Girly21
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Capricorn guy so moody, selfish and complicated
His act of refusing to give you his address makes him seem very suspicious. You really need some more time to access his true feelings. If he isn't ready to make any commitment then there is no point in going to his country to meet him. You need some more time and if he wishes to meet you in the mean time then for you to be on the safe side, he should come to your country to meet you.
Posted by anna1
His act of refusing to give you his address makes him seem very suspicious. You really need some more time to access his true feelings. If he isn't ready to make any commitment then there is no point in going to his country to meet him. You need some more time and if he wishes to meet you in the mean time then for you to be on the safe side, he should come to your country to meet you.
I dont wanna go to his country n waste my time if he is not completely ready to take things on the next level (from just frienship ). He wants me to visit him he says and tell me that he would show me around, introduce me to his friends, take me out to this and that resturants for candle light dinner, he even told me that he has downloaded my fav classic movies so that when im there we can watch it together.. Go out clubbing. He tells me that he already has made plan for us in his "to-do list". It sounds kinda sweet and romantic, but when i ask him about his address he eludes my question. Then he gets all cold with his behaviour.. If he really wants me to come there then wats his problem in giving me his personel detail?? Even whatever his traits that i mentioned above like playing hot and cold. Giving me mixed signals. 50% unsure about getting into a relationship with me. He sometime tests my honesty also by asking me questions.
My question is that is he worth waiting for this guy? Im always there for him as a friend, he also gets depressed sometimes from his job but i always compliment him for his dedication n hardwork or try to make him laugh by telling him funny stories. His texts me everyday but his attitude n mixed signals hurts me but still i put a fake smile and acting like everything is normal. Coz i dont want to make him run away with too many emotions, i hide em..
I really dont know what how to keep on going with this guy. I feel like im an option for passing his time or im a entertainer.
I think you expected way too much too soon. Maybe after meeting up, he just didn't feel the chemistry. No fault of his that he doesn't feel it. The lack of contact is very telling. Your expectations of marriage (after only TALKING for six months and only meeting him ONCE) is very telling. I don't blame him for not giving you his address - he barely knows you.
Maybe he lives with someone?
Posted by truecap
I think you expected way too much too soon. Maybe after meeting up, he just didn't feel the chemistry. No fault of his that he doesn't feel it. The lack of contact is very telling. Your expectations of marriage (after only TALKING for six months and only meeting him ONCE) is very telling. I don't blame him for not giving you his address - he barely knows you.
First of all i dont mean of getting "married" when i use the word propose.. Sorry for my english but what i meant was taking things to the next level which is ( from JUST good friends to Girlfriend and boyfriend ) .. He is not ready to get into that kinda relationship thats what i mean. And the reasons for that is i have already mentioned above. His broken heart from the past relationship, and the long distance that we have is hard to maintain a relationship.
Ok fine if u say that i expected too much.. I accept the fact that i got my hopes high for this guy. And this is because he treats me more than a friend. He had his own subtle ways of showing or telling me. Sometimes he directly says surprising things which makes me happy. Treats me like his girl.. Tests my honesty and patients. Everytime when he is tired or depressed he always says this "send me ur picture, i want to feel u closer to me, cheer me up".. Then again he gets cold n weird after sometime or few days.
U say that he didnt feel the chemistry.. Ok. If this is the fact then he could've just stopped contacting me. If the lack of chemistry is the case then why does he always acts like he needs to talk to me everyday? Why does he text me?
If a guy is talking to me for six months and wants to get to know me more by calling me to his country n spend time with me there. Dont i have the right to ask him about his personel detail? NoBody is stupid enough to go all the way from one continent to another to meet a person without having his proper details.
From my side.. Im calm, patient, tolerating his mood swings, when he texts me i show my importance but i dont play hard to get or play mind games like he does. Im straightforward in my case which he compliments sometimes that he likes my "talk to the point" kinda character. I dont beat around the bushes like he does. I have told him that i like him but can wait for him when he is ready to start a relationship. I alway treat him like a friend and care for him. I dont push him
He does what he wants to do.. I treat him like a friend and cares about him as well. Is it not enough for proving my patients and gaining his trust? And he lives with his mom and younger brother. Feels like im wasting my time after this capricorn guy and his mixed signals and writing post about him trying to figure him out by asking peoples opinion. Anyways. Thanx for the comment. Im a taurus by the way.
Posted by tripleCapPosted by Girly21
I met this cappy guy on tinder 6months back. We both live in different countries. He asked me to come down to his country. We met for lunch and spent whole day.
Will he ever propose me? Or is he just playing with my feelings by not commiting? Is it safe to travel to his city alone? I see that he never cares about my feelings. I feel skeptical and dont feel secure coz he dont expresses his feelings. He wants me to visit his city but when ever i want his address he never give me that. Will it be safe to travel there alone as i have met him only once,
Wow... you spent 1 whole day with him,
he refuses to give you his address and
you expect a marriage proposal? o_O
Are you a Cancer?click to expand
Wow yall have no respect for crabs do you?
Posted by Girly21Posted by truecap
I think you expected way too much too soon. Maybe after meeting up, he just didn't feel the chemistry. No fault of his that he doesn't feel it. The lack of contact is very telling. Your expectations of marriage (after only TALKING for six months and only meeting him ONCE) is very telling. I don't blame him for not giving you his address - he barely knows you.click to expand
First of all i dont mean of getting "married" when i use the word propose.. Sorry for my english but what i meant was taking things to the next level which is ( from JUST good friends to Girlfriend and boyfriend ) .. He is not ready to get into that kinda relationship thats what i mean. And the reasons for that is i have already mentioned above. His broken heart from the past relationship, and the long distance that we have is hard to maintain a relationship.
Ok fine if u say that i expected too much.. I accept the fact that i got my hopes high for this guy. And this is because he treats me more than a friend. He had his own subtle ways of showing or telling me. Sometimes he directly says surprising things which makes me happy. Treats me like his girl.. Tests my honesty and patients. Everytime when he is tired or depressed he always says this "send me ur picture, i want to feel u closer to me, cheer me up".. Then again he gets cold n weird after sometime or few days.
U say that he didnt feel the chemistry.. Ok. If this is the fact then he could've just stopped contacting me. If the lack of chemistry is the case then why does he always acts like he needs to talk to me everyday? Why does he text me?
If a guy is talking to me for six months and wants to get to know me more by calling me to his country n spend time with me there. Dont i have the right to ask him about his personel detail? NoBody is stupid enough to go all the way from one continent to another to meet a person without having his proper details.
From my side.. Im calm, patient, tolerating his mood swings, when he texts me i show my importance but i dont play hard to get or play mind games like he does. Im straightforward in my case which he compliments sometimes that he likes my "talk to the point" kinda character. I dont beat around the bushes like he does. I have told him that i like him but can wait for him when he is
Dang! Cut me off
Thanks for clarifying your meaning of propose...I thought you were looking for marriage.
Just keep in mind when a guy says he's not ready for a relationship, believe it and don't waste too much time on him. He'll just string you along. Sometimes waiting works, sometimes it doesn't. Just don't put all your eggs in one basket. Keep your options open. He is. You should, too.
Thanks for clarifying your meaning of propose...I thought you were looking for marriage.
Just keep in mind when a guy says he's not ready for a relationship, believe it and don't waste too much time on him. He'll just string you along. Sometimes waiting works, sometimes it doesn't. Just don't put all your eggs in one basket. Keep your options open. He is. You should, too.
And why does he want you to come to him? He should be coming to you. Or it should at least be 50/50. You went there, he needs to come to you next time.
Yes I have some sparkly leo bits and not all crabs care for marriage or want to be mothers for that matter...stop generalising.
So he is all talk and no action - you go to a different country(continent?) to meet him, get one day together with him and are content with that.
He has also told you everything you need to know: just enough to string you along.
I may be negative here, but I wouldn't expect anything from this guy until he has shown a lot more action than this.
He has also told you everything you need to know: just enough to string you along.
I may be negative here, but I wouldn't expect anything from this guy until he has shown a lot more action than this.
Posted by truecap
And why does he want you to come to him? He should be coming to you. Or it should at least be 50/50. You went there, he needs to come to you next time.
Actually he dont have and a passport. So technically i have to go there instead.
Posted by HappyCapper
So he is all talk and no action - you go to a different country(continent?) to meet him, get one day together with him and are content with that.
He has also told you everything you need to know: just enough to string you along.
I may be negative here, but I wouldn't expect anything from this guy until he has shown a lot more action than this.
Hey thanx for the post. But i didnt understand, what do u mean by Showing Action?
Posted by Girly21Posted by truecap
And why does he want you to come to him? He should be coming to you. Or it should at least be 50/50. You went there, he needs to come to you next time.
Actually he dont have and a passport. So technically i have to go there instead.click to expand
Well, then, I would suggest he get one.
If there's a reason he can't get one....Big Red Flag!
Posted by Girly21Posted by HappyCapper
So he is all talk and no action - you go to a different country(continent?) to meet him, get one day together with him and are content with that.
He has also told you everything you need to know: just enough to string you along.
I may be negative here, but I wouldn't expect anything from this guy until he has shown a lot more action than this.
Hey thanx for the post. But i didnt understand, what do u mean by Showing Action?click to expand
I know you asked her, but here are actions that show his true feelings:
He asks about your day.
He makes effort to come see you.
He contacts you regularly.
He calls.
He supports your dreams.
He listens to you and follows up.
He follows through with what he says he will do.
He is consistent.
He doesn't disappear on you.
He returns calls or texts in a timely manner.
He's willing to spend time with you.
He's willing to spend that time without having sex.
I know you asked her, but here are actions that show his true feelings:
He asks about your day. - yes he does everyday.
He makes effort to come see you. - being a cappy he is a is very very slow so i dont expect him to do that so soon.
He contacts you regularly. - yes he does.
He calls. - we texts much rather then calling coz he is shy. Sometimes when he wants to talk he dont directly call me, he asks me that why i dont call him.
He supports your dreams. - yes he does. But feels like he expects me to come to his city and settle down there after graduation. (He never says this but sometimes asks me that where i want to live? And will my parents allow me if i want to live anywhere i want? ) when i make jokes about about working in his city n migrating there. He gets all excited. And takes a snapshot of my msg and shows me. That he wud remind me by the picture in the future.
He listens to you and follows up. - sometimes he does, dometimes he dont.
He follows through with what he says he will do. - not really. Coz he is lazy i can say. He makes promises to himself even and dont follows them.
He is consistent. - 60% he is.
He doesn't disappear on you. - no he doesnt. If we r talking and he disappears he will text me back n explain me with an apology. Or sometimes he dont tell me and when i ask him where did u disappear. He gives me a silly reason and asks me that "does it annoys u if i disappear?" Feels like he likes to tease me or play with me, or test me.
He returns calls or texts in a timely manner. - yes when he is in a good mood n things r great between us he replies me just in few seconds. But when things r normal between us he takes few 5-8mins to reply me. But when things r not going well between us it can take few hours to reply. And when i reply late he takes the revenge by texting me at the same amount of time i took to text him.
He's willing to spend time with you. - yes thats why he said that the only possible way to spend time with me is to go to his city for couple of weeks. He wants to spend time with me. He said that he will take leave from his job till the time im in his city so he can spend more time with me. He even offered me that he will book my ticket (as im a medical student and not working)
He's willing to spend that time without having sex. - yes i have already cleared that to him. In the beginning he crack few dirty jokes and pick up lines just to try me or open up with me if im a booty call. And i got mad at him. He
He asks about your day. - yes he does everyday.
He makes effort to come see you. - being a cappy he is a is very very slow so i dont expect him to do that so soon.
He contacts you regularly. - yes he does.
He calls. - we texts much rather then calling coz he is shy. Sometimes when he wants to talk he dont directly call me, he asks me that why i dont call him.
He supports your dreams. - yes he does. But feels like he expects me to come to his city and settle down there after graduation. (He never says this but sometimes asks me that where i want to live? And will my parents allow me if i want to live anywhere i want? ) when i make jokes about about working in his city n migrating there. He gets all excited. And takes a snapshot of my msg and shows me. That he wud remind me by the picture in the future.
He listens to you and follows up. - sometimes he does, dometimes he dont.
He follows through with what he says he will do. - not really. Coz he is lazy i can say. He makes promises to himself even and dont follows them.
He is consistent. - 60% he is.
He doesn't disappear on you. - no he doesnt. If we r talking and he disappears he will text me back n explain me with an apology. Or sometimes he dont tell me and when i ask him where did u disappear. He gives me a silly reason and asks me that "does it annoys u if i disappear?" Feels like he likes to tease me or play with me, or test me.
He returns calls or texts in a timely manner. - yes when he is in a good mood n things r great between us he replies me just in few seconds. But when things r normal between us he takes few 5-8mins to reply me. But when things r not going well between us it can take few hours to reply. And when i reply late he takes the revenge by texting me at the same amount of time i took to text him.
He's willing to spend time with you. - yes thats why he said that the only possible way to spend time with me is to go to his city for couple of weeks. He wants to spend time with me. He said that he will take leave from his job till the time im in his city so he can spend more time with me. He even offered me that he will book my ticket (as im a medical student and not working)
He's willing to spend that time without having sex. - yes i have already cleared that to him. In the beginning he crack few dirty jokes and pick up lines just to try me or open up with me if im a booty call. And i got mad at him. He
Told me that he has met many girls with whom he has done this before and even they had no problem with doing dirty talkings. Even he has slpept with couple of them. Then he said he has never met a girl who got mad at him n screwed him up from a pervert joke of his. He said he found it cute n got more attached to me. He says he respects me for being a religious girl with morals in life. I dont know how much he meant it. But thats wat he said. I dont know if i go to meet him will he try respect and keep distance or try to take advantage of me being alone there. This is one reason that i dont wanna go there.
@ e11e@ im a taurus
I still don't understand why he's expecting you to make ALL the sacrifice. He wants you to come to him. If things go futher, he expects you to move to his city/country.
It screams red flag to me....or very selfish...
Relationships should be 50/50.
It screams red flag to me....or very selfish...
Relationships should be 50/50.
Question:
You went to see him in another country - why did you only spend one day together?
You went to see him in another country - why did you only spend one day together?
Thanx for the advice @e11e
Posted by truecap
I still don't understand why he's expecting you to make ALL the sacrifice. He wants you to come to him. If things go futher, he expects you to move to his city/country.
It screams red flag to me....or very selfish...
Relationships should be 50/50.
Ur right! I understand what u r trying to say here and i agree with u. If i see this from a physical level i can see red flags everywhere. I would had nade my own desicion and that was to not contact him if he msgs.
But i came here after reading all about his zodiac sign and it was unbelieveably true what ever i have experienced by his personality. Many people advice that the girl should be patient with theses kind of men. Act like a friend. Wait until he says that he wants to start a relationship with her. Not to get all emotional coz they r emotionally detached. Im trying all of this with this guy. Coz they say that capricorn guys are stubborn and hard to crack. If this is all true then im ready to wait for him. If its all BS then i wont waste my time on this guy n just cut him off.
Posted by HappyCapper
Question:
You went to see him in another country - why did you only spend one day together?
He told me that he has a very tight schedule and hardly can take 2days leave from his job.
Posted by Girly21Posted by HappyCapper
Question:
You went to see him in another country - why did you only spend one day together?
He told me that he has a very tight schedule and hardly can take 2days leave from his job.click to expand
Sorry, but this sounds really bad to me. If he really liked you he would have seen you that day plus after work the next day(or before it, depending on his work schedule) or something. If he was truly interested in you and you go to a different country to meet him, he would rather see you than sleep. And I think this goes for any guy regardless of sign. So sorry, but this is my honest opinion.
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Problem is that. He is less affectionate and rarely shares his feelings to me. When i talk to him on starting a realtionship with me he pulls back n stops textin me or gets in an arguement with me. Then i dont wanna show myself to be desperate or clingy so i dont push him. But next day he texts me again out of the blue telling me that, he likes me and wud have asked me to be his gf but die to the distant he wants to take it slow. He also says that he fears making commitment coz he got his heart broken before from a 4yrs relationship where the girl was cheating on him for another guy. It has been 3yrs now. He is workaholic as well so is busy most of the time. When he is in a good mood he is all mushy with me texting me all the time acting like a father and treats me like his girl. When things start getting better he deliberately stop texting me for a whole day and then again acts cold and distant with no affection. I feel secured and get swayed aways easily but when he applies this trait of his im left wondering why he do this to me? I dont confront him much coz he hates that. I try to play it cool as if everything is normal and giving him space. He hurts me alot sometimes with his erratic behaviour n doesnt even care how i feel. I feel like i am the one who makes alot of efforts here, trying to understand him and go according to his ways. Will he ever propose me? Or is he just playing with my feelings by not commiting? Is it safe to travel to his city alone? I see that he never cares about my feelings. I feel skeptical and dont feel secure coz he dont expresses his feelings. He wants me to visit his city but when ever i want his address he never give me that. Will it be safe to travel there alone as i have met him only once, dont know if he could tu