We finally got back on good terms...

...And now he's lost interest...*sigh*

I can't even say what happened for sure. He was out of the country, and text'd me as soon as he was back, seemed pretty excited to meet and catch up soon,. Then it took him 2 weeks to find the time to come visit, and when he did he was acting really weird, then he suddenly had to leave....since then I've reached out a few times and he's responded but has had no interest in coming over...I've backed off completely now; at this point IDK if i'll hear from him again.. I just don't know about these cancers anymore...

What pisses me off so much is that casual relationships are supposed to be easy, and fun! But he plays mind games, and tries to manipulate me and string me along, which I just don't understand! But if I were to let him know that that's what I feel he's doing to me, suddenly I'm the bad guy and I've hurt his feelings...

Sorry this was more of a rant of frustration, since apparently I can't confront him, I need to vent to the internet!

@OP-Maybe he met someone else while away, and that's okay don't be another side line chick...Lol

It sucks to know you have an instant connection and when you are apart it should be you guys stronger but not.this case. It's better early on to spot red flags, waste time on someone that pushes and isn't ready. Good luck

I know we were never on a path to a relationship, which is why I find it frustrating that he bothered to want to get back with me at all, only to sideline me immediately after. And the fact that as a sag, I'm dying to confront him about it, but I know that would be a bad idea. At this point I'm starting to feel like a crazy person, always assuming the worst, but it's because he acts so bizarre sometimes!

I wondered if he had met someone, either while away or when he got back, but when he was here and acting weird I alluded to him meeting someone, and he denied it. Which I guess is not very credible coming from him...

It's fine, I'll get on with my life and put him, and this whole situation, down as a mystery I'll never solve.

Posted by thinktoomuch
Also: you´re saying this should just be a casual thing, but he´s making it complicated? I´m thinking that to him it is indeed very casual, as he doesn´t take your feeling sinto concideration. Which is agai why you are upset. Which is also why, you can not do a casual relationship with this man, as your feelings towards him are not casual at all. If you are doubting this, you can just re-read your OP.

I'm sorry if I'm not communicating this right, but I'm not here asking why he doesn't love me, or how I can get him to love me. I'm just trying to understand his actions. Am I not allowed to wonder why someone would treat me the way they do? I know I would never put so much effort into keeping someone in my life, only to lose interest in them immediately.

Motherfuckera better learn this is why we woman are single and hurt but will move on.. people make people change seriously.

Shelly, forget about him! I have a friend who does the same and it doeant help that hes a cancer too. I have numerous friends of the other sex but this man is a mystery which i dont want to solve any longer. Believe me you are tiring yourself trying to figure him out while there are plenty more people who would appreciate you better!