what makes you insecure how do you overcome it based on your sign?

We all have our issues. I noticed that im a very calm laid back sweet person whos 95 percent positive and grounded but sometimes when dating if im not getting the right attention or being treated right i get insecure. Not being appreciated no signs of affection or reciprocation. I just realized too that i have slight abandonment issues due to child hood growing up without a father. Being second best to my siblings no one acknowledge meet. Being abused by my grandmother. I feel only person who loved me and tried yo protect me was my mom. I got older and became a loner no friends barely. Only to attract relationships that didnt give a damn about me. I tried to fit in of course me being nice sweet ppl ran all over me. Being loyal allowed 2 abusive relationships...now dating someone now a libra who i do everything for doesnt treat me fair and i allow it. I feel ppl bring out your inner demons. Luckily for me i recognize it and i deserve real love because im a good person. I just realized i thought i deserved that due to my upbringing. I never been in love no one has cared but one day.

Sometimes in life i feel alot ppl issues on dxp and dating is deep rooted. You know u deserve better than that. If you have to question it then.....i think its fear of losing something or someone. Im just reading different posts and i can give great advice. But i know how it is to want someone to treat u right and they flake on u. Here it is u keep holding on.

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Beautiful one I know how you feel. It's hard especially with the abandonment issues I have them too. I dated a guy a while ago can't remember what sign. I gave so much to him for years and he then he cheated. Hurt me to my core now I see my sister going through her heart break and it makes me hurt all over again.

Behaviour from people I have let in that lead to me getting hurt becomes learned behaviour. Like getting burned by a hot stove. You know not all stoves will burn you, but now you are wary. Perfectly natural human response right? My issue and how it relates to my sign is that my mentality tells me that if I keep the stove around, it is only a matter of time before it burns me.

IOW, I get insecure just by letting someone near my heart. It's a fear, and I believe the only way to conquer it, is to face it. I have to let someone in, and can't continue to let every little thing force me to withdrawal.

@lovely77 You really will feel better when you drop that Libra, everyone has insecurities but it only magnifies when you deal with people who heighten your insecurities then you start making excuses for why you continue to allow them to treetrunk you over. No ones life is perfect and without challenges, it's all in how you deal with them and by no means should you continue to allow people in your life that bring out the worse in you.

Even if it means standing alone, I'd rather stand alone 24/7 than to have people around me who are secret enemies. Just like that Virgo chick I was associating with, I don't have time for users. If I have to tell you how to do your part in a friendship then why even bother having a friendship in the first place. If you have to constantly tell someone who you want to be treated while you're treating them like gold, it's not worth it to have them in your life.

You can't force someone to be what you want them to be and you certainly shouldn't continue to involve yourself with someone who clearly makes you unhappy and bring out the negative in you. We're both Crabs so we love helping and want to be appreciated however I've learned and grown into knowing not everyone will appreciate you and the second anyone starts mistaking my kindness for weakness, I cut them off. I don't have time for it. If you come back with some act right then I have no problem giving you another chance but you're not going to continue to get chances for the same screw ups. We can comprise and move forward or I'm moving on without you. Also people do not respect weakness, when they see they can walk over you and disrespect you, they no longer value and see you as an asset. So you're only around for their entertainment and I have far too much pride for that.

I deal with insecurities the same way I deal with all problems in life. I bear down, knuckle up and beat that motherfucker into submission. We all have the "demons" and traumas that have shaped us into who we are today, but we can control how it effects us. You control you, outside forces effect us, but we can control what it does to us.

The first thing you have to do is be in love with yourself. Fall in love with the person you are, if you aren't someone you would love then work on that. For many people they try to find strength in others. Being alone sucks and its the loneliness that drives us to those bad relationships. The solution is to be the person we deserve to be. Then we attract the people that we want, or at least more perceptive to the individuals with actual merit.

Well, I'm a Libra. I have insecurities...mostly having to do with weight. I overcome it by telling myself "I am in control of my OWN happiness and if I want to look and feel better, I have to do something about it." I also have to find things that work best for me as motivation because me being a Libra, I enjoy partnership and sometimes feel I have to have someone else to do this stuff with. I have to learn how to tackle these things on my own. I think a personal trainer would help me the most.

I am sorry you're dealing with someone who doesn't value you or bring out the worst in you. No matter the sign, you have to remove that type of negative energy from your life so that you can feel better.

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