Will only time tell?

Hi to all. Iv posted on here twice before about the same man but it wasn't the whole situation & know I would like to share all. Back in January I met this cancer man I now know his moon is in capricorn. He was from a different city the city I originally came from what a coincidence as he was visiting the city in which I now live. We got along really well but I only saw him a few times he invited me to his city once I went & we had a great night out then after this I wanted to disclose to him that I have children as I didn't want to tell him in a txt message & we was gettin to know each other so I drove down to his city one night out of the blue I met him but he started tellin me about himself how he had just come out of prison he was very distraught so I thought know is not a good time to tell him. After this I gave him money he didn't ask I knew he was in financial trouble. We carried on talking for a few months I arranged to see him a few times so that I could be totally honest with him, when I went to his city he invited me to stay in his family home I refused as I knew there was a big major part of my life he didn't know about so out of respect for him I didn't go. As time went on I didn't get the chance to see him so eventually declared all in a tx message he was furious at first but I explained I had tried to tell him & that it why I made a 2 hr journey to his city that night. He seemed ok after a while. He then started a big argument with me over my sister as I made plans with him but later changed my mind as I was seeing my sister he wasn't happy but I explained to him that I didn't think he would mind & I was sorry, he was ok with after that he apologised & said he can be very cruel & evil when hurt, the day after he said he got into a fight with his neighbour as they were bad mouthing his mum as his parents were splot up & how his father walks in & out of their lives after this 3 days of total silence I tx him I don't do well with mind games & it was over no reply so 3 days after I txt again that I didn't mean what I said & missed him to this I got a response just a smiley face no words. I tx him again this morning & said I'm not afraid to tell you how I'm feeling this is driving me crazy & I miss you I almost feel like I'm bring punished for hurting you it has not been delivered yet. Any feedback much appreciated. Black Indian what do you make of all this? Please be honest I don't mind hearing the truth I feel realli bad X

Hi biker chick I know it sounds awfull but it has been good too he told me the thought of me keeps him going even though he has a funni of showing it since January we have tx everyday he invited me twice to his family home & I don't see it as charity god has given me a he outputs heart & if I can help some one I will if they have bad intentions then they will suffer he even said he didn't mind I had kids & he could not be there dad but would get to know them in time x

He doesn't want to settle down he told me he wants to take things slow he has been out of prison for just over a year he split up with his ex as she always accused him of cheated & flirted with other men in front of him. When I told him I have been in an abusive relationship he said his ex used to punch him & that he would never hit a woman but it did get me thinking I mean how weird I would never say to a man in the second meeting I'd never hit a man it's just not something normal to say he also said my ex knows how evil I am x

He does have a drinking problem he says he drinks to block everything out x

I don't think ill get pregnant I only slept with him once in march & I don't think ill hear off him again x

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I can't help who I've fallen for & I realli miss him x

I don't get that pictur mr crabby?? I was a victim of abuse it's very hard to admit he mentally n physically tprtured me fr years I finally found the courage to leave after he burnt my face n I realised the effect it was having on my children x

Maybe I jumped in to this too fast as I was emotionally insecure & loved the attention as sad as it sounds x

1 yr & 3 months iv joined support groups & have met other women in the same situation x

I joined a group & learned all about living with a dominator I know all the signs to look out for however with this man I jumped in too fast I don't think I'm weird I just think I'm very lost & crave emotional security I know my happiness is in my hands not his or any other mans x

I agree... Women who were abused are not so quick to trust people ...

That's very true for some women however abuse makes you emotionally insecure & when someone comes along being nice if your needy it's not hard to fall that x

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He does have a drinking problem he says he drinks to block everything out x

If he has a drinking problem, would you still want your kids around him?

A criminal record. He happens to be the same person when he entered jail and redoing his past mistakes. If he wanted to start a fresh beginning, he would know his drinking problem lead to consequences, because if he learned from them, he wouldn't repeat the same mistake after getting out of jail. He would prove himself by starting anew, instead, he's feeling guilt, shame, and remorse, leading him to drink, blocking everything out. He hasn't forgiven himself for his past mistakes - something you can't help or cure in his presence, he is on his own.

Think about the consequences thoroughly in the decisions you make, not only because it is you in this relationship, your kids are involved as they are family, they need to be protected and you are the only person who can provide them the safest route in any type of decision being made in the future for you and your kids.

You have in mind what is best for you and your family, prevent from falling towards becoming a victim where it landed you on this day.

Yes