When Cancers cause destruction and feel guilt....

What exactly do they do or say to make things right again with the person they hurt?

Do Cancers try to repair the relationship and keep the person in their lives, or do they feel guilty and stay quiet about it?

Posted by starlover

Posted by ScorpioFish
What exactly do they do or say to make things right again with the person they hurt?

Do Cancers try to repair the relationship and keep the person in their lives, or do they feel guilty and stay quiet about it?

I have known a few cancer women as friends...sadly i found that they had difficulty with saying sorry, but that is just my experience fishy ~~ they can be quite defensive when hurt 😢

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Yea, I am not a fan of people who hurt others and then refuse to fix it.

It's really messed up to behave like that, and a certain course to end up totally alone and/or miserable.

Well if I hurt someone or said something really stupid, I apologize. I usually feel really bad even after saying sorry. I don't know about the other Cancers, but this is how I am. I definitely own up to my mistakes. I really do hate drama, but sometimes it's hard to avoid. If any Cancer is mature & care a lot about your feelings, they will try to make things better.

Yeah im really starting to realize that Cancers if they dont have watery placements can be almost psychotic. Like Leo placements are just super rude (the ones I've been in contact with). I like the watery ones 🙂

My sister can be so abrasive too and just down right mean (she has some Leo placements). Her Capricorn husband is probably the only sign that is able to deal with her honestly.

And and apologizing im still waiting for that nasty grinch to say sorry to me (Cancer with Pisces moon but Leo placements). I think im going to be waiting a long time. It was his fault though.

@Xin lol you called that person a Grinch, wow 😄. I personally think it comes down to maturity at the end of the day. I have the watery placements, and an Aries Mars. I have Leo ascendant. But it mainly affected my appearance. If a person is mature, they'll own up to their mistakes, bottom line. Hopefully those Cancers will apologize to you. I'm glad you like us Cancers in general 🙂

I try not to hurt people. If I make a mistake or slip up and hurt someone's feelings I'm immediately on damage control because it was never my intention. I have to know about that though as most people. If I was treated wrong or hurt I'm pretty much in shock "wtf?" mode for a few days then that goes to "how dare that jerk!" to "if you really cared you wouldn't have blah blah so move on without saying a word." wall goes up and I move on with person on my "don't give an eff about anymore" list. That's if the other person doesn't try to resolve hurting me.

I think it has to do with the chemical balance of people more than when they were born though. Everybody is different some with a mental disorder.

Posted by djbuck1
Since no one is answering . . .

My experience with our fellow-Water sign has been that they withdraw and won't say anything until you "acknowledge" that whatever happened was also somehow, in some way, also your responsibility. At that point, they will engage and sort of apologize but with returns to your role/responsibility.

That, or they put the whole thing away and either carry on as before or you never hear from them again.

It's a good thing they're so endearing. Generally.

Maybe young or unevolved ones.
If I screw up, I own up to it without putting on someone else.

Exactly! @CancerOnTheCusp. I think those other Cancers are immature. I wouldn't say all Cancers are unapoligic or selfish. I think this has to do with the actual person than our sign. Maybe that person was selfish & inconsiderate. But all Cancers aren't like that

I would say my apologies with explanations. Make it up to them. Only silent when I'm the one hurt.

@aurora No, it don't suck to be a Cancer. If you got a good Soul, which you probably do; don't let anyone bad experience with our sign make you feel bad. I actually love being a Cancer. Even in the worst times. You should too, because every zodiac sign has their faults. At least we own up to ours 🙂

It really depends on the person and the circumstances. Cancers hate admitting they're wrong and fear romantic rejection more than anything else, generally speaking. So you might never get the apology owed from the Cancer girl. I'm sorry to say that but Cancer chicks aren't great at apologies or admitting their true feelings to others. Sad but true. What I can say is that if there is enough mutual attraction there, we wouldn't let you go after you declared your feelings for us. That's my biggest concern here. You can't walk away from true love. Especially a water sign.

Posted by djbuck1
Since no one is answering . . .

My experience with our fellow-Water sign has been that they withdraw and won't say anything until you "acknowledge" that whatever happened was also somehow, in some way, also your responsibility. At that point, they will engage and sort of apologize but with returns to your role/responsibility.

That, or they put the whole thing away and either carry on as before or you never hear from them again.

It's a good thing they're so endearing. Generally.

Djbuck is soooo insightful about the crabbies. Could agree more with his assessment if you bribed me.

Posted by Este8
It really depends on the person and the circumstances. Cancers hate admitting they're wrong and fear romantic rejection more than anything else, generally speaking. So you might never get the apology owed from the Cancer girl. I'm sorry to say that but Cancer chicks aren't great at apologies or admitting their true feelings to others. Sad but true. What I can say is that if there is enough mutual attraction there, we wouldn't let you go after you declared your feelings for us. That's my biggest concern here. You can't walk away from true love. Especially a water sign.

Hmmm....

(rubs chin)

We don't feel guilty because when we have reached a point where we do something that can be labeled as hurtful we mean it and that is usually the beginning of the end as well.