Will a cancer man EVER get over an ex?

I know a cancer guy (cancer moon, venus) + gemini sun I think. Now, I know that cancer is seen as the sign who take the longest to get over an ex but could it be that they never ever really get over it?

He was with her (long distance the whole time) for about 9 months. She left him and 2 years later, he's still as hung up over it, as ever before.
Including, visiting the city she is from, in Asia (she doesn't live there now) for the first time, mainly to reminisce about her (he had not been to asia before so of course there is the excitement of seeing a completely new place but to visit the exact city she is from and to put pictures of it on Facebook? Also, keeps close contact with all her best friends and makes friends with more of her friends, "likes" her picture on Valentine's day (post-breakup) and on several other occasions, openly admits he would take her back if she came back, pays money to take classes to learn her original language (no use for him really in terms of work, not a huge global language but one that keeps him close to her, in his mind), actively compares those who he is with, with her (either pointing out differences or similarities to her) and I think she may be engaged to someone else now (after all, it has been 2 years since the break up) and he has added her new finance/boyfriend immediately upon finding this out from social media.

He is hardly "new" in love, having had a few relationships beforehand (some lasting nearly a decade) but in each of these, he broke it off (probably his gemini commitment phone side) but this may be the only one where he broke it off..

Has nothing to do with me (as many of you will probably say) but I'm quite interested in psychology, astrology etc and find it difficult that someone can be this hung up on someone they were with for 9 months (even that, long distance).. I know time is not a measure of attachment and of course, certain break ups take long to get over, especially for a Cancer male, but THIS long? Quite intrigued someone could have such an effect on a person.

Thanks

It is really interesting. I too is interested in Psychology and Astronomy, anything about human behavior and characteristics. Some people will really surprise you (good or bad.)

Maybe there will always be a person to some that they can never tend to forget, and going to a place where that person is, is maybe a way for him to fully reconnect to a the person. Some people visits a place for a last goodbye as well. 🙂

Not a cancer sun so you should be asking on the Gemini post.

Gemini's love unrequited love!!

First, he's not a Cancer, he's a Gemini. Secondly, I don't think this has anything to do with his sign, but has to do with his seeming obsession with her. It's possible that the long distance relationship allowed him to build her up, and the relationship itself, to mythological proportions, when the reality is that it was just a long distance relationship, and not much more. She may have helped foster that in him, too. Either way, he put her on a pedestal and he's not wanting to let go of that. Maybe his fantasy version of the two of them is more attractive than reality, and maybe it's a safety net for him

Thank you for all your posts, everyone - all really helpful reasoning.
The reason why I describe him as a "cancer" rather than "gemini" is because he has both moon and venus in cancer and I feel that overall, his personality, actions, behaviour, etc seem to match a "typical cancer man" characteristics, in about 80% of situations.

Yes, he is quite lively and a has had commitment phobia (more stereotypically gemini traits), but on the whole, I think his moon and venus, describe him much better, especially with regards to personal relationships. I too, find that my moon sign seems to represent me much better than my sun sign, despite the sun sign regarded as the "main" thing in astrology, I think it does vary from person to person (for some, their sun sign may be more "visible" in them".

Any more comments, insight, etc are welcome.

Thank you so far
🙂

A long distance relationship is not even a Cancer thing, idolizing a person from LDR sounds even more ridiculous. He might be a Cancer emotionally, but he lacks the cautiousness of a typical cancer. My heart is too guarded to fall in love that easy and deeply. It's a gradual process, getting over an ex but it's never this slow..

Thanks, Namy for the helpful insight. That makes sense. Any other people (especially those with personal experience of such things) welcome.

This is a typical Gemini! Romanticism at it's strongest. Gemini Is hung up on the idea of what could've been and prefers the fantasy rather than reality of the situation. I know because I am a Gemini myself. I have also put my self in this situation and let me tell you- it can be self destructive and torture 😢 cancer guards their heart too cautiously, they do not fall so easily in love. When cancer does love, it is very incredible.

My Cancer had a really hard time letting go of the negative effects of a bad past relationship. Things that I thought were minor that his ex did were huge emotional deals for him. I think any deep emotions from the past, negative or positive remain with a Cancer. I don't think it's much to do with their exs themselves, its the imprint of emotions that linger.

Why did you bump this 2 year old thread lol

Did I? It was on my feed?! Haha