Cap is mad at me again

Well here we go again. On my last night in Florida, Cap and one of his friends came out to have some drinks with me before I left. We got along fine that night because he was buzzed...he was relaxed and friendly. He ended up leaving first with his sister, leaving me to hang out with his friend. His friend tried to make out with me, so I sent Cap a text saying "You better come over here and chaperone your friend Ryan. He's trying to be a naughty boy. LOL" He never responded. The day before that, Cap had tried to fix me up with one of his friends, but I found out about it and told him not to try playing matchmaker for me because I am not interested in seeing anybody right now while I am focused on making this huge transition from the Midwest to Florida. He does have another friend who is a fellow graduate student at the university I will be attending, and this friend of his is HOTT!! This friend of his and I hung out together the first night I arrived in Florida last week. Nothing happened, we just went out with a group of people (Cap was not there), and then later on the two of us went off on our own to get something to eat and talk. Maybe it was the alcohol talking, but Cap's hot friend complimented my style of clothing, said I seemed like I had a good head on my shoulders, and even asked me if I had a boyfriend back home. He sent me a Facebook email on my way home telling me to come back and see him again sometime. Anyway, I'm sure Cap still thinks that I want him, so I thought it might make him feel more at ease if I told him that I had my eye on another guy or two. I told him I thought his friend was hot. He never responded, but I didn't think anything of that because I know how super busy he is right now with working double shifts and studying for midterms. Since he already tried to fix me up with one of his other friends, I figured he would probably say something to this guy too in order to help it along. I figured he probably WANTS to see me chase other guys instead of him. But now all of a sudden he is telling me to fuck off and lose his number. WTF?! I don't know what's up his ass again, but he does NOT need to take it out on me!! He's probably just pissy because he hasn't been laid in about 5 months (he's been complaining about that lately). I'm so sick of his mood swings; he's worse than me!! If he wants us to hate each other & feel awkward around each other after I move, then fine. That's his choice.

perhaps a girl cheated on him before and you remind him of her

Well he says that ALL of his exes have cheated on him, but I've only seen one or two of them and they look nothing like me. Lol

let him be ! he is not your man, you are not his girl; you live your life and let him live his, end of the story.

Shahbano, I'm not trying to be his girl. I just wanted us to be able to get along and be friendly to one another, but it seems that he's not mature enough to be capable of handling that.

Well there goes your closure finally.

He thinks you are manipulative and he's tired of your games. After all that drama, I would have asked you to lose my number too. Move on girl. Yall are not a good fit.

Well all I can say is that he came looking for me to hang out with me on my final night in FL, we all had a good time together, and now he is suddenly back to hating me again. I think something has set him off. Either it's all the stress he is under right now or he is mad at me for doing or saying something again that I am oblivious to.

MP for the sake of your own dignity and sanity, please erase this man from your mind. you too are not compatible in any way. he does try to behave decently but you hypersensitivity and extreme emotions put him on edge. do not put him through this, he deserves better, and do not put yourself through this ignominy either; a woman should put her self respected and esteem above everything,because eventually it's her self-esteem is the only thing that enables her to live with her head held high.
please do not degrade yourself.

Lol! Good plan.

Posted by MermaidPrincess
Well all I can say is that he came looking for me to hang out with me on my final night in FL, we all had a good time together, and now he is suddenly back to hating me again. I think something has set him off. Either it's all the stress he is under right now or he is mad at me for doing or saying something again that I am oblivious to.

Yep, ilyb, she won't accept the truth.

Uhh, I happen to think he's full of it as well.

Either way though, she wanted him to give her closure and he did. Time to move on.

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Posted by truecap
He thinks you are manipulative and he's tired of your games. After all that drama, I would have asked you to lose my number too. Move on girl. Yall are not a good fit.

she is she is a fish, emotional and manipulative like all water signs are, and when you tell them the truth they dont fucking like it. cappys speak the truth weather you like it or not. its always best but their stupid feelings get hurt

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Fish don't claim her, despite her misleading screen name. She's a Scorp. A very obsessed one. :/

Guys, you are giving this nut job wayyy too much credit by even believing one word she says. She was obviously trying to make the dude jealous. Who the hell can believe one thing she says about anything?

Uhhh, no I was NOT trying to make him jealous. I believe I explained this in my post. I thought it would help him feel more at ease if I let him know that I thought one of his friends was hot. He has been encouraging me to go out with one of them, so this is what I thought he wanted to hear. I assumed he would be GLAD to know that I has my eye on someone else since he clearly doesn't want me. But he's still pissed about something! He's also 28, not in his early 20's as someone said.

Ah hush it up sister.

If you're not going to contribute anything of intelligence, then butt out.

And as for me being a "nut job" who can't control myself, once again I held my cool today while he screamed at me. I knew he was being silly and contradicting himself by telling me not to talk to his friends after he introduced me to them and encouraged me to go out with one of them. So I just let it all slide over me. He's been a mess lately, stressed out about work & school and drinking heavily, so I don't let his moods get to me. The only reason why I blew up at him in the past is because I was going through a major depression and he was one of the people I took it out on. I'm not depressed anymore now all these good changes are coming my way, so I'm able to hold my own when he loses it. Btw, one of his female friends emailed me today and told me that his ups and downs are so bad that he seems bipolar sometimes. So I just pray for him and tell him I wish the best for him. That usually calms him down.

Nah my own underwear is pretty freakin hot looking. LOL

Wow, so not only do you hang with HIS friends when you are there, but you also talk to them when you are away about HIM? I could.not.deal. omg So I'm guessing this female friend of his just decided to email you about him out of the blue?

Why don't you just lose his number already? You've got what you asked for all this time. Closure.

Yes our mutual friends and I still talk. The reason why his female friend told me about his mood swings was because I was telling her about his latest 180. She agreed and said he acts bipolar sometimes. So I'm glad it's not just me who sees this. As for his hot friend, a girl all the way from Michigan is hitting on him hot and heavy, so I might as well back off and let her have him. I won't win even though he's been flirting with me too.

Your mutual friends? I thought they were his friends that he introduced you too. So again, you talk to his friends about him?

Go for the friend! Since when are you actually willing to give up what you "want?" As persistent as you are?? LoL

Lnana I don't think I can beat out this girl. She's way better looking than me, even if she does live all the way across the country. And even though this other guy has been flirting with me at the same time, I just have a feeling I'm gonna lose. Oh and to add insult to injury, she's one of Cap's long ago ex-girlfriends. Grrrrr!! I just can't win...

In other words too, he's a no good friend.

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Lnana I don't think I can beat out this girl. She's way better looking than me, even if she does live all the way across the country. And even though this other guy has been flirting with me at the same time, I just have a feeling I'm gonna lose. Oh and to add insult to injury, she's one of Cap's long ago ex-girlfriends. Grrrrr!! I just can't win...

have mercy on him and just leave him and his friends and his exes alone, do not try to make him glad or something,just stay away for him. try to make yourself happy, try to keep your entity and integrity intact, that is more important and consequently more rewarding.

Make some new friends! I think you've worn out your welcome with him and his friends. Not to be harsh, but you don't get the message everyone is trying to tell you.

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Posted by MermaidPrincess
Uhhh, no I was NOT trying to make him jealous. I believe I explained this in my post. I thought it would help him feel more at ease if I let him know that I thought one of his friends was hot. He has been encouraging me to go out with one of them, so this is what I thought he wanted to hear. I assumed he would be GLAD to know that I has my eye on someone else since he clearly doesn't want me. But he's still pissed about something! He's also 28, not in his early 20's as someone said.

Are you really this stupid to think that he'd be glad? What the f*ck is wrong with you? You need to get your shit together before talking to ANY man.

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Uhhh YEAH I did think he would be glad to hear that I was interested in someone else, since he clearly doesn't want me to be interested in HIM. He encouraged me to go out with one of his former co-workers and I took his advice. However, I'm finding it would be a lot easier for me to catch a man's attention down there without Cap's long-lost whore of an ex stepping on my toes at every turn. She's got about 1,000 friends on Facebook and everytime I strike up a conversation with a guy online, she's always right there on my heels cooing and leaving flirty comments to the guy. What, is one man not enough for her?? Out of nowhere yesterday, this girl suddenly emails me to tell me that she wants one of the guys I was talking to for herself. Then she starts telling me all these sordid details about her past relationship with Cap...how they were engaged long ago and how she cheated on him and got pregnant by one of his friends...as if I want to know about this shit!! So Cap told her to leave me alone and stop talking to me. I was gonna back of from pursuing this hottie fellow grad student at school since she told me she wants him for herself, but now I think I'm gonna take lnana's advice...I'm going to continue being friendly and spending casual time with him. We are in Florida and this skank lives all the way up in Michigan now. I don't see how she and my hottie grad school friend have any shot at a relationship other than a fling. They've never even met in person yet and he just now added her as a friend on Facebook last week. So I'm gonna hold my own and let this girl chase him and show him her deck of cards

Posted by Notunemotionaljustlogical8
Look mp, This cap probably thinks you're low for going after people he's friends with. Seriously, just meet new people!

I just said, everytime I strike up a conversation with a guy--even if it's someone Cap does not know--this bitch rears her head and butts in to flirt. It's getting real irritating and making it hard for me to start something new with anyone. She strikes me as the type of girl who thrives on male attention, and it's no wonder Cap dumped her and refuses to have anything to do with her. Eventually she might have to be put in her place, because what she does is shady and immature. She doesn't even live anywhere near Florida anymore, so I don't know why she's trying to chase men down there. At least I'll be living there in a few months.

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Look mp, This cap probably thinks you're low for going after people he's friends with. Seriously, just meet new people!

I just said, everytime I strike up a conversation with a guy--even if it's someone Cap does not know--this bitch rears her head and butts in to flirt. It's getting real irritating and making it hard for me to start something new with anyone. She strikes me as the type of girl who thrives on male attention, and it's no wonder Cap dumped her and refuses to have anything to do with her. Eventually she might have to be put in her place, because what she does is shady and immature. She doesn't even live anywhere near Florida anymore, so I don't know why she's trying to chase men down there. At least I'll be living there in a few months.

Who cares what she does woman! If the guys you are talking to are falling for her crap then drop them and find yourself a guy who won't go for someone like her. And why is she even in your life? Next time she talks to you just block and remove her. Stop being concerned with what she's doing and start by taking care of yourself. She has her faults but then again so do you.

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Agreed! I always believe that if a guy interested in you, he will find a way to be closed to you. If he isnt, it's time to move on.
I'm sorry MP, from all your posting, my conclusin is like this;

- You like him very much and its hurt your pride a lot when he ignored you. and when he starting to engage with you again, you feel like, Yes! I won. He did miss me. Unfortunately, I think the guy is just using you as a rebound girl to forget his ex. So, just forget anything about him immediately, including his ex.

If you wish to still be friend with him or his ex, please.. dont ever think what he think or what he feel about you. Just be yourself and do your everyday routine without him or she effecting you. If one of his guy friend is interested in you, just go on. No need to think about his feeling. He already miss his chances to get you. Enyoy your life to the fullest MP!

That just my advise. Many love from Pisces :-)

LoL, ilyb stays ticking someone off smh.

MP, you can probably getting some free lithium at the same public clinic where you get your birth control meds, right?

ilyb's words did not affect me. I know they're untrue.. but he's entitled to his opinion. Makes no difference to me if one thinks ALL water signs (or any other group) are manipulative (or anything else).. I know plenty who don't/aren't.

*shrug*

I only answered him at all to correct his assumption that she's a Pisces.. her being Scorpio is a fact easily conveyed to another. I have no problem presenting known facts to correct someone's erroneous conclusion.

However, convincing someone to change their opinion on something is an exercise in futility.. and I don't engage in those. People's opinions are pretty concrete -- until experience teaches them otherwise. So here's to hoping he someday meets a better class of Waters.. they're out there waiting ^_^

Ah come on. Not all are the same. I hate manipulators, but caps can be as well...I genuinly trusted this guy, all he said, spilled out his emotions for me. When I finally opened up he withdrew making dumb execuses. I felt insulted n dumped him quickly. Right after I found out hes manipulating several other girls the same way, he doesnt know what he wants. That cap seemed so pure its creepy. Im virgo n IM brutally honest, no games I dumped tht dumb goat. But caps (none goats)i know have been sweet n honest.

I do not doubt that Cap used me and another girl as a rebound; that's becoming quite clear. However the girl I am referring to is someone he dated MANY years ago that he has nothing to do with anymore. I have never met this girl & she has no business contacting me about him or any other guy; they dated 6 years ago. I had been talking to different guys on Facebook, including a hottie who goes to the same school as I do. And I noticed that this girl was always on my heels, cooing & flirting with every guy whose page I left a comment on. Then she suddenly sent me a friend request yesterday, which really weirded me out. Then she send me a message asking me not to talk to several of these men because she wants them for herself. Haha! Then when she saw pics of Cap & I on my profile, she suddenly starts sharing all these sordid details of their long ago relationship that I did NOT want to know about. It was almost as if she was trying to rub it in my face or something. So I told Cap about it and he threatened her to stop talking to me & causing drama. I blocked her on FB today. She just gave off a real shady vibe like she was up to something sneaky. Anyway, I am not talking to Cap much at all anymore because I realized that he needs some time to adjust to the fact of me moving to his area in 5 months. I'm not worried about us being enemies anymore, because he has shown that when he is around me in person he is cool with speaking to me & having a good time with me in public. So I think he will relax and we will have no problem being civil to each other if I leave him be for several months. He needs time & space to adjust to this big upcoming change. And Sarah00, I agree with you, if this weird girl is just a boy-crazy bimbo like she looks & sounds, then the boys will have their fun with her & drop her after she gives it up. So if she tries to grab anymore men that I'm trying to get to know, I'll sit back & let her give it her best shot. 🙂

There are plenty of hot fish in the sea in south Florida, and I just need to keep my cool and stop viewing attention-whore bimbos like this girl as a threat and instead just relax and let them do their thing...because in the end they will not beat out a respectable woman who uses her brain. I just have to remember that these are the girls that guys chase for awhile until they get what they want from them and then they turn back to the Good Woman. Of course we all know that Scorpios can get mighty threatened and jealous, so this will be a challenge for me!! :-)

The games people play and misconstrued truths they lead themselves to believe *smh*

This is my chart. And yes, I do need to learn to relax and not let weird people get under my skin so easily. I should have laughed off this girl instead of letting her irritate me.

Sun - Scorpio
Moon - Virgo
Mercury - Scorpio
Venus - Libra
Mars - Sagittarius
Jupiter - Libra
Saturn - Libra
Uranus - Scorpio
Neptune - Sagittarius
Pluto - Libra
Chiron - Taurus
Node - Leo ??
Ascendant - Leo ?? ??
Midheaven - Taurus

Posted by ShahBano
let him be ! he is not your man, you are not his girl; you live your life and let him live his, end of the story.

exactly. stop circling him like a hungry needy shark. he's fed up with you and was just being polite to hook you up with some people. you need to really let go of this guy. he's not into you. let me say this again: HE IS NOT INTO YOU. why chase him and even try to be friendly? you are showing yourself like a doormat to wipe his shoes on to him.

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let him be ! he is not your man, you are not his girl; you live your life and let him live his, end of the story.

exactly. stop circling him like a hungry needy shark. he's fed up with you and was just being polite to hook you up with some people. you need to really let go of this guy. he's not into you. let me say this again: HE IS NOT INTO YOU. why chase him and even try to be friendly? you are showing yourself like a doormat to wipe his shoes on to him.

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Sigh... Did you not just read the last several posts I wrote about how I've been trying to chat up other men?? Getting kinda tired of repeating myself over and over...

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let him be ! he is not your man, you are not his girl; you live your life and let him live his, end of the story.

exactly. stop circling him like a hungry needy shark. he's fed up with you and was just being polite to hook you up with some people. you need to really let go of this guy. he's not into you. let me say this again: HE IS NOT INTO YOU. why chase him and even try to be friendly? you are showing yourself like a doormat to wipe his shoes on to him.

Sigh... Did you not just read the last several posts I wrote about how I've been trying to chat up other men?? Getting kinda tired of repeating myself over and over...

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And there ya go, seems like you are done here. Keep pushing forward and no looking back! You also should probably post on the Scorpio boards from time to time. Doesn't seem that you've given them a visit.

The guy needs to let you go, why would he even consider hooking you up to his friend if it werent to see what you would do? and how you really are? He needs to let go and leave you be to get on with your life and him his. Then again you knew this and this is why you say you dont wish to see him again coz of what he has done to you, you clicked onto what he is doing and now that you dont want any part of it he calling the shots of playing victim, blaming you for everything he has done to you by twisting it and telling himself and others that it was you that is the desperate one etcetc, anything to get you back to him when all you want is time to yourself and to be by yourself to sort yourself out and wish ppl would understand this and let you go to do this.

Yeh sounds exactly like what I am going thru, I hope that in my case that he realises I need my time alone by myself to sort myself out so I can then get on with life. I want him to realise that he has inspired me to get on with life and thats why I want to be by myself to sort myself and get on with it. I could never have done this if he didnt come into my life and because he has come into my life and made me realise that, its now up to me to get on with it. I am working on this and other things too while I do this I want to be alone and by myself so i can concentrate to do this. Its like going into hibernation to sort out whats going on in me. I need this to get on with my life and need him to let go of me and get on with his life instead of doing what he has and still does do to me.

This post will stop it. Let me go and live your own life and make the most of it and wish you all the best.

Posted by Capriquoise
The guy needs to let you go, why would he even consider hooking you up to his friend if it werent to see what you would do? and how you really are?.

this is the biggest BS I read in a while. never heard of a guy setting up a chick with someone else to see how she is. gawd!

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The guy needs to let you go, why would he even consider hooking you up to his friend if it werent to see what you would do? and how you really are?.

this is the biggest BS I read in a while. never heard of a guy setting up a chick with someone else to see how she is. gawd!

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Just because you've never heard of it doesn't mean that it wouldn't happen.

This is along the lines of how some can think. A test, so to speak. I'm all too familiar and it's why I say he's full of it.

Personally, I'm not so quick to judge him, I think she has led herself down a path that is not reality and what we are reading is only those pieces and parts she wants us to see OR that which she see/believes herself (as you know, this type of thing happens all the time!).

I agree with lildol.

MermaidPrincess, if I may, you have a prob with letting people go. This is a typicl behaviour of someone with probs in childhood; someone who never got enough love. If you looked into yourself and tried to understand instead of constantly attempting to steal some love from people this might be the best thing you can do for yourself.

MermaidPrincess, if I may, you have a prob with letting people go. This is a typicl behaviour of someone with probs in childhood; someone who never got enough love. If you looked into yourself and tried to understand instead of constantly attempting to steal some love from people this might be the best thing you can do for yourself.

MermaidPrincess, if I may, you have a prob with letting people go. This is a typicl behaviour of someone with probs in childhood; someone who never got enough love. If you looked into yourself and tried to understand instead of constantly attempting to steal some love from people this might be the best thing you can do for yourself.

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Posted by Capriquoise
The guy needs to let you go, why would he even consider hooking you up to his friend if it werent to see what you would do? and how you really are?.

this is the biggest BS I read in a while. never heard of a guy setting up a chick with someone else to see how she is. gawd!

Plus it's the other way around in regards to letting go. Also MP, can you say you are any better or worse than this other girl doing the facebook thing ?

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Well I can honestly say I haven't ever contacted any of his ex-girlfriends like she is. She dated him over 4 years ago and is still whining about him. I don't know this girl at all and don't want her speaking to me. I may have a hard time letting someone go, but I have NEVER held onto someone for 4 years or more. I have always found someone else within that time frame and moved on. And to whoever said Cap fixed me up with one of his friends as a "test", I don't know about that. The guy he fixed me up with isn't someone I'm really interested in, so nothing much has happened. I still talk to the guy through Facebook every once in awhile, but that's about it. Nothing bad has happened or anything.