Cap moon men slow to commit to marriage?

I've been dating my cap sun cap moon man for a year, he says he's not ready to get married right now even after 2 years he doesn't know. He said he's serious though & he's not stringing me along & he loves me.

My scorp moon is having a very hard time handling this as I do want to marry him, I really love him.

How long do cap sun cap moon take on all this?

you are probably not his ideal mate but you are going to have to show him youre worth his trouble and remove any doubts about you he may have.

whats his mars and venus?

and what's your mars and venus? and Jupiter too.

His Venus is Scorpio and his Mars is Pisces

My Venus is Aries and my Mars is Pisces, Jupiter is Virgo.



It hurts I'm not his ideal.

His Jupiter is Pisces

Marriage is a big decision. After a year, he's probably ready to start considering it. Then the idea has to sink in. Then he's got to plan and think out all the details. Caps are slow.

He lowes you. You love him. That's all that matters. Marriage will come in its own sweet time. If you love each other, then there's really no big hurry.

Don't pressure him and definitely don't give an ultimatum.

I've been with my aqua for 3 1/2 years. He is aqua, but he has cap venus and Pisces mars. He's just now talking about marriage. Found out tonight all the things he's been thinking about, getting all the details worked out in his head before he wanted to mention it. Who knows how long this process has been taking place in silence.

Research shows that couples who are together 2-4 years tend to have more successful marriages. I think it's because they take the time to really get to know each other, thus no surprises after the wedding.

Sure, there are also instances where the length of time doesn't matter and there have been successful marriages with couples who are together shorter periods of time, but taking time makes sense to me.

I have capricorn moon and many other capricorn placements IMO if he said he loves you then there is no point in forcing him to get married now. Trust him when he says he loves you and if you love him too then whats the point in rushing into marriage. He might have some carrier related problems he might have some carrier related plans or goals or some kind of financial problems, you can have a heart to heart discussion with him about what is holding him back. I would suggest you that if you love him truly just hang in there and he will be your's forever. He seems worth your wait. Good Luck 🙂

He said he's unsure about me right now so he doesn't know.

Also there's more...
He was engaged previously, the girl left him & it seems like even after a year of us dating he's still not over her as if he's waiting for her to come around still. I've asked him about it & he said no but he still looks her up. It devastates me.

I find Aries females to be too prideful at times to admit their true feelings. Ive been madly in love with people and I wont take to the next level with them because my feelings arent reciprocated like I feel they should be. I think its hard between an Aries and a Cap because we have our shields up all the time waiting for a blow that never comes.

dont take the ideal comment to heart. I just mean that it will take a lot of work for the both of you to see eye to eye.

my mom is an aries and cap moon. When she commits, its a done deal.

Thank you Laidback cap for your responses, i did take it to heart a little only because you're not the first to tell me that unfortunately.
I've told him my feelings & boy are they deep! Just seems like I do show my feelings to him, he doesn't so I get confused. I got him to open up a little bit the other night but didn't last long. He said by the end of the next year we should be ready now he's not sure at all.
He comes home & is always on his phone like a robot. I get blocked out. If I say or do anything besides that even I don't get much of a facial response, a slight smile at the most. he is a man of few words, really.

Maybe its time to put your foot down and say you need time apart? Seems like my dad didnt get in line with my mom until she made it clear that she was the one for him or nothing. Just my 2 cents.

Ugh I've already tried that numerous of times. He won't let me have time apart. The most us been 2 days. He has abandonment issues & he needs someone that doesn't do that to him. But that's the thing, no body realizes what they have until it's gone. He just won't let me get up & walk alway. He says if that's the case it's over for real. It's also what I think made him even more uneasy about it thinking I would do that to him if we were married, which of course I wouldn't. Marriage is more of a commitment. I don't find relationships much value honestly because yes anybody can get up & leave & change there mind in an instant.

Call his bluff and walk away. Thats all I can think of that might fix this if it can be saved. If you call him on his crap, I think he will be more responsive to you. I hope he comes around somehow. Seems like you really love him.

I tried walking away but apparently that's a big no no in our relationship because now he brings it up a lot that I've done it too much now so I think that made him uneasy about the topic as well. I hope he sees how much I love him.

He's just not over his first loves & it's already been a year. I'm the complete opposite of her everyone says. She treated him so poorly.

You've done what so many other women have done, hell including me before I married, I'd show my hand and with a Cap (an Alpha male) type of Cap he will string you along because he's quite sure he has the upper hand in the situation/relationship.

This has turned into a Mexican standoff and unfortunately for you--you will not win.

He know you won't walk away after 2 years of giving him your all and therefore he has no reason to hurry nor to rush to marry you. Also he's getting the milk and the cow for free and on top of that he's demonstrated he's not emotionally attached to you which gives him the sheer will to stick his hooves in the ground and not budge in moving the relationship forward.

You have demonstrated you're so in love with him that you'll not only sit there and wait but you'll also shirk your own needs, wants, desires, boundaries out the window just to have him and once a man (and even the good ones will behave this way) he see he can have you the way he wants to have you he will lose respect for you and take you for granted and once a Cap lose respect it's pretty much all downhill, it's stalled. Also his attracted goes into a steep decline.

No man truly wants a woman who will allow herself to be in a powerless position, especially a Cap, you have to dig deep and show your inner strength as in "I love you but I won't be your fool." That will grab his attention quickly and could inspire him to get to chasing again, he'll fall into marriage with you effortlessly if he know he doesn't have you 100% or he'll save you the headache of trying to convince him you are the one for him by leaving you b/c he know he'll never commit.

At this point you know what you want and you know what he wants so now you have decide if you're going to move forward in this powerless position or you leave him, friend zone him and move on to someone who desires to be the man you need and want, to be your dream man, this current man is not it. It's a matter of can you live with that.

You are not powerless in this situation but you'll have dig deep by no longer showing your hand and leaving him and not returning to him until he can put a ring on it. Don't let your fear of losing him keep you stuck. Be fearless! He'll love and respect you for it even if he whines and moans about you leaving--let him--the more he whines the more attached he'll become b/c he's actually FEELING his emotions for you which is plus for you. Hit his heart and he'll moan inside for you, that's what you need, you need him to moan--so he can actually FEEL his true feelings for you which can propel things to move forward.

Also you can keep him as a friend as you move on without him, be kind to him, stop discussing the relationship if he tries to discuss it with you, go slow, and slower until he's the one pressing for things to move ahead and you'll find you've done virtually NOTHING to get the ball rolling b/c men (especially the good ones) cannot and will not be talked into marriage nor will they be talked into moving forward, you move forward without him and then he'll naturally catch up with you without you lifting a finger or he'll fade out into the background as to make room for another man to take you and if he allow another man to take you he never truly wanted you in the first place.

Don't settle. Women who settle reek of desperation. Women who settle are unattractive and men won't settle with her. Women who settle and don't know their worth put themselves in this icky powerless positions that will repel a good man away from her.

When a man see a woman settling it turns him off and he may remain in connection with her b/c it's convenient and the sex is plentiful and doled out on the regular but he always seems to be looking for a way out by ignoring her and by being passive aggressive as in I want you when I want you but when I don't want you I need you to get lost and let me be kind of energy he sends out to her.

Right now you're settling and you're in a bad position because you have no bargaining power and you're on the losing end of the situation with him. An Alpha male Cap will keep you there if you allow him to so at this point in the relationship you'll either use your inner female strength or you'll wither away and allow him to keep calling the shots and stringing you along with the whole next year I'll be ready BS.

You can wait but there is a 99.99999% chance he won't be ready next year and he won't marry you but he'll say what is needed to keep you sitting their waiting and that's a big ego boost to know that he can wield so much power over a woman that she'll wait and wait and wait. He win You lose.

So he's not going to want to get married?

OP, maybe you want to get married, because you think about his previous fiance all the time (I think more then him) and for him committing to marriage would mean a validation, that he is no longer "waiting" for her

which is not a good reason for getting married.....

I know you love him and would like to marry him anyway, but if you would take out the ex from the equation, would you be so in hurry to marry him, or you would allow time to this happen?

How long he had been with his ex? And how long after they break up you started dating and living together?

You don´t need to leave him, just focus a bit on something else and try to change, don´t pressure for marriage. People saying you are not his "ideal" may be right or may be wrong, but I know for sure, you can become his ideal, but you have to change your attitude and focus on you, not him and his ex........ don´t do any harsh "ultimatum" kind of thing, just slowly change your attitude and stop thinking about his ex all the time and comparing yourself with her!!

you are an unique person, focus on your best qualities, you can capture the heart of your man, just be more yourself