Cancer man is giving you the silent treatment? Why

I've heard that a lot of women confront with the silent treatment of a cancer man. I want to know what the causes are and how can I stop the silent treatment. How long they do this treatment and they do this to someone they love? If there are cancer guys please tell us, it would be more clear.

Question is why would you want to bother with someone who is so manipulative to someone that they love?

Second, you can look at them funny and you get the silent treatment. :/

thank your lucky stars he has stopped talking to you and go find greener pastures.

I don't know how to get him to stop

I'm a Cancer. Well I honestly don't like doing it, I guess it's a habit. I do it when I'm upset, going through a hard time, and I rather keep things to myself instead of taking it out on the other person. Like I'll be afraid I'll say something I'll regret. I did this with a libra in the past...and of course, she made me spit it out and I ended up upsetting her. So just one example why I would rather keep things to myself.
Now your Cancer could be upset with you, or upset about something else that's bothering him. I ask you be patient, keep a cool head and relax. Don't jump to any conclusions just yet. DO NOT CONTACT HIM first! Let him come to you. If he really cares about you, he'll contact you, especially if he sees you're having fun without him.

Doesn't matter what the sign: someone gives me silent treatment, I leave them alone. I will not reach out first at all. I won't ignore them back when they do reach out again (and they always do), but to me it's a sign of instability or an attempt to get some kind of control/power, and I'm definitely not interested in babying someone who can put on big boy pants and talk to me.

Just leave him alone, and stop worrying about why. If you know you didn't do anything to cause it, then it's his problem. He'll come around. Chilllll.

Sometimes cancers live a lot in their heads and fantasy so I think they don't mean to do it most of the time. I had to learn this.

@andrea13 - please do let us know when you find out. Currently its one of the biggest unsolved mysteries of the universe.
I am myself being subjected to this. I occasionally do write to him without expecting a response. And then continue with my life. I cannot wait around for him to grow up while there is so much going on in my life.

It's just a defense mechanism for me. Nothing to do with being in power. After witnessing my Dad(Sagittarius) yelling at my mother, or sister, or me when he blew his top and seeing them in tears while growing up I guess that kind of made me also go silent on people that I was frustrated with, rather than yell out anger and frustration with them. Think it's really ridiculous for everyone to say on here "oh he's being a baby and needs to grow up." I don't want to cause anymore friction than there already is so thats why I give people the silent treatment until I cool off.

@cancer2448 - you have every reason to go silent on someone who frustrates or angers you. I do that too as it is a more mature way to interact rather than lash out. I highly recommend it in volatile situations or for a short period to get your thoughts together. However, I have been subjected to silent treatment when he was angry or upset with someone else. The silent treatment when you have done no harm or just as a manipulative tactic is incorrect - for an extended period of time would be childish behavior. Do you agree?

Yeah I'll agree on that

The silent treatment for extended period of time is the most hurtful someone can do to another person it crushes your heart, the worst torture and acruelty you can do to someone who care about you... Being hurt and wanting to heal is ok but scratch someone from the phase of the earth without a chance for redemption is mean...

I'm currently there (done by a cancer) is been killing me inside like a bad cancer... But there's not anything I can possibly do... In those moments cancers are like a freaking iceberg cold, mean, they don't want hear, feel, think, or anything.

Im pisces with cancer in my chart i do silence treatment to people, but not for long to keep my feelings in line, to regain ground to get persepective ... And if i dont want them in my life anymore I'm simply told them, I'm polite and still talk to them when necessary....

Thank you all for replying! He doesen't talk to me for about 2 months after I send him this message: "You make fun of me! For you it's just a game. You deserve nothing from me." and he replayed to me immediately: "For how aggressive you are I won't talk to you for 2 months." I tried to contact him, message him but he doesen't answered. I left him alone and doesen't contact him for one month. 2 months have passed and i send him a message when I apologize him and explain to him that I understand his reaction and I'm not going anywhere with aggressiveness. He saw the message but i get no reply. 2 months have passed and he still doesen't talk to me... If he doesen't want me in his life why he can not just say to me...or he is confused about me... This questions are killing me inside...

^^ Stop taking his bull shit. How can you go through 1-2 months of silent treatment and then take back a guy?? If I were you, I would slap him if he comes back. Why do you put yourself at the receiving end like this? let him go. This is pathetic.

Oh Jesus Christ, he isn't "confused" about anything. Life is not like a Hollywood movie.

The guy is a manipulative asshole. You said something he doesn't like, so he's punishing you by ignoring you.

Move on. The dude's a loser.

Also, remember that someone who loves you wouldn't treat you like this. You're just playing beaten wife here.

Oh gosh I think we dating the same guy....oh gosh....same thing. Except I plan on starting a passionate affair with someone I have zero interest in on Friday. ...so when the months are up....and he comes back I can walk away