Your heart is my pain

Hello crabs, just wondering how would you interpret or feel if someone told you that?

I would think that person had deep feelings for me, but something was preventing a relationship or moving froward in one, but def a deep concern for the other person's feelings. In what context was this said, because really there are many scenarios and knowing the back story would give a better understanding what was meant behind the words.

Long story short we dated for a year I moved 3hrs away. I called to wish his son a happy bday. He doesnt say thank you but ask what I'm doing I say listening to music he say what kind love songs I say no but since u said love can I have my heart back lol he says goodluck I said what you mean why can't I have it back I have to share it with other people he says their loss i say and your win he say no my pain and I play for keeps.

Posted by nonchalant2you
Long story short we dated for a year I moved 3hrs away. I called to wish his son a happy bday. He doesnt say thank you but ask what I'm doing I say listening to music he say what kind love songs I say no but since u said love can I have my heart back lol he says goodluck I said what you mean why can't I have it back I have to share it with other people he says their loss i say and your win he say no my pain and I play for keeps.

ok, yeah he still loves/has feelings for you :/ Sounds like you do too? he is a Cancer man? do you know his Venus? What sign are you?

Yes I do eventho I hate to admit it lol. He's a cancer, 0 degree sag moon, Venus & mars in Virgo. I'm cap sun cancer moon Venus in aqua Mars in sag.

Yes pretty much but we have communication issues

I see where you guys would have that connection, although the contrast in moon signs could be problem...what are your Mecury's in?

Mines in cap conjunct sun and saturn..his in leo conjunct saturn.

Man that is a very sweet line, because is a very strong statement about the level of care the other person have for you...

Communication issues mostly are based on fear and insecurities... Is easy say than done, but I recently come to the conclusion that it take one of the two parties to be willing and set the example for the other to start feeling comfortable enough to follow. it requires patience and also bit of tact and understanding specially dealing with someone who might be sensitive... if you manage to make a sensitive person to lose their fear to difficult conversations, after a while is just a smooth ride... is like training, and yes is sort of scary for us water signs. specially if we get butt hurt by something.

I was seen a cap guy for about two years, nothing formal more like FWB to put it in a certain way, but in order to keep thing between us healthy, I'm grateful that he trained me with patience to lose my fear to have "difficult" conversations, at first it was like tracking my words because my instinct is I don't like to be hurt so I don't hurt people with my words. but then he remain calmed, then when we recently decided to put an end on our FWB and go different path it was the most mature "break up" of my life, yeah it kind of felt weird after two years but I've appreciate the honesty and the time to let me know instead of simply disappear like most guys would probably do specially on something that wasn't serious... so communication is the best route...

im grateful he taught me that among so many other things 😉

When I try to communicate with him he doesn't want to so I take that as a sign to back off and give space. I just found it interesting for him to say that to me when he acts a certain way and I reflect it. I told him why do you hold onto the past so much let's move forward as friends (aqua venus). He said the connection we have won't let me be your friend. I took that as a nice rejection.

Posted by CluelessCancer
That's some poetic Crab sheet right there. No wonder ya'll throwing dRAWS at these cats.

Lol CC is that what it really is. Funny you say that tho cuz come to think of it we did use to write poems to each other. Deep down to be honest I think I was just a desire to him.

Posted by CluelessCancer
That's some poetic Crab sheet right there. No wonder ya'll throwing dRAWS at these cats.

Well im consider myself off that list... I have not found a cancer guy that makes me wet my panties sort to speak... No offence but too emotional and dramatic (yeah i said that) and ultra sensitive...

I need a man who can have a right balance of earthiness and understand emotions and a dash of passion...

Im personally more drawn to caps... But fucking assholes they are too much work... Takes a lifetime to get them to open up... nobody have time for that!

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Posted by CluelessCancer
That's some poetic Crab sheet right there. No wonder ya'll throwing dRAWS at these cats.

Well im consider myself off that list... I have not found a cancer guy that makes me wet my panties sort to speak... No offence but too emotional and dramatic (yeah i said that) and ultra sensitive...

I need a man who can have a right balance of earthiness and understand emotions and a dash of passion...

Im personally more drawn to caps... But fucking assholes they are too much work... Takes a lifetime to get them to open up... nobody have time for that!

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Have to be patient with us caps slow and steady lol once we do its forever

Posted by CluelessCancer
Writing poetry to one another. Very hot.

i think you need to stop belittling your experience.

Lol i cant help it it's the cap in me but I don't think I'm belittling it but then again maybe my perception is off.

I rarely get in touch with my emotions any being I have a 5th house moon opposing saturn so I'm only moved by music and movies that gets me all emotional other than that I'm cool calm and collected.

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Posted by CluelessCancer
That's some poetic Crab sheet right there. No wonder ya'll throwing dRAWS at these cats.

Well im consider myself off that list... I have not found a cancer guy that makes me wet my panties sort to speak... No offence but too emotional and dramatic (yeah i said that) and ultra sensitive...

I need a man who can have a right balance of earthiness and understand emotions and a dash of passion...

Im personally more drawn to caps... But fucking assholes they are too much work... Takes a lifetime to get them to open up... nobody have time for that!

Have to be patient with us caps slow and steady lol once we do its forever

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See i totally know that... But is like seating and waiting for the grass to grow... It can take years... Im patient but im not getting any yonger

Gosh, I feel disconnected from what is going on with you and this guy here...It sounds like he is telling you he has feelings for you, he wants to be with you and you say he is softly rejecting you? Am I missing something here? BTW your love styles (Venus) are completely opposite which is prob causing all this confusion as well...You are more like, "whatever" and this poor guy is serious and pouring his feelings out to you...

Posted by Moonbutter
Gosh, I feel disconnected from what is going on with you and this guy here...It sounds like he is telling you he has feelings for you, he wants to be with you and you say he is softly rejecting you? Am I missing something here? BTW your love styles (Venus) are completely opposite which is prob causing all this confusion as well...You are more like, "whatever" and this poor guy is serious and pouring his feelings out to you...

Moonbutter I asked him did he miss me he says I haven't thought about it. When I try to open up with him and express things he has absolutely nothing to say. He doesnt open up to me but wants me to so why should I then when I try you have nothing to say so I just stop completely. Idk what he wants I'm not a mind reader. I wish he would open up and just be straight forward instead of being hurt and not saying nothing or just one word answers.

You probably are right with my Venus in aqua I'm pretty detached lol I remember him telling me I was neglecting him and he wants me close. I told him it's easier being friends than lovers but he says we can't so all I could do I is accept that.

I understand nonchalant2you, however sometimes a guy will not say what he is feeling because ego/scared/etc so he may have just said that as a defense mechanism, because he feels you are not displaying your love for him in the way he can understand. But he really shouldn't have said that, I know that is hurtful :/

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Posted by Moonbutter
Gosh, I feel disconnected from what is going on with you and this guy here...It sounds like he is telling you he has feelings for you, he wants to be with you and you say he is softly rejecting you? Am I missing something here? BTW your love styles (Venus) are completely opposite which is prob causing all this confusion as well...You are more like, "whatever" and this poor guy is serious and pouring his feelings out to you...

Moonbutter I asked him did he miss me he says I haven't thought about it. When I try to open up with him and express things he has absolutely nothing to say. He doesnt open up to me but wants me to so why should I then when I try you have nothing to say so I just stop completely. Idk what he wants I'm not a mind reader. I wish he would open up and just be straight forward instead of being hurt and not saying nothing or just one word answers.

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Excuse my skepticism but one thing i have learn for being so close to a cancer is that when they say " i haven thought about it" bs they have and they have put a lot of thoughts into it... But they dont want to look like they have to avoid being vulnerable...

Sorry my bluntness... Bit typsy tonight (again)

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Posted by Moonbutter
Gosh, I feel disconnected from what is going on with you and this guy here...It sounds like he is telling you he has feelings for you, he wants to be with you and you say he is softly rejecting you? Am I missing something here? BTW your love styles (Venus) are completely opposite which is prob causing all this confusion as well...You are more like, "whatever" and this poor guy is serious and pouring his feelings out to you...

Moonbutter I asked him did he miss me he says I haven't thought about it. When I try to open up with him and express things he has absolutely nothing to say. He doesnt open up to me but wants me to so why should I then when I try you have nothing to say so I just stop completely. Idk what he wants I'm not a mind reader. I wish he would open up and just be straight forward instead of being hurt and not saying nothing or just one word answers.

Excuse my skepticism but one thing i have learn for being so close to a cancer is that when they say " i haven thought about it" bs they have and they have put a lot of thoughts into it... But they dont want to look like they have to avoid being vulnerable...

Sorry my bluntness... Bit typsy tonight (again)

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He probably really means he ain't think bout it. They are people that space out a lot they are like the loner zaney eccentric weirdos that fantasize about imaginary animals and theories or solutions all day that most think are players and obnoxious asses. Really they are just little cuddly kittens that want u to come out and play but won't come out from under the bed where it's hiding. OP HOW IS IT NOT OBVIOUS THAT HE LOVES YOU? What man says those things for no reason especially for a cancer one. U say he doesn't open up. Looking at your words he did open up in his own way and you slam out rejected him. That's why he gives one word answers and doesn't legit open up.

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Posted by Moonbutter
Gosh, I feel disconnected from what is going on with you and this guy here...It sounds like he is telling you he has feelings for you, he wants to be with you and you say he is softly rejecting you? Am I missing something here? BTW your love styles (Venus) are completely opposite which is prob causing all this confusion as well...You are more like, "whatever" and this poor guy is serious and pouring his feelings out to you...

Moonbutter I asked him did he miss me he says I haven't thought about it. When I try to open up with him and express things he has absolutely nothing to say. He doesnt open up to me but wants me to so why should I then when I try you have nothing to say so I just stop completely. Idk what he wants I'm not a mind reader. I wish he would open up and just be straight forward instead of being hurt and not saying nothing or just one word answers.

Excuse my skepticism but one thing i have learn for being so close to a cancer is that when they say " i haven thought about it" bs they have and they have put a lot of thoughts into it... But they dont want to look like they have to avoid being vulnerable...

Sorry my bluntness... Bit typsy tonight (again)

He probably really means he ain't think bout it. They are people that space out a lot they are like the loner zaney eccentric weirdos that fantasize about imaginary animals and theories or solutions all day that most think are players and obnoxious asses. Really they are just little cuddly kittens that want u to come out and play but won't come out from under the bed where it's hiding. OP HOW IS IT NOT OBVIOUS THAT HE LOVES YOU? What man says those things for no reason especially for a cancer one. U say he doesn't open up. Looking at your words he did open up in his own way and you slam out rejected him. That's why he gives one word answers and doesn't legit open up.

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Fine by me I'll accept the one word answers but I don't think I rejected him if anything he rejected me or to be fair I'll say we rejected each other. I told him this mo

I told him this morning I still care and love him no matter the distance between us. He didn't reply and I'm not surprised. Will I try to reach out again more than likely not.

Posted by nonchalant2you
I told him this morning I still care and love him no matter the distance between us. He didn't reply and I'm not surprised. Will I try to reach out again more than likely not.

You did that because you wanted him to know... not to get validation... unless you have a way to know that he already read it. if he did, well then that's it he knows now... he might or might not reply... thats what cancer do... and if they do reply they will do it on their own time... they are like little kids sometimes...

if you need an answer then ask him for one.

You could be right cc but what about the times I have tried to be there for him emotionally open and there for him is that not taken into consideration. I'm a cap sun it takes an awful lot (ego issues) for me to open up and express my emotions. I thought cancer moon and scorpio moon got along. I will say my cancer moon is kind of hurt lol

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You could be right cc but what about the times I have tried to be there for him emotionally open and there for him is that not taken into consideration. I'm a cap sun it takes an awful lot (ego issues) for me to open up and express my emotions. I thought cancer moon and scorpio moon got along. I will say my cancer moon is kind of hurt lol

Yeah exactly my thoughts... but they are like that, when hurt they just become blind and deft... they only think about their hurt feelings even if you are also hurt... they could only think about what you did wrong... and completely block all the rest even so you were mostly good with them and your relationship was pretty normal... Im telling you this because thats where I personally am with my BFF... I did something wrong... Ive apologized since minute one... and 9 months after she is still like we never meet... regardless all the things I did for her... i don't hold a grudge... one day I'm going to tell her this...

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They are selfish and very self centered to be honest in my opinion. You're right they don't see what they do to u to cause the reaction. All they see is themselves and how they feel. Then will try to manipulate u and do a guilt trip. They way or the highway and this cancer moon is on the highway lol

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You could be right cc but what about the times I have tried to be there for him emotionally open and there for him is that not taken into consideration. I'm a cap sun it takes an awful lot (ego issues) for me to open up and express my emotions. I thought cancer moon and scorpio moon got along. I will say my cancer moon is kind of hurt lol

Yeah exactly my thoughts... but they are like that, when hurt they just become blind and deft... they only think about their hurt feelings even if you are also hurt... they could only think about what you did wrong... and completely block all the rest even so you were mostly good with them and your relationship was pretty normal... Im telling you this because thats where I personally am with my BFF... I did something wrong... Ive apologized since minute one... and 9 months after she is still like we never meet... regardless all the things I did for her... i don't hold a grudge... one day I'm going to tell her this...

They are selfish and very self centered to be honest in my opinion. You're right they don't see what they do to u to cause the reaction. All they see is themselves and how they feel. Then will try to manipulate u and do a guilt trip. They way or the highway and this cancer moon is on the highway lol

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Yeah they TURN selfish mode when hurt...

ahhahaha so funny that you used that phrase... I got a flashback memory... i told my friend that during an argument.. she didn't took it too well.... but in their defense... their problem is that they are too hurt, they think that you don't care.. because you hurt them in the first place... but what Ive learn around here is people need to let them know... they might pretend like they don't give a fuck but they are listening... In my case, I've not have a direct heart to heart conversation with her... they need to see their behavior... to much hurt make them blind and deft to everything. Im now in a good place TG... maybe one of this days Ill pull her aside and have that talk... I guess after all this long... she had time to cool off a bit.