this shell shock. And on top of that, he had been trying to get the attention of another girl, a Taurus sun while he was still with me. It was a huge mess, and his answer for leaving me was that he was trying to protect me from further hurt with the baby situation. Even though I was determined to make it work and be there for him -- I'm loyal to a fault majority of the time.
Anyway, I felt pretty insane thinking I'd be getting closure from this man. We did have a long talk and he apologized, but I have honestly never met anyone more willing to fuck with people's hearts than him. You see, our friends were there during our closure talk Saturday night as buffers (the talk was their idea too), because I can't always trust his impulses. And sure enough, he tried to be affectionate, pull me back in and manipulate the situation. Mind you, he's in a relationship with this Taurus girl her was pursuing while still dating me, so as soon as that behavior started I had to leave. Luckily, our friends were there to help keep it calm but this was just another reason to remind me of why it never worked in the first place. Insanity, even on my part thinking that we could be civilized and respectful of the situation at hand. I'm not sure why I've been so hellbent on getting closure and an apology from him, but I did NOT agree to see him to aide him in infidelity, UGH!!

I just wish I could have been stronger in my convictions to avoid this situation and not listen to my friends. Our friends are another couple, we used to do things as a group us four. So these two are a bit too willing to step in. I should've ignored their suggestion, because even with them present, he still misbehaved and I had to get out before it worsened.

Anyway, my question is, have any of you experienced this sort of behavior with Cancer placements?

Or would you say this is more just about a damaged person? More psychological than astrological?

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Posted by xomelindabelle
I just wish I could have been stronger in my convictions to avoid this situation and not listen to my friends. Our friends are another couple, we used to do things as a group us four. So these two are a bit too willing to step in. I should've ignored their suggestion, because even with them present, he still misbehaved and I had to get out before it worsened.

Anyway, my question is, have any of you experienced this sort of behavior with Cancer placements?

Or would you say this is more just about a damaged person? More psychological than astrological?

Venus in Retro.......nuf said.

Why would you want to go back to someone toxic?

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I was in no way trying to go back to him; he just had hurt me so greatly, I wanted an apology, I never got one. And when our mutual friends proposed this idea and promised to be present, I thought it could work.
It sounds insane, I know. I'm aware of it. But it was clear our intentions were very different. His actions disgusted me that night. I just wanted to let go of my anger and relinquish my resentments. But clearly, he's incapable of respecting any boundaries. Learned my lesson.
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Posted by Impulsv
You dodged the bullet. Even though you didn't get the closure the way you liked it it's confirmation of what you knew

That's very true, and I can rest easy knowing that I did nothing wrong and rose above his disrespect. What was even crazier about it was he kept saying that if I had given into him, he'd wouldn't give it a second thought and go for it.
So awful; I've never met anyone who was so willing to cheat in my entire life!!