Stay or Move On?

Cancer and I met 5 years ago, I can honestly say love at first site. FIREWORKS and EVERYTHING!

Here GOES...

I was still married and going thru a very treacherous divorce. He was extremely supportive most of the time with my two children and my home life as I was with him and his son, until he gets in the CRABBY MOODS and always seemed at the wrong times because I needed the extra support with the crazy-ex acting just that CRAZY. He knew where he stood in my life, no indication of me and the ex getting back together, getting together NOTHING. I supported him and he supported me. We actually treated our children as if they were our own. We enjoyed spending time together and I must admit he made so many efforts to please me.

There were times in our relationship where I felt the disconnect and him becoming aloof; perhaps, the distraction of the emotional ties with other female friends. He has enough of those, but I do know his heart was always with me-some insecurities; but didn't consume me. The aloofness caused many countless arguments and the divorce became extremely stressful for me. I needed the support that he couldn't offer consistently(finances and not being STRONG FOR ME ALL THE TIME) and I grew extremely frustrated. Ended the relationship and told him to move on with his life. I know I didn't mean it, just thought he'd always be there; I stopped taking his calls, stopped calling his mother and stopped going around his family. TOTAL MELTDOWN! Which was a surprise for me because I've handled a lot over my life.

NOW! My divorce is final and I'm soooo much more stable,and is probably the person he met; if not better. I confessed this to him about 6 months later. I told him I was still very much in love with him and needed to finalize my divorce. He admitted having someone else now! ARRGHHH! He's even had her around his family, a complete surprise to me. He's angry that I didn't tell him how I felt 6 months ago. I don't know how serious they are, but we've expressed **feelings** towards each recently, several times. Each time after wards he's withdrawn and the phone calls stop. A few days go by and he's txting or calling again. Trying to take me to lunch/dinner or some excuse to see me; but he's still confessing his relationship with her too!

I did admit going out a few dates & Of course he knows I've been intimate with one person on several times; but not in a relationship...

Will He Trust Me Again?
Can He Trust Me Again?
Will We Just Be Friends?
Can He Just Be Friends?
Do I Need To Keep Apologizing?
I'm a Leo, hate admitting I'm wrong! LOL!

Everything is sooooo complicated..i could not make up such a story even if i wanted to 🙂


"Honey, my kids and your kids are beating our kids"

He has someone else now. Move on.

COMPLICATED **SMH** can't even describe this situation! It's too confusing for me to even LOGICALLY think it thru...

My plan was to just remain friends and let him be happy after I discovered he had someone else.

However, he keeps insisting on wanting to be with me EVENTUALLY! I don't know if he's trying to test me to see if he can trust me again or just wanting to put me thru the so called misery I put him thru. So, I've created "friendship boundaries" that he's saying he'll respect; but if I give him a green light to cross them he will happily!

YOU CRABS ARE SOOOOO CONFUSING! BUT TOO LOVABULL TO DISLIKE!

I took the advice and have moved on & started dating again. Trying to date an Aries-very difficult individuals to tolerate and another Leo-very easy to deal with because he's so much like me. LOL!

My Cancer friend talks or txt sporadically, but we both know there's something still there. He now realizes that I'm not going to allow him to do the back and forth game between women! Which this still surprised the hell out of me, because I never stamped him for that type of person. AND Besides, I do have too much self-respect for myself no matter what our history has been.

Nevertheless, got a call this morning from out of nowhere asking for a first aid kit from my house. I know it wasn't the first aid kit he wanted. I was already on my way to work anyways! WHEW! Saved from temptation.

Can CANCERS transition to JUST friendship after a not so good break-up? Maybe I should ask myself if I can...LOL!

Yes I think so....but there will always be that possessiveness part. I know I will never get back with my ex-husband but maybe seeing him hugged up with his girl or something would sort of give me like a very minor minor minor jealous twitch. But I am way over him.

Now in your situation, not so soon. Clearly there are still feelings both ways......so don't fool yourself into thinking you can be friends so soon. Maybe in a year or when you find someone to give you that same feeling and more.

Posted by LeoGal4Real


Can CANCERS transition to JUST friendship after a not so good break-up? Maybe I should ask myself if I can...LOL!

You can! And to put think things into perspective, Cancers never really let go of anyone. They just tuck you away in their mental roller dex with the rest of their exes.

I Agree GeorgiaPeach

I just got my answer myself! I could hit myself in the head. Dated a Cancer years ago, current Cancer and past Cancer? Same age and birthdays are just 4 days between.

Past Cancer? Still calls after 17 years and doesn't know how to be JUST FRIENDS! He's constantly begging me to meet him or saying if I need him for anything he's always there for me (wink-wink). I even had to stop talking to him completely because he wouldn't respect my relationship with the Current Cancer. Invited him to my upcoming birthday celebration and that re-opened the lines of communication! Past Cancer became perturbed recently when I didn't oblige on a personal visit to my place. He calls every freakin' day now and has a wife! WTF? Am I a magnet for the having your cake and eating it too?

I'm really not liking CANCER men right now. Which is very difficult because I have 2 little ones(boys) in JULY not JUNE like my current/past Cancer males. If that makes a difference...Thought I'd always end up with my cancer soulmate.

So, in my own experiences? NOPE, friendship is not an option! Can't even have a simple convo without them thinking "I can get her in bed again". **SMH**

CANCERS? CURSES!

Now just txt'd "what are my sizes?" My birthday of course. Just another excuse hey? I WANNA SCREAAAAMMMM!!! LMAO!

Haha some cancers can be shady. I have trouble doing friends after a break up cause I don't think of getting them into bed, I think and scheme of ways to get them dating me again and trying to win them over. Cancer NEVER let go and they love false hope. Tell a cancer just in a friendly way, "Yeah sometimes I miss you and you pop into my mind", ok completely innocent and it's gonna happen with someone you were close with. WRONG, cancer goes oh man she wants me back I gotta plan the next few dates how can I make her smile how am I going to win her over. Cancers never forget and once there is a connection with one that is intense they want it back more than anything in the world.