Venus in cancer

Because i like various perspectives i asking my fellow cancers ( Im a moon in Cancer)

My partner Leo with

Venus cancer

Moon Taurus

I have been in a relationship with this Leo female for 4.5 yrs we have had our ups and downs but this time feels different I feel different. Some hurtful things were said, and from then I have had a tightness in my throat that won't subside. We had a long talk after a series of blow-ups and just weird tension that either of us can handle.

We spoke on this weekend which was my birthday Jan 19th woot. She told me that the spark not their anymore and she been feeling like this for awhile, and she needs to work on herself and she just tired of the relationship, and she doesn't want to keep doing this to me. I was relieved at her speaking her mind seeing I'm constantly telling her to talk instead of blowing up cause it doesn't always need to be an argument ( yes, I mess up too) she was pulled a back that I wasn't mad. I told her how I felt that I still feel the spark for me and yes, I want to through in the towel many times but when I stare at her I don't know there is nowhere else I rather am ( i just need space at times). There were tears as our families have come to care for us both. After that talk, I was surprisingly sad and happy at the same time for the relief that we talked.

After we went to a bonfire cuddle fell asleep, spent the following day together and came to work together.

I do still have this tension in my thought as if I cant breathe but I feel that an accumulation of not talking. I do want us to spend more time apart have other hobbies she spends time on her etc. But i wonder can i suggest that after what she said should I call it quits and if she wants to not be here why is she still here.

Hence my limbo.. any advice or views is greatly appreciated