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Capricorn and marriage
Yeah, I agree with Foxglove.
P.S.
I would LOVE to elope to Vegas for the next go round!
Just sayin'. 😉
P.S.
I would LOVE to elope to Vegas for the next go round!
Just sayin'. 😉
I typed a response to this yesterday that didnt seem to go thru, but to me he sounds inconsiderate. Since when is it the guys idea where he wants to get married lol?
If he wants to know how you feel about marriage I personally think he should ask. Honestly though, it comes across as he is ready to get married, wants to do it in Vegas, and he's asking is you rolling or not?! smh
If he wants to know how you feel about marriage I personally think he should ask. Honestly though, it comes across as he is ready to get married, wants to do it in Vegas, and he's asking is you rolling or not?! smh
maybe this is his way of throwing it out there, but horrible job.
it also could be a little manipulative lol. An attempt to get you to yay or nay it. If yay, he'll probably say lets do it. If nay, and not Vegas, where? You say where, and he say lets do it. Bottom line he seems ready.
I think he wants to know if you are.
it also could be a little manipulative lol. An attempt to get you to yay or nay it. If yay, he'll probably say lets do it. If nay, and not Vegas, where? You say where, and he say lets do it. Bottom line he seems ready.
I think he wants to know if you are.
Posted by EusiveSoulllPosted by FoxGlove
The Cap men -- they can be about as subtle as a ton of bricks,sometimes....
lolol
Btw, TC.. when (note I did not say if 😉 )the occasion takes place, I'm inviting myself to the after-party 😄click to expand
Come on girlfriend!!
*wishing we had a "like" button*
Posted by truecap
Yeah, I agree with Foxglove.
P.S.
I would LOVE to elope to Vegas for the next go round!
Just sayin'. 😉
me too. I always say that. totally!
Wahoo!
someone likes to take control 🙂 express what you are feeling, don't hold back, no use
WOW! Okay, just back online now and seeing the responses.
Thanks to everyone taking the time to answer, you all got what I was trying to say so I 'preciate that very much.
Love the positive replies- it's good to know it's not all just in my head lol...
So one at a time- Foxglove, great, you're basically saying take this at face value and he is putting it out there? He is down with eloping I can tell.. it doesn't seem to bother him at all whether friends and family are present (this possible with a Cap or just an individual thing I wonder)? And spot on about the lack of subtlety, I mean, he thinks he's being down low sometimes and I just think to myself how transparent hehehe
Truecap, is it a Cap thing to go for an unconventional event? First time around or is it second go that's the winner?
Inana, I agree with your take on his approach. Bit roughshod I'm thinking and lacking in romance... Also putting the cart before the horse... I thought a normal approach would be to suggest the main event ie. marriage first and then the venue etc... It seems a roundabout/ manipulative way of bringing it up to me?
But, on that note it is difficult and a big step I suppose... and yes, now that I have been forced to consider this I think we have very different ideas about what we want in a wedding.
Aquapisces, are you saying control is a typical Cap male trait and if so the best way for me to clear this up would be to ask him straight out next time he drops one of these hints?
Once again, thanks I feel much better for having read these replies. :-)
Thanks to everyone taking the time to answer, you all got what I was trying to say so I 'preciate that very much.
Love the positive replies- it's good to know it's not all just in my head lol...
So one at a time- Foxglove, great, you're basically saying take this at face value and he is putting it out there? He is down with eloping I can tell.. it doesn't seem to bother him at all whether friends and family are present (this possible with a Cap or just an individual thing I wonder)? And spot on about the lack of subtlety, I mean, he thinks he's being down low sometimes and I just think to myself how transparent hehehe
Truecap, is it a Cap thing to go for an unconventional event? First time around or is it second go that's the winner?
Inana, I agree with your take on his approach. Bit roughshod I'm thinking and lacking in romance... Also putting the cart before the horse... I thought a normal approach would be to suggest the main event ie. marriage first and then the venue etc... It seems a roundabout/ manipulative way of bringing it up to me?
But, on that note it is difficult and a big step I suppose... and yes, now that I have been forced to consider this I think we have very different ideas about what we want in a wedding.
Aquapisces, are you saying control is a typical Cap male trait and if so the best way for me to clear this up would be to ask him straight out next time he drops one of these hints?
Once again, thanks I feel much better for having read these replies. :-)
"So, Cappy and I have been in a stable, happy relationship for nearly two years now.
We spoke around when we first met about our ideas on marriage etc both agreed we want kids but marriage not so much a deal-breaker either way.
Anyway, long story short recently many times Cappy talks about how he would really like to get married in Vegas that 'if he did' he would do the whole Vegas elopement and honeymoon sort of thing."
I think most Caps are traditional. I personally would not have had children if I was not married. He may say kids, but not marriage so much, but I think for me, anyway, they go hand in hand. If I am going to have a child with you, I'm going to marry you.
However, I would not marry someone if I became pregnant first, just for the sake of being married, kwim?
As for going to Vegas, it appeals to me for the second go-round. For the first, I did not want a big, traditional wedding. I wanted a small gathering of close friends and family members, but my ex's mother would not go for that, so I did not get it. Instead I ended up inviting 150 people.
It appeals to me to go to Vegas, or have a smaller wedding for a lot of reasons:
1) I hate to be the center of attention.
2) I feel uncomfortable around people I don't know so well.
3) Big weddings are expensive, I would have a lot more fun spending the money on a trip to Vegas, than watching everyone and their brother drink their faces off and also having to pay for it.
4) I am very cautious and seldom do anything crazy, and it would just be fun!
We spoke around when we first met about our ideas on marriage etc both agreed we want kids but marriage not so much a deal-breaker either way.
Anyway, long story short recently many times Cappy talks about how he would really like to get married in Vegas that 'if he did' he would do the whole Vegas elopement and honeymoon sort of thing."
I think most Caps are traditional. I personally would not have had children if I was not married. He may say kids, but not marriage so much, but I think for me, anyway, they go hand in hand. If I am going to have a child with you, I'm going to marry you.
However, I would not marry someone if I became pregnant first, just for the sake of being married, kwim?
As for going to Vegas, it appeals to me for the second go-round. For the first, I did not want a big, traditional wedding. I wanted a small gathering of close friends and family members, but my ex's mother would not go for that, so I did not get it. Instead I ended up inviting 150 people.
It appeals to me to go to Vegas, or have a smaller wedding for a lot of reasons:
1) I hate to be the center of attention.
2) I feel uncomfortable around people I don't know so well.
3) Big weddings are expensive, I would have a lot more fun spending the money on a trip to Vegas, than watching everyone and their brother drink their faces off and also having to pay for it.
4) I am very cautious and seldom do anything crazy, and it would just be fun!
Capgirl, thanks for contributing and breaking it down for me.. I like that.
I agree, rumour on the airwaves etc is Cappy and traditional go hand in hand a lot. With some quirks thrown in to keep it interesting.
The children/ marriage thing may just be his hang up... or it may have been his way of keeping distance in the beginning of our relationship (in case I was a nutjob man-crazy lady looking to tie him down asap).
He hasn't beaten around the bush about children since we have started living together - straight in my eyes direct communication quote unquote- We will have kids! One day!
I too believe pregnant does not equal marriage for the mere sake of it either though.
The four reasons you listed are very familiar to me- my Cap almost verbatim lol
I agree, rumour on the airwaves etc is Cappy and traditional go hand in hand a lot. With some quirks thrown in to keep it interesting.
The children/ marriage thing may just be his hang up... or it may have been his way of keeping distance in the beginning of our relationship (in case I was a nutjob man-crazy lady looking to tie him down asap).
He hasn't beaten around the bush about children since we have started living together - straight in my eyes direct communication quote unquote- We will have kids! One day!
I too believe pregnant does not equal marriage for the mere sake of it either though.
The four reasons you listed are very familiar to me- my Cap almost verbatim lol
"Truecap, is it a Cap thing to go for an unconventional event? First time around or is it second go that's the winner?"
Really, caps are pretty traditional, but we do like it to be special. For me it would be second go around. So what's the point of spending all that money "again" on a traditional wedding, when you could take that money and make a fun trip out of it? Same difference expense-wise.
Really, caps are pretty traditional, but we do like it to be special. For me it would be second go around. So what's the point of spending all that money "again" on a traditional wedding, when you could take that money and make a fun trip out of it? Same difference expense-wise.
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