Tired of this dance

I'm tired of the back and forth with this cancer man. It feels like the dance will never end. It has been a year and a half, but as soon as there is progress, then we go backwards again. I'm going to give up.ve been patient for 2 long. When will he ever be certain of us?

we have been cahtting for a year and a half. It was mostly about sex, but has become more serious. He is starting to really show interest in my life. never had sex, but came close a few weeks ago. He always initiates first. He started to open up as well. he even started showing some jealousy. But today when we were suppose to hang out, he blew me off.it is like he gets scared. as soon as we are getting somewhere he seems not ready.

And so....the ride begins =) They truly are wonderful...BEWARE! They require lots of patience =)If you feel he is worth the wait, then you won't be goin anywhere for awhile....=)

I told him, "I like you." He responded, "what's not to like?" WTF?!

I really wonder what is going on in these cancer's heads when they take their merry ole' time like this. I just bumped into an old crush from HS, he has been dating his HS sweetheart for the past 10 years. Wtf, no commitment? I knew her, too, so that is exactly why she broke up with him. Another guy, his ex waited him for 6 years.... then she just had to go in for the kill all on her own. If any one person in his life mattered to him, she does, yet even then. All cancers BTW. Oh, another one, 4 years.

Tough for me, I'm prepared to propose to a guy and all.... but if the catch is too easy, then its game over, and don't want him scurrying off, that is no fun either. I know the guy I'm dating, his ex left him well alone.... they dated two years. He called it quits too, so there was some action there. He's also out there actively looking to date.

With these men (cancers) you have to be content with what IS, if not, he might not be the one for you either. What are they thinking that takes YEARS sometimes?

Posted by Lady Aries
I told him, "I like you." He responded, "what's not to like?" WTF?!

Indirect much? My crab used to say things like that. He would also say "you'd like that too much" after he offered to do something for me. Like, really? Okay then...

lady aries you sound like me.. i'm in a similar situation. I don't understand it.. I've had multiple guys stalk me (mostly scorpios.. which is why I stay away from them! lol!) and yet this one shows NO interest at all but according to his friends he's interested. WTF. I've been burned by showing too much interest in the past so I refuse to put it out there and just say I really like him. I'm an Aries rising.. we need Leo men!

Hahaha scorpio men can be so obsessive, it's downright scary!

Posted by PixieDust

Posted by Lady Aries
I told him, "I like you." He responded, "what's not to like?" WTF?!

Indirect much? My crab used to say things like that. He would also say "you'd like that too much" after he offered to do something for me. Like, really? Okay then...

Haha when there is something that cannot be tip-toed around and I have to be super direct, he plays 'dead'......in the head. He will give comments like, "what's that?" with seriously inquisitive eyes. Wtf, FML, and Smh moments all rolled into one.

Posted by roxyfalcon2006
lady aries you sound like me.. i'm in a similar situation. I don't understand it.. I've had multiple guys stalk me (mostly scorpios.. which is why I stay away from them! lol!) and yet this one shows NO interest at all but according to his friends he's interested. WTF. I've been burned by showing too much interest in the past so I refuse to put it out there and just say I really like him. I'm an Aries rising.. we need Leo men!

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Funny how this 'air of mystery' works with both sexes. Too little show of interest is when we stay intrigued. Too much interest, then they are considered stalkers, or I'd like to say that they put-out too easily, emotions or otherwise. Kehehe

Posted by dragoneyes
I'm tired of the back and forth with this cancer man. It feels like the dance will never end. It has been a year and a half, but as soon as there is progress, then we go backwards again. I'm going to give up.ve been patient for 2 long. When will he ever be certain of us?

We all need a man who knows what he wants and knows how to get it, especially when it comes to us. It is ok for us to speak up for what we want, too. If being direct to him with words isn't getting anywhere, then show him through taking him out, cooking for him, planning things together... not sex.

Men in general have the mega mindset of "if it ain't broken, don't fix it." Who's to say that he isn't acting congruently to your own show of interest? Cancer men are intuitive, yes, but they are not going to act solely based on their feelings. Besides, he's probably thinking that you already know he likes you, and without establishing labels, you are fine with the way things are. Have you asked for more? If you are unhappy with your situation, not saying that you are, but if that is the case, will continuing it any other way make you happy?