THAT Cancer thing

I am surrounded by Cancers. My dad, brother, two ex-boyfriends, two friend girls, and two co-workers. Most of the guys I have dated have had Cancer placements. There is an obvious attraction between these Cancer people and myself.

On DXP, I read constantly that Cancers are ruled by their emotions. I am a Libra. I have deep emotions but am less likely to act on them. I'm more logical and factual.

My question is: How would a sign, other than another Cancer, learn to tap into this state of emotion that rules you?

Example: My dad and brother are very moody. The same situation can occur twice and they will act differently each time. Neither of them are big on communication, so knowing that something occurred to upset them prior to the situation is not likely to happen. They are either passive or down right mean.

I always feel like I'm on eggshells around them because I don't know "who" I'm going to get from one day to the next. At one point my dad was tested for bipolar disorder because of his frequently changing moods.

How does one tap into this state of emotions that Cancers live in? Can meditation help? Or something else?

This is a serious inquiry. I'm not looking for Cancer/Libra bashing. I'm trying to help make my and their relationship better.

We do not mean bad. For example I am fascinated about how Libras can be calm and cool. They are so rational. For us it is a constant flow of very deep emotions. It runs deep. We never can control. We just have to be. I have learned throughout my life that I just have to flow. I know this moment I might feel this happiness very deeply but the next moment I will feel contentment very deeply. It takes a lot for me to calm my emotions. It is a deep rush that just surrounds every part of my being and will not let go. Sometimes it is stronger then me. It is a constant battle so I just have to accept it and flow.

The "walking on eggshells" feeling is the one you need to conquer.

Cancer will feed off your discomfort, probably by defense instinct.

Don't give them control of your emotions.

Posted by CluelessCancer

Posted by Ruh
We do not mean bad. For example I am fascinated about how Libras can be calm and cool. They are so rational. For us it is a constant flow of very deep emotions. It runs deep. We never can control. We just have to be. I have learned throughout my life that I just have to flow. I know this moment I might feel this happiness very deeply but the next moment I will feel contentment very deeply. It takes a lot for me to calm my emotions. It is a deep rush that just surrounds every part of my being and will not let go. Sometimes it is stronger then me. It is a constant battle so I just have to accept it and flow.

+1

But that doesn't entail one needs to be mean or rude, so misslibra i would suggest you put them in their place when they behave this way with you.

feck being someones punching bag.

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I walk on eggshells around my daddy because he's got an extremely bad snap temper. I do not like confrontation but have NO problem standing up for myself. When I do this with him he tells me my mouth is my downfall. Then he'll not communicate for weeks, months, years. Brother is the same way but less volatile than dad. One ex bf said I need to learn how to be sensitive. So, I don't know when to stand up for myself or sit down and shut up. How is one to know? How do you "feel" what a Cancer feels? My Venus is in Scorpio, so I do have some water in me and I am very loving.

Posted by Wynter
The "walking on eggshells" feeling is the one you need to conquer.

Cancer will feed off your discomfort, probably by defense instinct.

Don't give them control of your emotions.

So, basically, just do my thing, just be me? They'll deal with it or not? I think the confrontation and non-approval are what hold me back.

Posted by Ruh
We do not mean bad. For example I am fascinated about how Libras can be calm and cool. They are so rational. For us it is a constant flow of very deep emotions. It runs deep. We never can control. We just have to be. I have learned throughout my life that I just have to flow. I know this moment I might feel this happiness very deeply but the next moment I will feel contentment very deeply. It takes a lot for me to calm my emotions. It is a deep rush that just surrounds every part of my being and will not let go. Sometimes it is stronger then me. It is a constant battle so I just have to accept it and flow.

I don't think they're bad people. May need to learn to control themselves at times though. I'd like to better understand what they are internally feeling...be in their heads, just feel it. How do I understand that flow?

Posted by aquavita
Miss Libra and Funny are having same dilema

Yes, we are!! I read his post and offered advice. Hope it helped.

Give them alone time when they're not in a good mood. Advices are not welcome unless they asked. They'll never hurt you because you are family. Maybe they have problems they are afraid to share and needs to keep quiet and think. Where is your mom by the way? When I have little money left, my temper is fragile. When I have misunderstanding with somebody I love, it bothers me a lot. Just be a loving daughter you'll be alright.

Posted by MissLibra

Yes, we are!! I read his post and offered advice. Hope it helped.

Then I hope I can help 🙂
As you start this topic, I'll consider that you'll ready to change to understand your family..To change a situation there are a few ways to do it; - You'll change your way, -They'll change their say or You'll, together change the situation..
Third one is usually more convenient for relationships.

I really appreciate libras personality. You're outspoken and honest..If somethings bothers, you talk about it directly. Cancers are usually fragile, that makes them focus on about what they are told rather than what the matters..You can talk about what bothers you and how to change them with together but you should choose your words very carefully..You shouldn't blame them (We're always ready for self-defence cause we always take things very personal)..Cause we firstly look how you approach us, are you trying to insult/ or blame us? If we feel it's not personal, we can focus on the subject..
That's why cancers make libras angry, cause we miss the the subject you talk about. We feel like we're insulted or blamed.

If the problem is very personal, you can talk about how you feel about it. As far as I know libras usually don't talk about their feelings but it's important for cancers. If something bothers you, you can talk about how you feel about it..If you tell them you feel bad about your communication with them (or the matters you want to talk) and you really want to change it in a better way, they'll respond..If you make them feel how you're sad about your communication or our anything that bothers you Emotions will make them more talkative cause we don't like to see our family sad..When you try to explain yourself with your rational reasons, you'll probably get very less than you expect..
You can use your logic by adding some emotions (not anger:p )

Posted by Oxygenada
Give them alone time when they're not in a good mood. Advices are not welcome unless they asked. They'll never hurt you because you are family. Maybe they have problems they are afraid to share and needs to keep quiet and think. Where is your mom by the way? When I have little money left, my temper is fragile. When I have misunderstanding with somebody I love, it bothers me a lot. Just be a loving daughter you'll be alright.

My mother passed away 14 years ago. Thank you for your advice 🙂