So this is sorta continuation of a previous post I had made about my Cancerian man being a cheat. Anyway, most my issues were based on my intuition (which proved right, but I'm not gloating, I'm sad).
Thing is this - the Cancer boy I am with has always been a little shady and has a problem with unnecessary compulsive lies. Most times they are harmless but being a Leo, his lying makes me furious. Alot of times he feels I'm being too pushy, and he tends to lie just to escape from the problem. Now the thing is, before me he had told me he was in a three year long relationship with a girl from states while he was in London. He was madly in love with the girl, and was relocating for her even though she didn't care about it, but it was taking a long time and she left him and married someone else. He had always been touchy about this whole topic, and never disclosed much, or shared much with me and would always talk about it being a sensitive issue in his life and how he didn't wanna talk about it.
We are also in a long distance relationship, however we don't live far apart, and manage to see each other every now and then. Anyhow, he recently got a job offer from a company for which he would have to relocate. Now, I suggested to him if he is anyway comfortable with relocating from his native city, then why doesn't he move to my city so we can be together. My mother is in the hospital for four months so I can't leave my city otherwise I was planning to move to where he is. He rejected the idea saying he already has a job and he wants to take it. I was hurt and the whole "ex gf" issue cropped up as to how he was dying to relocate continents for her, and here he cannot move cities for me. We kept fighting for days and he broke up with me saying I demand too much out of him, and keep talking about his past. And he doesn't wanna be with me. I was a mess, and begged him to come back. Still I was very hurt internally, and shared with him how low I felt with him choosing a job he didn't care about over our relationship.
The same night he told me had something to confess. After alot of thought he told me that his previous relationship was a farce. It had been going online for years, and on the phone. He had never ever met the girl. And they barely ever spoke. He was naive, and young and he fell for her. That the girl's profile and pictures was all a fake, and she took him for a ride for two years, and he committed to marrying her without even meetin
her, and without even a video chat and she disclosed it too him just before she told him she's marrying someone else. He told me he was too embarrassed which is why he his the whole thing. I understood why he hid the entire thing from our relationship, but felt really hurt about the fact that when he knew my pain and anxiety is caused because of his life - instead of reassuring me he called me a crazy person and broke off with me. I let go off the whole thing, and told him that I want us to have a fresh start, and he told me he wants to marry me and started talking about marriage and how where we should get married, and when we should speak to parents etc. Now until this night he had always been distant, and never get really let me get close to him. I hadn't even recovered from the hurt of his breaking the relationship and walking out 24 hours ago. And I asked him repeatedly if he means it when he says he wants to get married and he said he was very sure and that I was the one he wanted to be with. Then he told me he'd relocate for me if that's what I really want. He also said he's immature and he feels guilty for hurting me and making me feel like he did - and that he cannot believe I'm still by him and that I should help "make him a man".
I don't know what to think of the whole thing. He's put me through this rollercoaster ride within three days and I'm lost. I don't know what he genuinely means anymore. He had fabricated alot of lies in our year together alot of them unnecessary connected to his relationship. PLus I caught him lying/flirting on a website with women while talking to me (there;s another thread with this story). I am lost. He's a venus in gemini, is that why he's such a mess?
I want to be with him. But I am starting to feel he may not be good for me.
Sigh 😢 He's so sweet most times that I don't know what to do.
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So this is sorta continuation of a previous post I had made about my Cancerian man being a cheat. Anyway, most my issues were based on my intuition (which proved right, but I'm not gloating, I'm sad).
Thing is this - the Cancer boy I am with has always been a little shady and has a problem with unnecessary compulsive lies. Most times they are harmless but being a Leo, his lying makes me furious. Alot of times he feels I'm being too pushy, and he tends to lie just to escape from the problem. Now the thing is, before me he had told me he was in a three year long relationship with a girl from states while he was in London. He was madly in love with the girl, and was relocating for her even though she didn't care about it, but it was taking a long time and she left him and married someone else. He had always been touchy about this whole topic, and never disclosed much, or shared much with me and would always talk about it being a sensitive issue in his life and how he didn't wanna talk about it.
We are also in a long distance relationship, however we don't live far apart, and manage to see each other every now and then. Anyhow, he recently got a job offer from a company for which he would have to relocate. Now, I suggested to him if he is anyway comfortable with relocating from his native city, then why doesn't he move to my city so we can be together. My mother is in the hospital for four months so I can't leave my city otherwise I was planning to move to where he is. He rejected the idea saying he already has a job and he wants to take it. I was hurt and the whole "ex gf" issue cropped up as to how he was dying to relocate continents for her, and here he cannot move cities for me. We kept fighting for days and he broke up with me saying I demand too much out of him, and keep talking about his past. And he doesn't wanna be with me. I was a mess, and begged him to come back. Still I was very hurt internally, and shared with him how low I felt with him choosing a job he didn't care about over our relationship.
The same night he told me had something to confess. After alot of thought he told me that his previous relationship was a farce. It had been going online for years, and on the phone. He had never ever met the girl. And they barely ever spoke. He was naive, and young and he fell for her. That the girl's profile and pictures was all a fake, and she took him for a ride for two years, and he committed to marrying her without even meetin