your point of view please!

Hi all, it is a pleasure to write here for the first time! I' d like to ask you your opinion about a long distance "kind of friendship" with a cancer man which started 2 years ago.
So, we met abroad as we both lived in a foreign country (and I am still living here). There was an instant connection and he started to invited me out, he asked me my number. We went out and he told me it was a pity he did not meet me before as he was living in some weeks going back to his country...also his mother was very sick and he wanted to spend time with her, that he already taken this decision and it was not easy for him
Also he told me "I do not want to start a long distance relationship as I do not believe in it. I had many walls in my face in the past because I tried it many times ( he traveled a lot), so he was very reluctant". I told him I m not scared to travel and I do move if I have a big love. We staid in contact via social media and after he lived the country and his mother unfortunately died.
We keep to stay in contact but with difficulties because what happened.
The contacts start to diminish as I did not want to disturb him and the few times we spoke I was initiating the conversations. He always was happy to write me back though. Eventually, after months I started to wonder about his interest because he was very passive even thought always asking me to go to visit him in his country.
I started to date someone and I was still thinking about him so, one day, I called him saying him everything and I finished the relationship with the other guy. He invited me in his country saying we meet as friends telling him not to have aspectations.
I visited him and found out he had a recent girlfriend. I got offended and after my holidays we stopped to talk.

3 Months later he contacted me saying the girlfriend left him, he was single and he told me he wanted to visit me. He told me he wanted just to talk to me and spend time with me.
He came. We spend some days together and we were very happy.
We agreed to see each other on July in my country again. Finally he did not come for money issues (which I believe it) but he told me at the last minute and I was angry at him. I found it not respectful especially because I was on holiday to my parents' home in my original country.

I wrote him his way to act was not correct. He started to tell me he was sorry and he did not like long distance communication. He told me to trust in myself and in God. He asked to meet h

He asked to meet him again.
It is like I do not trust him. I do not know what to do. I told him if he wants to be part of my life he has to be more constant and present in communication and show it with actions. Than, after this we could meet again. He told me he will and he understand me.
But, after 10 days he still has to contact me. Now I feel it is his turn to contact me and show me he cares.

Just I thank you who wants to give me his opinion! Sorry for the long message!

Cancer men are very physical people.They love cuddling,hugs,kissing(we all do) and it's actually hard to have a good relationship from a distance.Don't be upset with him,maybe there's stuff you don't know.Let the relationship grow by itself without thinking that much of every action or word.He obviously likes you so give it time.
Let the past in the past,boyfriends,girlfriends,the present is important and your desire to make things work.Just be you,cherish the good moments you two have and create new ones.Who said what,who did what,this are minor things Focus on happiness and how to turn things into something wonderful that could last a lifetime.
Cancer men need time,patience and lots of love.Be there and think of it as a "we" not as a "me" thing.Be open with him,loving and warm so he can feel comfortable to do the same.Don't expect things to happen,make them happen and make them great.In relationships it's not about who's turn it is to contact,who's turn it is to make the next move.It's about loving and giving without expectations.Best of luck to you!

thank you redladybug...but how can the relationship grow if he does not contact me?
I mean yes, I can do the first step but it is draining me doing it all the times.
Also I believe in balanced relationship which means give and receive

Cancer man can be exhausting I know.Takes him forever to open up and trust.Insecure,moody,shy,holds grudges but soft inside,kind and really good people.If you are not ready for a rollercoaster of emotions,if you are not patient or sure you want him back off.It will drain you out.They will not give anything until they are comfortable and 100% sure of how he feels or how you feel.It's a very long road ahead of you.You will feel like talking to walls sometimes.This is not a give and receive.It is give give give most of the times.Be kind to him,he is fighting battles.Emotional battles.Stick around but don't have expectations.They come and go driven by emotions,dark ones sometimes.Be there until he will be sure you are there to stay.No drama,no negativity,they have their own.You need to woo him...they are very insecure and fragile.Wear the pants or buy a baseball bat to kick his moody azz ƒ

Ahah! You made me laugh, thank you for you positivity!

I have been very very loyal and caring to him for 2 years.
I love him but I think I do not want this anymore. I do not deserve it.
We are mature, we are 36 and 42 ys old. Isn't that childish?
And also we live in different countries and speak English together which is not our main language. I mean, if I am still there for him after these difficulties is a big demonstration. And is he still insecure?

Think he is just not too involved and because his kind of "pathology" to keep people from his past he can not let me go. Until he find a better person?

That's why I said if you are not sure back off.Two years it's a long time.And you definitely deserve better.I am sure you are a beautiful woman so put your high hills,some lipstick and go out have fun.He will take forever to make up his mind.He is not your child to babysit him.Everybody makes mistakes,has troubles in life,but nobody deserves this rollercoaster of emotions.Live and be happy don't get stuck in this sloooow draining process.You can't fix him.I tried it to.It's a no win situation.He will come for you,be sure.They appreciate you when you are gone.Go out girl,laugh and be happy.Let him grow up and see what he missed.You are the prize not him.You are the princess not him

How true missgemini! My cancer friends is like that too!

He goes into a depression when his so-called friends treat him like a wanna-be. And he wants to cling to them desperate for their approval. It breaks my heart to see him running behind them but he will learn in time, hopefully.

If not, its no biggie.

Thanks so much you for you replies.
I was really disappointed so I decided to cut once for all.

I deleted his Skype contact and his telephone number. I am so hurt by this person.

Hope to meet a loyal and sincere man. He was not at the end of the day.

I wish all of you the same.