@Scorpico
10 Years
Venus in Cancers!
Usually talking, gentleness, being super supportive and non threatening. This Venus requires a lot of TLC.
Depends on why they withdrew.
Genuine and heartfelt interest in understanding their stance. Gentleness and affection.
Push, prod, poke, have a general conflictual attitude of "can't you just get over it right now?", high pitched tone...see you later.
Posted by Nevermore
We will come out of it if you're stop showing that fork behind your back.
Got it lol
Easy.
You lure them out.
Place anything that is remotely sentimental and preferable dripping with romance / sugary sap (or at the very least, something handmade or meaningful to the both of you) at their emotional door.
In time, they will become somewhat curious, curious enough to peek on out to see what has been laid at their door.
If they do decide to take it in, let them mull over it.
They may shed a tear here or there and carefully place away your little gems of affection.
When they finally re-emerge, do not frighten or scare them, and most of all pretend as if you did nothing.
Also pretend as if you did not notice the emotional story played out on their face as they mulled over your gifts.
They will be grateful that you did not embarrass them for their overwhelmingly soft innards and sensitive emotions.
Push, and you will be denied.
It really is that simple.
Posted by Nevermore
We will come out of it if you're stop showing that fork behind your back.Also:
- Stop forcing us to come out
- Don't you be a insensitive dicks towards us
- If you don't fucking appreciated with our cares/homemade food/loves/nurturing you.. then I'm fucking out of here since you fucking hurt me.
- If you don't have fucking patience for us, then to fucking bad because we need someone to have time & patience with.
- Don't you fucking dare to screw us up since we will remember you forever and hate you to the gut.
Down boy!
I'm cool with patience and sensitivity and all that jazz…the flip flopping between being the needy child and the protective parent…I can roll with those punches. Maybe its because of their other placements, but the particular venus cancer I'm talking about is not just sulking and withdrawn (that I can handle with a little sweetness, and small inquiries about how you're doing throughout the day). This venus cancer is the cold, withdrawn, ambivalent type…its harder to be patient with that.
Posted by palehooves
tls that sounds too much like work. why can't i just club them over the head and drag them out? 😢
That method will not keep them around for long.
The very moment they regain consciousness and they are gone.
Do so, and you might as well gag them, tie them down, and strap them into a chair.
Posted by palehooves
tls that sounds too much like work. why can't i just club them over the head and drag them out? 😢
This!
- If you don't fucking appreciated with our cares/homemade food/loves/nurturing you.. then I'm fucking out of here since you fucking hurt me.
lmao, I can't even get started on how true this is. it's like spitting in my face and in the face of my entire family.
Posted by palehooves
tls that sounds too much like work. why can't i just club them over the head and drag them out? 😢This!
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They are of a particular flavour, it is not for everyone.
However, they will nurture you beyond what you could even imagine. They are very giving.
Not necessarily protective or mothering in nature, more of making sure you feel cared for, in the small things.
- If you don't fucking appreciated with our cares/homemade food/loves/nurturing you.. then I'm fucking out of here since you fucking hurt me.
lmao, I can't even get started on how true this is. it's like spitting in my face and in the face of my entire family.
so i take it the clubbing you over the head bit wouldn't work on you either?
damn crab venus bastards. *mumbles*
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Fun trivia fact: "baby seal" and "cancer venus" are synonyms.
So what kind of a monster would do that?
Unless...
^Yeah, I'm cool with that/
Posted by palehooves
tls that sounds too much like work. why can't i just club them over the head and drag them out? 😢This!
They are of a particular flavour, it is not for everyone.
However, they will nurture you beyond what you could even imagine. They are very giving.
Not necessarily protective or mothering in nature, more of making sure you feel cared for, in the small things.
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"Not necessarily protective or mothering in nature, more of making sure you feel cared for, in the small things."
This is totally true...
Posted by palehooves
cancer placements never have made me feel super cared for. that shit is a myth of epic proportions.
Its in the little things…
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
and most of all pretend as if you did nothing.
Unless that person has Aries Moon/Mars in which case...it just went from bad to worse if you go ahead and do that.
Posted by palehooves
cancer placements never have made me feel super cared for. that shit is a myth of epic proportions.
They probably made you feel so ever comfortable in the smallest of things, the little details that you would not notice the difference or what they have been doing for you all along, until they take it away from you and it is gone.
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
and most of all pretend as if you did nothing.Unless that person has Aries Moon/Mars in which case...it just went from bad to worse if you go ahead and do that.
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Hah, well the ones I know of do not have that combination and I only speak for that one placement asked. 😆
Posted by Scorpico
This venus cancer is the cold, withdrawn, ambivalent type…its harder to be patient with that.
I get you. That's not ok.
When I was a young baby seal I would sulk with the best of them.
What's wrong?
Nothing
No really.
Are you deaf?
Come on, it's obvious
NOTHING.IS.FUCKING.WRONG.GOT.IT?
...fuck that shit. It's unfair because it shuts all doors while totally dismissing you. I mean if we would sulk and have that be it..but no..it's sulking and then it's passive aggressive. Don't put up with this ridiculousness as in treat this immaturity with gloves or walk on egg shells.
My mother has a Cancer Venus too. She would master that sulking disapproving silence like it was nobody's business. Even breathing around her felt like a slight when she was in a mood.
I'm a Venus in cancer and I like to be nurtured and nurture others... Getting close to one... I say... Intimate dinners (romantic) we also like to be at home... Very domestic ... Or like to be around a homely like setting... If y'all like to hang out a lot in group settings that's a no... I prefer more intimate relationships over any casual js
Posted by Nevermore
We will come out of it if you're stop showing that fork behind your back.Also:
- Stop forcing us to come out
- Don't you be a insensitive dicks towards us
- If you don't fucking appreciated with our cares/homemade food/loves/nurturing you.. then I'm fucking out of here since you fucking hurt me.
- If you don't have fucking patience for us, then to fucking bad because we need someone to have time & patience with.
- Don't you fucking dare to screw us up since we will remember you forever and hate you to the gut.
Down boy!
I'm cool with patience and sensitivity and all that jazz…the flip flopping between being the needy child and the protective parent…I can roll with those punches. Maybe its because of their other placements, but the particular venus cancer I'm talking about is not just sulking and withdrawn (that I can handle with a little sweetness, and small inquiries about how you're doing throughout the day). This venus cancer is the cold, withdrawn, ambivalent type…its harder to be patient with that.
That means that poor Venus in Cancer has gone through shits & heartbroken (especially learned a hard lesson way). It really needs to have tons and tons of patience and trust. Plus, that Venus Cancer wants to get to know you before opening up. Unless he sees you that he might avoid with.
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I'm sorry can you rephrase that last sentence "Unless he sees you that he might avoid with." But…now that you mention it…"shits & heartbroken (especially learned a hard lesson way)" so fairly accurate.
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
and most of all pretend as if you did nothing.Unless that person has Aries Moon/Mars in which case...it just went from bad to worse if you go ahead and do that.
Hah, well the ones I know of do not have that combination and I only speak for that one placement asked. 😆
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I have both in my 4th house so....there's no escape 😆
Posted by Scorpico
This venus cancer is the cold, withdrawn, ambivalent type…its harder to be patient with that.What's wrong?
Nothing
No really.
Are you deaf?
Come on, it's obvious
NOTHING.IS.FUCKING.WRONG.GOT.IT?
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This conversation is sooo accurate
Posted by palehooves
damnata you're an aries moon and mars. how the hell do you keep them both happy with that crab venus of yours?seems like someones not gonna be happy.
Yeah, Moon square Venus, thanks God the Mars is justttt a bit out of orbs or it would be Venus square Mars too.
How do I deal? 28 years of experience lol. Also murder is illegal.
I can't use the Venus with my Sun because if I'd be hurt, I'd go all out with sarcastic remarks. But with my Moon...since they're both cardinal and I have that Moon/Mars...it will bypass my inclination to just sulk and not discuss things. I push myself through it, no matter how uncomfortable. That to me is good or otherwise I would explode on the first stranger that looks annoying to me in that mood.
"What's wrong with you, insane person?"
"Oh I just don't like your face. It is what it is"
But on the other hand, when I'm really really hurt I can't even utter a word. I just go and hide under a blanket or something and let it all wash away. That's when my Sun steps in to the tune of "It's better to do this than say some shit you don't mean. Just know it's an emotional moment, it will get better. Don't engage now or you'll be vicious about it". I go numb until I can put my thoughts in proper words/sentences. My end goal is to talk it out, not to keep pursuing conflict.
Lots and lots of affection and patience is key depends on what you did on how long it will take to emerge again good luck.
- If you don't fucking appreciated with our cares/homemade food/loves/nurturing you.. then I'm fucking out of here since you fucking hurt me.
lmao, I can't even get started on how true this is. it's like spitting in my face and in the face of my entire family.
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True. No appreciation for the homecooked meal I made you.. we might asf*kingwell be animals !
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Easy.You lure them out.
Place anything that is remotely sentimental and preferable dripping with romance / sugary sap (or at the very least, something handmade or meaningful to the both of you) at their emotional door.
In time, they will become somewhat curious, curious enough to peek on out to see what has been laid at their door.
If they do decide to take it in, let them mull over it.
They may shed a tear here or there and carefully place away your little gems of affection.
When they finally re-emerge, do not frighten or scare them, and most of all pretend as if you did nothing.
Also pretend as if you did not notice the emotional story played out on their face as they mulled over your gifts.
They will be grateful that you did not embarrass them for their overwhelmingly soft innards and sensitive emotions.
Push, and you will be denied.
It really is that simple.
No offence, but why do you talk like a robot?
i cant imagine somebody speaking this way in person.
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Wrong sign, that would my neighbours down the road. The Virgos. 😆
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How do you pull a withdrawn venus in cancer from their shell. What makes them comfortable enough to emerge?