Cap-Heavy Man - Should I hold out or leave?

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Hey Cappies (and Cappy lovers),

I'll try to keep this short. I met a Cap-heavy (Venus/Mars/Saturn/Uranus/Neptune) guy in one of my classes in college. I'm 22 and he's 27. I admitted I like him after classes ended, we went on one date-type thing, and then we ended up having sex...really good sex (and this is coming from a Scorpio Sun/Venus). For the record, he's a Pisces sun. I'm Cap rising. He would pay for the hotel room and it'd be hard to even get out to eat or go dancing. He claims he's too old to go out, but whatever. The sex is steamy as hell and we have a hard time keeping our hands to ourselves.

I want more, he doesn't. He says he's too busy. I'm free to see other people but he's not seeing other people. I cut things off the first time when I started dating somebody, and he let me go without saying anything at all, really. I ran into him last week, and we went out on Thursday once I was single (I invited him). The sexual energy is still there and he claims he still isn't seeing anybody else, even in the time we weren't speaking. He claims he's too busy for me, but made time to meet me for drinks and some dancing on Thursday and then for a brief dinner on Friday. He claims he has time for nothing else but sex (he works full-time and goes to school part-time).

His three main reasons are too busy, doesn't want to hurt me if we did date, and then scared of commitment. If it's relevant, his last serious girlfriend left him when he was going through a really, really bad rough patch. This was 1-2 years ago.

Am I wasting my time with this Pisces/Cap? I don't necessarily want a committed and time-consuming relationship, but unless it's sex, he doesn't want to spend time with me. I just want to know I'm more than a fuckbuddy.

All advice welcome, thanks y'all.
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Posted by lesenfantterribles
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Posted by yamilette7410
He would pay for the hotel room
— why yall fucking in hotel rooms??
Broke college students living at home with parents.
if you are broke, how the fuck are yall paying for hotel rooms—.... wtf is this logic... he is playing youuuuuuu



fuck in a car like normal broke ass people
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Caps don't go broke 😂
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Posted by greylatern
If you are OK with the setup why stop?

He does sound busy and getting his life together. Respect his honesty. That Libra moon wants more companionship. I understand.

He is telling you not to invest in him because he knows he can't invest the nessesary time and focus for a serious relationship. I understamd Caps and his logic is sound.To say he only wants sex is harsh unless you know for sure. He is just being a focused Capricorn and that part of his life he can't invest in atm. Don't burn the bridge he might surprise you later.
I have a 1st degree Pisces Moon, Sag Mars, and a Venus/Uranus contact. If anyone here should be flighty, it should actually be me. I blame my natal Venus Conjunct Pluto in Scorpio.

I just have a hard time believing he has time only for meeting up to have sex, I guess. I don't know that he just wants sex for sure. He and I get along and all that jazz.

And I mean...he cares. I told him I was having issues with nightmares and he dragged me out of the club ten minutes before the grocery store closed at midnight to buy a natural supplement that's supposed to help me with them. And he paid for it. And asked me how taking the medicine went.

Sigh.
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Posted by ellesbelles
Even a pisces with a shit ton of cap placements are not a cap.

You probably should have put this on the pisces board.
Thanks for the feedback on this. I guess I was thinking since it's about relationships/sex that Venus/Mars would have more influence than the sun sign, especially since there's a Cap stellium going on there.

I'll wait a few days and start a new thread over there. I know dxpnet is a lot of the same people and I don't want to flood the boards with my question/thoughts.
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Posted by UnicornSag
I was thinking the same, why would this be in Cap board, it belongs in Pisces board.

And I don't get it really, guy is clear about how he feels and what he wants. Either you accept it and enjoy what you have or move away if it doesn't fit you. You say you want to know you're more than a fuckbuddy but you're really not. And he's just being honest, he could also be dishonest and string you along, give you false hopes and excuses to keep you around just for the same reason. If it's good enjoy it if you can also be detached, if you can't just forget the whole thing
Again, sorry about posting it here. I'll move it to the Pisces board later.

And you're right - you kinda have to "trust." Wouldn't matter if it was committed or not, I could still be lied to.

Having natal Venus Conjunct Pluto in Scorpio is a 0/10 experience and I do not recommend.

Thanks for the feedback.
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Posted by Waterbearerwearer
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Posted by UnicornSag
I was thinking the same, why would this be in Cap board, it belongs in Pisces board.

And I don't get it really, guy is clear about how he feels and what he wants. Either you accept it and enjoy what you have or move away if it doesn't fit you. You say you want to know you're more than a fuckbuddy but you're really not. And he's just being honest, he could also be dishonest and string you along, give you false hopes and excuses to keep you around just for the same reason. If it's good enjoy it if you can also be detached, if you can't just forget the whole thing
Again, sorry about posting it here. I'll move it to the Pisces board later.

And you're right - you kinda have to "trust." Wouldn't matter if it was committed or not, I could still be lied to.

Having natal Venus Conjunct Pluto in Scorpio is a 0/10 experience and I do not recommend.

Thanks for the feedback.
Just go enjoy yourself and create possibilities that don’t hinge on what the fk he does.

I find men in general respond meaningfully to women who star in the main role of their lives and

Could.not.give.a.fk About bs men.

Bob Marley my astro twin Aqua with libra moon says it best

If she's amazing, she won't be easy. If she's easy, she won't be amazing. If she's worth it, you wont give up. If you give up, you're not worthy. ... Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for.

Don’t be easy for this guy but always enjoy yourself.
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The prophet is a Scorpio moon not Libra 🙂
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Posted by Waterbearerwearer
Posted by yamilette7410
Posted by UnicornSag
I was thinking the same, why would this be in Cap board, it belongs in Pisces board.

And I don't get it really, guy is clear about how he feels and what he wants. Either you accept it and enjoy what you have or move away if it doesn't fit you. You say you want to know you're more than a fuckbuddy but you're really not. And he's just being honest, he could also be dishonest and string you along, give you false hopes and excuses to keep you around just for the same reason. If it's good enjoy it if you can also be detached, if you can't just forget the whole thing
Again, sorry about posting it here. I'll move it to the Pisces board later.

And you're right - you kinda have to "trust." Wouldn't matter if it was committed or not, I could still be lied to.

Having natal Venus Conjunct Pluto in Scorpio is a 0/10 experience and I do not recommend.

Thanks for the feedback.
Just go enjoy yourself and create possibilities that don’t hinge on what the fk he does.

I find men in general respond meaningfully to women who star in the main role of their lives and

Could.not.give.a.fk About bs men.

Bob Marley my astro twin Aqua with libra moon says it best

If she's amazing, she won't be easy. If she's easy, she won't be amazing. If she's worth it, you wont give up. If you give up, you're not worthy. ... Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for.

Don’t be easy for this guy but always enjoy yourself.
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Love this 👌