Need to vent, I'M SO DONE with my cancer man!!!!

For those of you who know my story, me still living with my ex, cancer man wanting marriage and baby with me, it's all been lies, it has to be. I just wanted to see what I wanted and make excuses for his sorry ass. He hardly initiates communication, has never taken me out on a date, never bought me anything, I haven't met any of his friends or family, but the straw that broke the camels back is that he NEVER has time for me!!!! I haven't seen him in over a week, yet he ALWAYS has time for his friends. He never invites me to come over on his weekends, even though i've asked him repeatedly if I could. The baby thing, all a ruse, his words mean shit because his actions don't reflect the so called "love" he has for me. I'm so angry and sad, how did I let myself get played so bad— Heartbroken Virgo. 😢

Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
He doesn't want you. It's clear that he's playing you for a dope because you're foolish enough to go along with it. Learn from this and move on.

Definitely. I knew this in my gut, all my friends told me that he was bad news, but I didn't want to listen. I chalked it up to him being sensitive, him needing space, him testing me, blah blah blah. I'm such a fucking moron.

I don't trust Cancer men in general. They can seem sweet but there seems to always be some hidden agenda behind it. I don't find many to be sincere at all. Of course not all, but the ones I've come across irl.

Posted by Koniucha
Don't be so hard on yourself. We all make mistakes. Learn and move on.

It's hard not to be. I knew deep down that something just wasn't right, but I chose to ignore all the signs. Lesson definitely learned. And I threw away a great relationship for him. My ex fiance and I were having problems, but maybe we could've worked things out if I hadn't been blinded by these man's lies.

Posted by Greentea
I don't trust Cancer men in general. They can seem sweet but there seems to always be some hidden agenda behind it. I don't find many to be sincere at all. Of course not all, but the ones I've come across irl.

I think I will have a hard time trusting ANY man from here on out. He said all the right things, was so charming, talked about having a future with me.... What a scumbag.

I'd trust a Sag before a Cancer man. It's the quiet ones who tell you all that you want to hear is who/what you need to worry about. Also the most insecure ones are the ones usually doing all the creepin. In my experience.

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Posted by Greentea
I don't trust Cancer men in general. They can seem sweet but there seems to always be some hidden agenda behind it. I don't find many to be sincere at all. Of course not all, but the ones I've come across irl.

Agreed. The one I know has a girlfriend but was flirting with me and telling me he isn't happy with his love life. As if!

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Wtf, i'm staying away from Cancer men from now on. First question out of my mouth if I meet a guy I like, " what's your sign?" lol!

If you think you deserve someone better ( and im pretty sure you do) just leave him and move on … i have a virgo friend i kind of look up to her … because of what I've seen in her … i mean she has a strong personality and so pretty … virgos are smart they can be anything they want …if he's not right for you just leave him …

Virgos are the best at decisions …

Plus cancer guys are kind of boring

Posted by Greentea
I'd trust a Sag before a Cancer man. It's the quiet ones who tell you all that you want to hear is who/what you need to worry about. Alps the most insecure ones are the ones usually doing all the creepin. In my experience.

He's both, he doesn't initiate communication with girls. And to think he said last time we were together that now we could focus on us, that's a laugh! So hardly seeing each other or talking is working on our relationship?! Fucker.

Posted by dreamsonhold
If you think you deserve someone better ( and im pretty sure you do) just leave him and move on … i have a virgo friend i kind of look up to her … because of what I've seen in her … i mean she has a strong personality and so pretty … virgos are smart they can be anything they want …if he's not right for you just leave him …

Virgos are the best at decisions …

I know what needs to be done, I just have a hard time letting go, especially if it's someone i'm in love with. And it's funny because if a friend were going through this situation, my advice would be to give his ass the boot like yesterday. Guess I don't like taking my own advice lol!

Posted by dreamsonhold
Plus cancer guys are kind of boring

He's definitely not, though he's a homebody like me, home is my sanctuary. He probably goes out every weekend, just not with me because i'm just a piece of ass to him.

Indeed, don't be so hard on yourself. Hearts and minds are often not in sync, and nobody likes to know the time and emotion they invested was poorly spent. Shady behaviour is shady behaviour and those that exhibit it should just left in their dark corners. Use the experience to grow.

Don't let him make a bad name for other Cancers, ok?

Posted by Crabra
Indeed, don't be so hard on yourself. Hearts and minds are often not in sync, and nobody likes to know the time and emotion they invested was poorly spent. Shady behaviour is shady behaviour and those that exhibit it should just left in their dark corners. Use the experience to grow.

Don't let him make a bad name for other Cancers, ok?

You warned me Crabra, I just didn't listen. I can't believe somebody could stoop that low just for sex, it really breaks my heart. He may at one point in time loved me, but knows now that he can't see himself being with me forever, and instead of letting me go, is being selfish and just using me for his own needs.

And I won't rule out Cancerians in the future, that was just my anger talking lol! I'll just be more wary, that's for sure.

Posted by MagicMona
another one bites the dust....

Lol, me or him?

Posted by VanillaExt
Has he tried to turn anything on you? Any signs of him getting vindictive that second you had enough?

I would be there with good comfort food if I could. But isn't the feeling of letting someone go like that sometimes relieving? Take this time to really focus on yourself. PM if you ever want to talk. 🙂

No, he's only given me the silent treatment when i've broken up with him in the past. He won't go there because I have some videos i'm sure he wouldn't want leaked if things went to shit. That also confuses me, why would he do that if he's playing me?

Unfortunately no relief at all for me because I wanted a future with this guy, he was my everything. He made me feel like I never have before.

And thank you, feel free to " follow" me!!!!

Posted by Pureserenity
I know how you're feeling. Sorry

Thank you so much! XO

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Posted by MagicMona
another one bites the dust....

Lol, me or him?

him, not you dear. i say that because i've read soooo many negative cancer posts lately. so add him to the pile.

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Oh ok lol! And I have too, but I stupidly justified his actions due to the fact that i'm still living with my ex and just thought that he's scared to fully commit to me until i'm out of the situation. Yes I can understand that, but he could still show me more love, even just a little bit.

Posted by Jkats
For those of you who know my story, me still living with my ex, cancer man wanting marriage and baby with me, it's all been lies, it has to be. I just wanted to see what I wanted and make excuses for his sorry ass. He hardly initiates communication, has never taken me out on a date, never bought me anything, I haven't met any of his friends or family, but the straw that broke the camels back is that he NEVER has time for me!!!! I haven't seen him in over a week, yet he ALWAYS has time for his friends. He never invites me to come over on his weekends, even though i've asked him repeatedly if I could. The baby thing, all a ruse, his words mean butter because his actions don't reflect the so called "love" he has for me. I'm so angry and sad, how did I let myself get played so bad— Heartbroken Virgo. 😢

We ALL make mistakes. Regardless of what the other idiots say on here no one is magically born knowing what to do ever second of everyday. No one is perfect. Anyone saying otherwise is a treetrunking liar and probably bitter about this because their stupid ass did something similar and instead of forgiving themselves like they should they come on here and berate other people about their life choices.

That being said you are HUMAN. And if you didn't make mistakes you would never learn or grow. And if you can not own up to and forgive your mistakes you will be forever insecure and ignorant. Forgive yourself boo. You fell in love you made mistakes. We all this < 3

Forgive yourself, learn from this, and move on.

I wish you all the best < 3

Just be smarter next time. Has nothing to do with signs never dated a cancer man though besides my father and we don't get along lol. But red flags r always there. When we get hurt we tend to blame the other person but not necessarily looking within ourselves to see what part we played? His actions told u what type of man he was and when he hurt u now its i wouldnt date cancer male or any man foe that matter whatever the case may be. Take it as a lesson and u will find better. Let these men prove their worthiness to u in their actions

Posted by dewiklaessen1991
If a guy wants you he'll make sure he'll get you my ex was still living with me when we broke up while I met my Saggitarius he wanted to beat him up called him a nerd because he was way more intellectual and deep and everything then him. He couldn't stand it he even said, if I can't have you nobody will.
He tried to commit suicide by strangling himself and saying if I can't be with you I wanna be with my grandpa.
(I know it sounds crazy) several attempts he also went walking with my dog and said I'm gonna jump on the road now with the dog.
He tried to strangle me and wanted to beat the Sh+t out of my Saggitarius but he just ignored it.
And a month after I had a relationship he got into one to trying to make me jealous Hahaha
But during those crazy moments my Saggitarius never left,he was there for me every step of the way.

Stick with the Sag. Trust me. I know what you're talking about. Nobody likes a manipulative, control freak.

Wow did y'all have sex? I do this all the time to women who i am just smashing .. But with someone I really like I be all shy lol

If they put it out there like that that's what they get !! Lol

Posted by Jay1112
Wow did y'all have sex? I do this all the time to women who i am just smashing .. But with someone I really like I be all shy lol

Yes, but not till a few months in of knowing each other. And you really tell girls you want to marry them and that you want them to have your baby?!

Posted by Jkats

And I threw away a great relationship for him. My ex fiance and I were having problems, but maybe we could've worked things out if I hadn't been blinded by these man's lies.

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Be real. You threw away your prior relationship for yourself and only yourself. And you've discovered the hard truth that the grass isn't always greener on the other side...

Yes I do all that .. And I don't know why and can not see myself with you at all.. Maybe for he attention

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And I threw away a great relationship for him. My ex fiance and I were having problems, but maybe we could've worked things out if I hadn't been blinded by these man's lies.

Be real. You threw away your prior relationship for yourself and only yourself. And you've discovered the hard truth that the grass isn't always greener on the other side...

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I can't say that I don't disagree, but there is more to the story than what I wrote. Though I did go about things the wrong way, but i've learned my lesson. I can't take back what I did, I can only move forwards.

Posted by Jay1112
Yes I do all that .. And I don't know why and can not see myself with you at all.. Maybe for he attention

Damn, thank you for being honest.

Np

Posted by Jay1112
Np

You are a Cancer?

Yes I am

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And I threw away a great relationship for him. My ex fiance and I were having problems, but maybe we could've worked things out if I hadn't been blinded by these man's lies.

Be real. You threw away your prior relationship for yourself and only yourself. And you've discovered the hard truth that the grass isn't always greener on the other side...

I can't say that I don't disagree, but there is more to the story than what I wrote. Though I did go about things the wrong way, but i've learned my lesson. I can't take back what I did, I can only move forwards.

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More to the story. Always girl.

Posted by Jay1112
Yes I am

Ok! So what do you make of him wanting to and purposely getting me prego? I'm not, I miscarried. The last time I talked to him he agreed it wasn't a good idea, though he was making it sound like it was because of me, because I was freaking out when I thought I was pregnant, which I think is a natural reaction when i'm not even "with" this dude.

I'm confused... This story has so many twists and turn...typical cancer problems... I will say that much