Being the voice of reason has its downfall

Sometimes being the voice of reason has it downfall. Being the one to rationalize i.e situations,statements ,problems at various angles. Accommodate everyone else's emotions and putting yours aside can be rather tiring and depressing at times.

Not everything in life can be taken at surface value. And thats me i look so deep into things and break them down, nothing is always as it seems or is stated maybe its my suspicion analyzing nature maybe but im rarely if ever wrong by thinking so ,

if i dont understand i will ask and not jump to conclusions and assumptions. Why can't others do ?


Meh maybe im just weird... end rant.

*Being the voice of reason* LMAO @ the pretentiousness

You take yourself way too seriously, textbook young cap female problem. You'll loosen up in a few years though, happens to most of you 🙂

Uh, Shaka..what Cappy done ticked you off recently?

If I offended you, then Im sorry Jhene.

Posted by lnana04
Uh, Shaka..what Cappy done ticked you off recently?

Haha, Im fine dont worry. Im pretty blunt but I mean no harm. I've read a few of her previous posts too and that's why I do believe she does take herself way too seriously for her age.

Plus come on..calling oneself *the voice of reason* at 23? Thats a pretty pretentious statement if you ask me, Im not calling her pretentious though.

being blunt doesn't affect me your stating your view and thats something i respect.


i state my post ranting yes but at the same time.


everyones feeling are true and valid. we all dont think or process information the same. but arnt we all worth the time to understand where each other is coming from in any context. if you dont understand something before getting offend or hurt why not ask to avoid misinterpretation?

instead of brooding and closing off about it? given you ask for the same to be done for you?

Posted by Ellybean
@shaka if its a young cap female sun thing I think it's just as much a young cancer moon thing. I've been prone to exact feelings in a similar fashion, though mine more so depth and feeling rather than reason, which I'd never use to describe myself lol.

@OP, everyone has their own way of processing events because of the chart they have been dealt. A lot of times if there aren't any around you that feel and think and move similarly to you, especially if it seems your way of working is against the majority at large, it can feel rather isolating. It may sound strange but I think the cure to such feelings and thoughts are to engage more with the very thing you feel isolates you. Every time I have done so it produced many revelations about myself and I learned to love and be closer with those very different from myself.

^ I understand that can't always work though. And if all has been done to explore thoroughly than perhaps a change of pace is the best remaining option.

thank you something to look into. why i love to ask and seek different areas to approach things. i speak up or just observe .

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
If I offended you, then Im sorry Jhene.

i actually over looked that statement without offense. your entitled to your views i accept the apology but it wasnt needed i understood what you were saying . But please dont be blinded by the notion of one's age seems alot people are on here and in the world. im far from an uptight person i used to be yes but not even close now ,everyone change/evolve more or so over time and some simple harden. im called the voice of reason by my friends why i used that title not being pretentious im just ranting a thought based upon multiple experience and i found thats a nice time based on my rant .i love to write and i love titles to capture essence of the body. I'm not coming from a area of taking myself too serious, being pretentious or pompous.

But im stating generally to individuals who consider themself as such how do they deal with the catering to others emotions and neglecting themselves.

yes alot of individuals will they there reasonable but if we are truly honest with ourself we can acknowledge to what extent. As individuals can lean to being more unreasonable than some. theres not much means to measure the level but im focusing on honest self reflection,

I dont think she meant it in a pompous or pretentious way. If you only read the title, yeah, it may seem so. If you actually read what she wrote, no, not at all. Shes saying her serious nature aka "father" has its setbacks and prevents her from relaxing as she always try to be considerate etc.

Indeed my instant LMAO reaction was purely linked to the title. Other than that, I know it sounded like I was being jugdemental but it actually fascinates me to no end to try to understand the thought process of someone who is so opposite to me, not saying that Im a completely unreasonable person, but I do believe too much of everything is detrimental to oneself, even when it comes to being considerate to other people..

Posted by lnana04
I dont think she meant it in a pompous or pretentious way. If you only read the title, yeah, it may seem so. If you actually read what she wrote, no, not at all. Shes saying her serious nature aka "father" has its setbacks and prevents her from relaxing as she always try to be considerate etc.

you get me thank you 🙂

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
Indeed my instant LMAO reaction was purely linked to the title. Other than that, I know it sounded like I was being jugdemental but it actually fascinates me to no end to try to understand the thought process of someone who is so opposite to me, not saying that Im a completely unreasonable person, but I do believe too much of everything is detrimental to oneself, even when it comes to being considerate to other people..

i do agree that too much of everything is detrimental but to what extend i.e how much do you extend yourself. to not being to accommodating while remaining open to understand someone thought process like you say opposite from yours ?

Jhene, I think I understand what you mean and I dont' think you take yourself too seriously. Caps are wired to be rational and analytical and our friends appreciate that. Just as we appreciate our friend's qualities that we don't have.

My friends are always telling me "I'm the voice of reason" and ask me to help them disect their problems. They say they can't always separate the emotion out and I do that so well (gee, thanks?) and can be objective. They also like that I can think from the other person's possible point of view and can offer them another perspective. I don't always tell them what they want to hear (like our sag friend does) and I lay out several options for them with each option having an angle of possible benefits and consequences. Of course, they get a disclaimer that it doesn't mean I'm right or even know what I'm talking about.

Also, sometimes, it gets old with everyone coming to you with issues/vents/problems/complaints and needing advice. Who am I to know what the right advice is? I'm just a sounding board to toss ideas/thoughts/feelings off of. I'm always afraid I'm going to steer someone wrong or that my thoughts on what to do that would be right for me, might not be right for them. And occasionally some of them get mad at me because I do tell them what they don't want to hear. I just tell them, you asked for my thoughts, those are my thoughts, at least appreciate I'm honest and didn't sugar coat anything.

i dont believe one should sugarcoat anything have a some tack in how you conduct yourself yes but never sugarcoat because in the end who is that going to benefit?


yea i guess we find away to be objective at times but its not that we are not in-tune with our emotions .But we are able to look at various angles of a situation and how it may differ to someone else.


awww @sangfroid

Yeaaaap!! *cracks knuckles* we capricorns set people straight ^_________^;;; Lol.

Being the sign of authority can be overwhelming sometimes... Though I couldn't live without this trait, I think of it as a perk, It makes us tough >🙂 Someone has to do this righteous job.

When I revisited this topic I tought immediatly of Nefer??s thread in Pisces forum, sometimes the "voice of reason" has to say to people: "dont talk, or talk in private".

Who has voice of reason has to be a diplomat at same time. Cap women use to have both.

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
*Being the voice of reason* LMAO @ the pretentiousness

You take yourself way too seriously, textbook young cap female problem. You'll loosen up in a few years though, happens to most of you 🙂

agrees as an older Cap😉

Posted by CapMusic
Yeah, screw capricorns!

LOL 😛 😛 awesome!

"When people laugh freely and often, they have accepted the imperfections of themselves and the world they live in. A more carefree life begins with the ability to laugh at your own imperfect self."

http://www.reellifewisdom.com/laughter_if_you_cant_laugh_at_yourself_lifes_gonna_seem_a_whole_lot_longer_than_you_like

I've gotten a lot sillier and funnier with age...

Gandolf, if you call me old, I'll beat you with a stick!!! 😛

my care meteor just go way down ... like meh such is life move on now lets have some fun.

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