RushOfMagic
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Confused capricorn?WTF
Understanding Capricorn Behavior and Emotions
Capricorn individuals can be complex, showing both serious and playful sides. They value honesty, loyalty, and motivation, often acting differently depending on the situation. Their behavior may seem confusing but reflects their desire for authenticity and respect. Recognizing these traits can help you understand their actions and deepen your connection.
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Sometimes we make jokes about us being together but then we mock that,it's our thing. I tell him what a pain in the ass he is and he tells me that he's glad he's not the only pain in the ass in the room.
He hugs me always,we watch movies together and he always reach out to me and gets me comfortable in his arms.
He plays with my hair,with my hands but lately he's strange!
Recently i talked to him about a guy i'm seeing,that he's interested in me,i always tell him things and now for the first time in a year i talked to him about this man.
He's acting distant for over a week now,i know something's wrong and i asked him what's the problem but he says he's just tired!
He hugs me always,we watch movies together and he always reach out to me and gets me comfortable in his arms.
He plays with my hair,with my hands but lately he's strange!
Recently i talked to him about a guy i'm seeing,that he's interested in me,i always tell him things and now for the first time in a year i talked to him about this man.
He's acting distant for over a week now,i know something's wrong and i asked him what's the problem but he says he's just tired!
Keep doing whatever it is you're doing. It seems to me that he will take the necessary steps when/if he's ready. Too fast too soon is a mistake with caps. I think in this situation, you will just know what to do and when.
Thing is, what I wrote above is just a vague feeling that your post gave me. I don't have a lot to go on, so it's really pure guesswork.
Thing is, what I wrote above is just a vague feeling that your post gave me. I don't have a lot to go on, so it's really pure guesswork.
He once told me that i'm a good friend for him and that he cares about me,just once,mostly he shows me,his actions talk more than words.
He always tells me i'm beautiful and smart and that i have many other qualities besides those.
What's the issue here?
I really want my friend back,he never made a move on me but he acts all of a sudden distant because i told him about a guy that's interested in me?
He doesn't know that i'm attracted to him,maybe he sense it but i'm cool and relaxed because i wouldn't want to ruin a friendship.
I'm a taurus by the way.
He always tells me i'm beautiful and smart and that i have many other qualities besides those.
What's the issue here?
I really want my friend back,he never made a move on me but he acts all of a sudden distant because i told him about a guy that's interested in me?
He doesn't know that i'm attracted to him,maybe he sense it but i'm cool and relaxed because i wouldn't want to ruin a friendship.
I'm a taurus by the way.
Oki, I had only read the first part of your post when I posted my first. After having read the second part:
You're apparently seeing this other guy(and talking about him with cap) - who are you really interested in? Are you juggling more guys than just the two? And how could you possibly wonder about cap's behaviour?
You're apparently seeing this other guy(and talking about him with cap) - who are you really interested in? Are you juggling more guys than just the two? And how could you possibly wonder about cap's behaviour?
No,let's organise here...The other guy is the best friend of one of my work colleague,we started to go out all together and he's interested in me.
I told that to my friend,we talk about all sorts of things,why it should be this a problem?
That a guy is interested in me?
Nobody is juggling no one here and i already wrote that i'm attracted to my cap friend,my question is about him.
Me and my cap we are not together,he never made a move on me so why should i not wonder about his behaviour?
I told that to my friend,we talk about all sorts of things,why it should be this a problem?
That a guy is interested in me?
Nobody is juggling no one here and i already wrote that i'm attracted to my cap friend,my question is about him.
Me and my cap we are not together,he never made a move on me so why should i not wonder about his behaviour?
Posted by RushOfMagic
He once told me that i'm a good friend for him and that he cares about me,just once,mostly he shows me,his actions talk more than words.
He always tells me i'm beautiful and smart and that i have many other qualities besides those.
What's the issue here?
I really want my friend back,he never made a move on me but he acts all of a sudden distant because i told him about a guy that's interested in me?
He doesn't know that i'm attracted to him,maybe he sense it but i'm cool and relaxed because i wouldn't want to ruin a friendship.
I'm a taurus by the way.
The issue is that he likes you and found out that you are seeing someone else. He is not going to do cartwheels after having eaten that information. Do you really think he hasn't made a move, cause I do. I wasn't there, ofc, but the way I see it you have given him certain signals(letting him do the little things he does, like play with your hair and such), showing him that you like him too.
If I was interested in a guy just as friends, I would not let him do such things, because it might give him the wrong signals. Romantically or not, you like the cap, so I am going to assume that you don't want to hurt him. So don't send him any wrong signals. Be clear with him. If it's not him that you like ofc, which means that you are playing the other dude. Hmm.
You could at least have told him about the other guy when he made jokes about you and him together.
I don't know, I may be way off here, but I don't think cap is confused at all - he's hurt.
"He hugs me always,we watch movies together and he always reach out to me and gets me comfortable in his arms.
He plays with my hair,with my hands"
He may not have jumped up and kissed you, but I do believe he has made certain moves and you have let him.
When you said you were seing another guy, what did that mean, exactly?
If you are interested in the cap, you can not go around talking about other guys that you are seeing, however innocent. You may not be interested in the other guy, sure, but why then bring him up? I'm pretty sure that wasn't apprechiated.
He plays with my hair,with my hands"
He may not have jumped up and kissed you, but I do believe he has made certain moves and you have let him.
When you said you were seing another guy, what did that mean, exactly?
If you are interested in the cap, you can not go around talking about other guys that you are seeing, however innocent. You may not be interested in the other guy, sure, but why then bring him up? I'm pretty sure that wasn't apprechiated.
...hence the distance.
Ok i get your point and i get also that you are speaking from a capricorn point of view now,that's why i'm here so you're right about something.
The thing is i'm single,i've been single before i met my cap friend and i stayed single a year after i met him.
I've been attracted to him since day one,i just didn't made a fuss about it,i gave him his space and i gave myself the opportunity to really know him as a person first and as a friend before i can decide if he's right for me in a romantically way.
Now,i'm not dating the other guy,he started to go out with me and my colleague plus other people that are in our company and he made it clear that he's interested in me and wants to get to know me better,that's it!
The thing is i'm single,i've been single before i met my cap friend and i stayed single a year after i met him.
I've been attracted to him since day one,i just didn't made a fuss about it,i gave him his space and i gave myself the opportunity to really know him as a person first and as a friend before i can decide if he's right for me in a romantically way.
Now,i'm not dating the other guy,he started to go out with me and my colleague plus other people that are in our company and he made it clear that he's interested in me and wants to get to know me better,that's it!
Posted by RushOfMagic
Now,i'm not dating the other guy,he started to go out with me and my colleague plus other people that are in our company and he made it clear that he's interested in me and wants to get to know me better,that's it!
Okay. When you said you were seeing this other guy, I thought you were SEEING him.
Imo, you are ofc allowed to see any guy you like, in any way you like, because you and cap are not a couple. That's not the point, though. The point is that if you are interested in the cap - don't go around talking to him about other guys. That is bound to make him feel hurt and insecure. It could also be seen as you playing games with him. He knows you have a certain interest in him and then you go talking about seeing other guys...what is that supposed to mean(he might think.)
I'm also wondering how you told him about this other guy that you are "seeing". Just wondering if he might have taken it like I did. Probably not, since the two of you obviously come from a more similar discursive background that you and I do, but you never know.
No no,i'm not dating him,we just talked and seemed like a decent person. There were always other people with us.
This is the first time when i talk to him about a man.
I told him how my day was,then in the evening i went out and he was there among my circle,people i know,people that were there,it's not like the bar was reserved only for us,we met and had a conversation,i stayed out for 4 hours and he said he would like to get to know me.
I told him that he looks like a good person,that he's funny and that we talked a lot that night. I also told him that i'm not interested in him though and his reaction was and i quote: "Why don't you give it a try?"
I answered him that i'm not interested in him like that and that he's just a good person to talk to,he told me things about his past and we just talked like normal people do,his answer this time was:" Why not,it looks like you like him"
This is the first time when i talk to him about a man.
I told him how my day was,then in the evening i went out and he was there among my circle,people i know,people that were there,it's not like the bar was reserved only for us,we met and had a conversation,i stayed out for 4 hours and he said he would like to get to know me.
I told him that he looks like a good person,that he's funny and that we talked a lot that night. I also told him that i'm not interested in him though and his reaction was and i quote: "Why don't you give it a try?"
I answered him that i'm not interested in him like that and that he's just a good person to talk to,he told me things about his past and we just talked like normal people do,his answer this time was:" Why not,it looks like you like him"
Ouch!
There is not a cell in my body that is even the slightest bit hesitant now. You did not just bring up the other guy, but also told cap about how great he is. I'm sure it was not to try and manipulate cap or play games with him, but...ouch!
I'm pretty sure that's your answer.
[What to do? Imo, talk to cap. Inform cap that you are interested in him, romantically, and don't talk about the other guy unless cap initiates it.]
What I have written within brackets is what I would do, BUT I don't know him or you, so it may be completely wrong. Keep that in mind.
There is not a cell in my body that is even the slightest bit hesitant now. You did not just bring up the other guy, but also told cap about how great he is. I'm sure it was not to try and manipulate cap or play games with him, but...ouch!
I'm pretty sure that's your answer.
[What to do? Imo, talk to cap. Inform cap that you are interested in him, romantically, and don't talk about the other guy unless cap initiates it.]
What I have written within brackets is what I would do, BUT I don't know him or you, so it may be completely wrong. Keep that in mind.
That was the first time i talked to him about this person,the subject ended there,i told him about this on Sunday. After 2 days he text me and asked me if i'm home cause he wants to pass by my place and i told him that i'm not home,that i'm out with my colleague.
From that point on he's distant. We talk everyday,usually i check up on him or he does it,we see each other on a regular basis,2-3 times a week,sometimes often it depends,sometimes we don't see each other for more than a week because of mine schedule or his but it doesn't passes a day for us not to talk.
It's been a week and he's still giving me that crap about being tired,i told him i know him better than that and just tell me what's the matter. He changes the subject,we talk for a while and then silence and the sound of the wind blowing in the desert all over again.
From that point on he's distant. We talk everyday,usually i check up on him or he does it,we see each other on a regular basis,2-3 times a week,sometimes often it depends,sometimes we don't see each other for more than a week because of mine schedule or his but it doesn't passes a day for us not to talk.
It's been a week and he's still giving me that crap about being tired,i told him i know him better than that and just tell me what's the matter. He changes the subject,we talk for a while and then silence and the sound of the wind blowing in the desert all over again.
I am prepared to swear it's about what I wrote, and I honestly don't think there is a way for you to make him admit to that without creating more damage than already is. I may be wrong about the latter, though.
Imo, really try to set up a meeting with him and tell him you are interested in him - if you are ready to do that, ofc. I think he is going to need reassurance like that, so if it is something you would like to do anyway, then I say go for it.
May I ask, what's his moon sign?
Imo, really try to set up a meeting with him and tell him you are interested in him - if you are ready to do that, ofc. I think he is going to need reassurance like that, so if it is something you would like to do anyway, then I say go for it.
May I ask, what's his moon sign?
I can assure you i'm genuine about him and he knows this,he knows me.
I don't even need words to communicate with him,he knows my body language,he knows when i'm angry or sad,he knows when to just stay quiet and hold me and that's that.
And this is because he watched me,he observed me and he always listened to me when i talked. We build a foundation so we know each other,he once said that i'm the only girl who could read him for what he's really like because he's cold,aloof and detached,that's his guard,his wall.
He said that i can see past that and that never happened before to him,not so accurate.
I don't even need words to communicate with him,he knows my body language,he knows when i'm angry or sad,he knows when to just stay quiet and hold me and that's that.
And this is because he watched me,he observed me and he always listened to me when i talked. We build a foundation so we know each other,he once said that i'm the only girl who could read him for what he's really like because he's cold,aloof and detached,that's his guard,his wall.
He said that i can see past that and that never happened before to him,not so accurate.
I just meant that even if you have strong feelings for a person doesn't necessarily mean that you are ready to proclaim your love for them. Do you happen to know his moon sign?
We should see each other in the next few days,he can't avoid me for much longer,he already knows i'm preoccupied and he won't let himself get in the situation of looking too vulnerable,right now he knows i'm suspicious but he also knows that i'm not sure about what and he's right.
He'll come to me at his own time,on his own terms,it's my bad so i'll have patience with this matter.
And i don't know his moon sign,i'm sorry but i don't follow these things,i don't really believe in that,i can see how it could have a big importance or relevance,either way i can tell you how he's like.
He's never complaining,he's intense,very wise,i know that when he told me about his ex's he just shut it down his feelings and moved forward. He's strong and humble,he doesn't fall in love fast or easy,he needs time,patience and history for him to have something to hold on when things get slippery,the kind of history that endures any issues.
He'll come to me at his own time,on his own terms,it's my bad so i'll have patience with this matter.
And i don't know his moon sign,i'm sorry but i don't follow these things,i don't really believe in that,i can see how it could have a big importance or relevance,either way i can tell you how he's like.
He's never complaining,he's intense,very wise,i know that when he told me about his ex's he just shut it down his feelings and moved forward. He's strong and humble,he doesn't fall in love fast or easy,he needs time,patience and history for him to have something to hold on when things get slippery,the kind of history that endures any issues.
Yes i can understand that and it's fair enough.
Well, the two of you seem to have a really great connection, so I think you may be able to get this thing to work between the two of you. Just don't blame him for how he feels. (just saying this because you sounded irritated before when you referred to him being distant.)
Good luck! I wish you all the best! Please let me know how it goes.
You wrote:
"And i don't know his moon sign,i'm sorry but i don't follow these things,i don't really believe in that"
lol You do realise that this is an astrology web-site, right? 🙂
Good luck! I wish you all the best! Please let me know how it goes.
You wrote:
"And i don't know his moon sign,i'm sorry but i don't follow these things,i don't really believe in that"
lol You do realise that this is an astrology web-site, right? 🙂
I'll keep you updated if it's not a problem,i would like to hear your opinion on this situation in the following days.
Also i appreciate that you gave me your time on this,i know it must he hard to evaluate a situation between two people only from one point of view,from my perspective in this case so thank you for your logical answers.
Also i appreciate that you gave me your time on this,i know it must he hard to evaluate a situation between two people only from one point of view,from my perspective in this case so thank you for your logical answers.
Yes of course but i really don't follow them,i wouldn't be here if i would,plus there are others better at this,like you for example so thank you again.
I'll be right here. 🙂
Just so you know, though, my astrology knowledge is veeery limited! *blushing* But if you know his birthday and birthplace, I could check that moon for you.
Just so you know, though, my astrology knowledge is veeery limited! *blushing* But if you know his birthday and birthplace, I could check that moon for you.
Ok i got it:
Rising sign Taurus
Sun Capricorn
Moon Virgo
Mercury Capricorn
Venus Aquarius
Mars Sagittarius
Jupiter Cancer
Saturn Capricorn
Uranus Capricorn
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio
N.Node Aquarius
Rising sign Taurus
Sun Capricorn
Moon Virgo
Mercury Capricorn
Venus Aquarius
Mars Sagittarius
Jupiter Cancer
Saturn Capricorn
Uranus Capricorn
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio
N.Node Aquarius
This is mine:
Rising sign Capricorn
Sun Taurus
Moon Libra
Mercury Aquarius
Venus Aries
Mars Gemini
Jupiter Aquarius
Saturn Scorpio
Uranus Capricorn
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio
N.Node Taurus
Rising sign Capricorn
Sun Taurus
Moon Libra
Mercury Aquarius
Venus Aries
Mars Gemini
Jupiter Aquarius
Saturn Scorpio
Uranus Capricorn
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio
N.Node Taurus
Lol,he is very stable,serious and responsible yes but i like him like that,sometimes he can be spontaneous but usually he likes to have everything figured out and planned.
There's nothing wrong with that,he has good traits.
There's nothing wrong with that,he has good traits.
Posted by dontgetmewrong
My daughter is a Hardcore cap. She worries a lot especially about her future, she has to be successful in everything. I also have a few cap friends that are the same way. They may act cold and surfacy but still waters run deep. They dont appear so but they really are insecure, especially with their feelings, it's hard to get through that exterior. He likes you though, when they are comfortable with someone like he is with you and being playful, that is a sign. You told him there's someone else in the picture though, that is a threat to him. Seems like this cap opened up, aND now he's second guessing himself and now there's another guy, he's retreating. He won't give more of himself now. If you really want him, tell him and make him feel secure. Cappies do not like competition/sharing when it comes to the people they have interest in. They have too much pride.
Intelligent people are usually insecure when involving feelings,it's their logic that makes them insecure that in my opinion is not a bad thing at all so you're right about this.
Posted by RushOfMagicPosted by dontgetmewrong
My daughter is a Hardcore cap. She worries a lot especially about her future, she has to be successful in everything. I also have a few cap friends that are the same way. They may act cold and surfacy but still waters run deep. They dont appear so but they really are insecure, especially with their feelings, it's hard to get through that exterior. He likes you though, when they are comfortable with someone like he is with you and being playful, that is a sign. You told him there's someone else in the picture though, that is a threat to him. Seems like this cap opened up, aND now he's second guessing himself and now there's another guy, he's retreating. He won't give more of himself now. If you really want him, tell him and make him feel secure. Cappies do not like competition/sharing when it comes to the people they have interest in. They have too much pride.click to expand
I don't think he's second guessing himself,i think he's second guessing me,if he wouldn't do that he would be just dumb and not respecting himself,he's being true to himself and i respect that.
I don't feel like i made a big mistake because i didn't had any bad intentions but i can understand how this can be a "black dot" in his book so i don't have a problem with his pride.
Thank you for your feedback!
I am not very familiar with virgo moons from personal experiance, but it seems to me that he can be very level headed and be able to get over this hick-up in your relationship with time. But as I said, I'm not an astrology wizz. I'm learning. Great that dontgetmewrong could help! 🙂
How is it going? Any progress?
How is it going? Any progress?
Posted by HappyCapper
I am not very familiar with virgo moons from personal experiance, but it seems to me that he can be very level headed and be able to get over this hick-up in your relationship with time. But as I said, I'm not an astrology wizz. I'm learning. Great that dontgetmewrong could help! 🙂
How is it going? Any progress?
Yes but you're a capricorn wizz lol,stop being so modest,i think you're great,plus you've helped me and i'm sure you'll get only better at this if it's something that you're interested in,that capricorn determination has no limits.
I wouldn't say progress but hear this,in the couple of days i did all the contact,i initiated the conversations.
He gives me a cold answer and then just drifts away,i leave it like that,i don't push him or insist,i know that if he feels like saying something he will but then he starts to ask me something else or just continues with other things. But only if i start the conversation.
For example i told him something about psychology,we used to talk a lot about that,he once told me that i should study psychology,he knows i'm curious about the human mind. It's like he wants to be detached and prove a point to me but then gives me just enough so i don't get mad,he slaps me and then he kiss me,metaphorically.
Thanks🙂
Would I be right to assume you haven't met in person since last?
Would I be right to assume you haven't met in person since last?
Posted by HappyCapper
Thanks🙂
Would I be right to assume you haven't met in person since last?
Yup you're right but he's probably just busy,looking for a voodoo doll that looks like me
You're probably right; getting one custom made would probably take some time...😉
Okay, I'm going to tell you what I honestly thought when I read about his latest way of "handling" you:
He's punishing you and I suggest you take it for a while.
I swear, I don't think I've said or written this before in my life - this is sooo not me, usually, and I actually cringe a bit while writing this. He can ofc not keep punishing you til the end of days and he can never be disrespectful towards you or really hurt you, but I must admit that in this case I would actually take it for a bit.
I say this because I think he is using light methods and because he feels the need to blow off some steam...and, let's face it, you want him to blow off some steam.
But I do think it needs to end pretty soon and I also think you need to meet him pretty soon. Have you thought about telling him about how you feel?
Pleeease note that my advice to just play along in his games for a bit could be a really bad idea, no doubt caused by some weird astrological phenomena hitting me over the head(unfortunately, I'm not a good enough astrologer to know what to blame yet. But I'll get there. 😉)
Okay, I'm going to tell you what I honestly thought when I read about his latest way of "handling" you:
He's punishing you and I suggest you take it for a while.
I swear, I don't think I've said or written this before in my life - this is sooo not me, usually, and I actually cringe a bit while writing this. He can ofc not keep punishing you til the end of days and he can never be disrespectful towards you or really hurt you, but I must admit that in this case I would actually take it for a bit.
I say this because I think he is using light methods and because he feels the need to blow off some steam...and, let's face it, you want him to blow off some steam.
But I do think it needs to end pretty soon and I also think you need to meet him pretty soon. Have you thought about telling him about how you feel?
Pleeease note that my advice to just play along in his games for a bit could be a really bad idea, no doubt caused by some weird astrological phenomena hitting me over the head(unfortunately, I'm not a good enough astrologer to know what to blame yet. But I'll get there. 😉)
we just talked. I can't continue with initiating the conversations,it's been more than a week and i think it's enough,it's not my pride,just common sense.
I told him that i'm here if he needs to talk and i'll give him his space for whatever bothers him.
He answered me that he doesn't need space because he take it by himself in a way or another without someone give it to him! and after this he said but don't you worry,i'm fine and he put a smiley.
He lashed out at me and then played the "i'm fine" bs.
I didn't answered no more,that doesn't need a response.
I told him that i'm here if he needs to talk and i'll give him his space for whatever bothers him.
He answered me that he doesn't need space because he take it by himself in a way or another without someone give it to him! and after this he said but don't you worry,i'm fine and he put a smiley.
He lashed out at me and then played the "i'm fine" bs.
I didn't answered no more,that doesn't need a response.
Nah, not initiating the conversations. I agree. I'm talking about the BS...which needs to stop as soon as you meet him, which I think should be pretty soon. But that's just me.
Who normally initiate your meetings?
I really don't like this, because I truly think it could be solved by just a meeting. These are ofc just vague feelings, but that's all I've got atm. Another vague feeling I get is that you are two pretty stubborn people(not judging, I'm stubborn too🙂) and this is what could ruin it for the both of you. Someone needs to step up. Who's it gonna be?
Who normally initiate your meetings?
I really don't like this, because I truly think it could be solved by just a meeting. These are ofc just vague feelings, but that's all I've got atm. Another vague feeling I get is that you are two pretty stubborn people(not judging, I'm stubborn too🙂) and this is what could ruin it for the both of you. Someone needs to step up. Who's it gonna be?
Posted by HappyCapper
Nah, not initiating the conversations. I agree. I'm talking about the BS...which needs to stop as soon as you meet him, which I think should be pretty soon. But that's just me.
Who normally initiate your meetings?
I really don't like this, because I truly think it could be solved by just a meeting. These are ofc just vague feelings, but that's all I've got atm. Another vague feeling I get is that you are two pretty stubborn people(not judging, I'm stubborn too🙂) and this is what could ruin it for the both of you. Someone needs to step up. Who's it gonna be?
He usually does,i do too but more him than me. We agree also when it's best for the both of us,if i can't today for example or him we talk about seeing each other in the following days so we always see each other in the end.
And yes,we are very stubborn,that's true but one of us always let's their guard down,if it's him that's too uptight i do it or the other way around. He's a capricorn,i'm a taurus for God's sake,we are very alike in many aspects but i admit that where he's more diplomatic,i'm more rigid and the list goes on,we complement each other in everything.
When he's too stressed i comfort him and motivate him,when i get mad for work or other things he's the one that does that. We are very stable and always on track with one another,it's crazy how well we can function together.
Posted by FrenchKpricorn
Lol you just broke him,
I think he always loved you but he was to shy to initiate something but he wasn't officially in the friendzone, and plus he was flirty with you (laugh, touching your hair, eect). And then you talk to him about a guy, Wow. That's an official friendzone statement, when a girl talk to me about guy that they like, first reaction, she disgust me and then if you talk to me about other guy it's clear that you are not interested about mE and I clearly don't care about your friendship so why stay?
So you put him in the friendzone and he only wants you as his wife not his friends, he don't care about your friendship, he's gone and I understand hiM.
Lol easy there frenchporn,no one put him in the friendzone and i didn't told him about a guy "i like",i told him about a person i met,it was a statement about another human being,a man i agree but that doesn't mean that i'm attracted to him,get your info right please frenchpopcorn.
He's not broken nor leaving nowhere,he will maybe shut down his feelings but he will stay. That's the worst case scenario.
P.S: Wow back at you FrenchKpricorn
I don't think he's doing it conciously, but I sure think he is doing it subconsiously. What do you think he's doing, champranger?
Posted by HappyCapper
I don't think he's doing it conciously, but I sure think he is doing it subconsiously. What do you think he's doing, champranger?
Didn't see the other posts when I posted this. I meant your non-punishing statement. 🙂
That's a good question.
The fact that when we talked about him i mentioned that he's a good person,i was strictly referring at him as a GOOD PERSON,not a good man.
Plus he knows me,he knows that in a year i wasn't interested in NO ONE!I never even went on dates with no one,i never give my number to other men,i don't care about others and he know this!
When we met it took me 1 month before i gave him my number and 2 weeks before i started to talk to him,with my cap!
I always tell him that i need to be friends first with a man to get to know him before i can trust him and think about it romantically,it's how i am and i'm not changing it for no one.
Who wants to get to know me,will stay and last,who doesn't i'll open the door for them.
Does it sounds like i'm a person who leaves with the first man?
The fact that when we talked about him i mentioned that he's a good person,i was strictly referring at him as a GOOD PERSON,not a good man.
Plus he knows me,he knows that in a year i wasn't interested in NO ONE!I never even went on dates with no one,i never give my number to other men,i don't care about others and he know this!
When we met it took me 1 month before i gave him my number and 2 weeks before i started to talk to him,with my cap!
I always tell him that i need to be friends first with a man to get to know him before i can trust him and think about it romantically,it's how i am and i'm not changing it for no one.
Who wants to get to know me,will stay and last,who doesn't i'll open the door for them.
Does it sounds like i'm a person who leaves with the first man?
Posted by champrangerPosted by HappyCapper
I don't think he's doing it conciously, but I sure think he is doing it subconsiously. What do you think he's doing, champranger?
Detaching himself and keeping himself busy ...
I have known two Caps with the same chart, one of which is my friend. I have went through a similar case with the other.click to expand
So, mending his hurt feelings?
Posted by FrenchKpricorn
Lol,you are fun I know why he's liking you lol but,
I haven't read your whole thread and I'm to lazy to do it, no hate. but analyse this. and stop play game ! You Know exactly what's you are doing! "it doesn't mean I like him", so don't talk about him!
===> Being love with girl
===> to shy, scared to tell here my feelings
===> opens to her slowly
===> have fun with her
===> one year pass and I still say nothing
Yeah I know Capricorn are really slow,
===> girl talk to me about a guy
===> wtf? All this for nothing, ok.
===> she is not the one
===> I move
I think you have a point in some of the things you write, but I think you're being a bit unfair when it comes to other things. I think you would see that if you read the whole thread. Would be great if you did, because at least I value your advice.
Posted by champranger
OP, the facts remain as follows:
- You like to be friends with a guy before becoming romantically involved
- You praised the guyfriend you mentioned
- You are slow to opening up which means that just because you did not go on any dates, does not mean you did not any romantic interest in other people (at least from his POV)
He does not know your POV. All he sees is that you have to be friends before lovers and you brought up your friend to him, in a good light. You did not date anyone but how does he know you were not interested in other people when it seems you tend to take your time to determine if you are going to date them or not?
I hope I make sense.
You make a lot of sense champranger no worries.
But that's not the case,here's the thing:
When we met we both knew that this won't be a simply friendship,i was attracted to him from day one like i said,i think that feeling was mutual and i could bet my long pony tail on that.
I was falling for him since we first start talking,we would stay at my house in the garden for hours and talk,never close enough to touch but just close enough to wanna do that.
We would talk about all the crap that is in the world,about family,ex's,future,work,you name it. You can't talk for hours with a person about everything like your best friend since the day you met,feel the attraction,have the validation that it's not just you that's crazy just by looking in that person's eyes and don't fall in love!
Every time he would hug me i could feel that(don't think about dirty things frenchporn)this is killing us.
I was falling for him mentally first,at that point i couldn't,wouldn't even care about others. Don't get me wrong,you have a point but this is not the case.
Posted by champrangerPosted by HappyCapperPosted by champrangerPosted by HappyCapper
I don't think he's doing it conciously, but I sure think he is doing it subconsiously. What do you think he's doing, champranger?
Detaching himself and keeping himself busy ...
I have known two Caps with the same chart, one of which is my friend. I have went through a similar case with the other.
So, mending his hurt feelings?
Yeah and to slowly move on ...click to expand
That is ofc one possibility, but I'm not so sure. I think he is still interested, but is hurt and doesn't know how to express it properly. He doesn't want to push her away, but at the same time, he is hurt. I think he will come around if one of them would just stop being stubborn and step up.
He needs to, as you say, mend his hurt feelings and she needs to take a deep breath and realise that she hurt him. She can step up too, by fi, setting up a meeting, telling him that she likes him romantically, which may help him mend his hurt feelings and it will probably also be easier for him to believe that she is really not interested in that other guy. Then all the questions will be answered, imo.
"When we met we both knew that this won't be a simply friendship,i was attracted to him from day one like i said,i think that feeling was mutual and i could bet my long pony tail on that.
I was falling for him since we first start talking,we would stay at my house in the garden for hours and talk,never close enough to touch but just close enough to wanna do that.
We would talk about all the crap that is in the world,about family,ex's,future,work,you name it. You can't talk for hours with a person about everything like your best friend since the day you met,feel the attraction,have the validation that it's not just you that's crazy just by looking in that person's eyes and don't fall in love!
Every time he would hug me i could feel that(don't think about dirty things frenchporn)this is killing us.
I was falling for him mentally first,at that point i couldn't,wouldn't even care about others. Don't get me wrong,you have a point but this is not the case."
Just don't forget that this is all from your pov - he is not a mind reader. He may think or assume things, but he does not know - and especially not after you mentioned that other guy.
I was falling for him since we first start talking,we would stay at my house in the garden for hours and talk,never close enough to touch but just close enough to wanna do that.
We would talk about all the crap that is in the world,about family,ex's,future,work,you name it. You can't talk for hours with a person about everything like your best friend since the day you met,feel the attraction,have the validation that it's not just you that's crazy just by looking in that person's eyes and don't fall in love!
Every time he would hug me i could feel that(don't think about dirty things frenchporn)this is killing us.
I was falling for him mentally first,at that point i couldn't,wouldn't even care about others. Don't get me wrong,you have a point but this is not the case."
Just don't forget that this is all from your pov - he is not a mind reader. He may think or assume things, but he does not know - and especially not after you mentioned that other guy.
Posted by FrenchKpricorn
WHATCH THIS ITS THE REACTION WHEN A CAPRICORN LOST HIS GRILS !!!!
PHIL IVER BORN JANUARY
😄
Posted by champranger
Poor FrenchKpricorn is now frenchporn 😆
Sorry could not help it.
If you hadn't I would've. 😉
Posted by champranger
OP, I dun think it will hurt your chances if you tell him that you like him ...
That's a great idea...No!
At least not now when he's pushing me away.
But i'll do something else,i'll invite him by my house for some...something and do something.
It's been a year,someone has to be a man about it,usually who isn't,that's me!
Posted by RushOfMagicPosted by champranger
OP, I dun think it will hurt your chances if you tell him that you like him ...
That's a great idea...No!
At least not now when he's pushing me away.
But i'll do something else,i'll invite him by my house for some...something and do something.
It's been a year,someone has to be a man about it,usually who isn't,that's me!click to expand
Please consider why he is somewhat pushing you away. You can not blame him for having feelings. Maybe I have read this all wrong. Maybe he is just playing you and being an a-hole, but in this case I would definitely give him the benefit of a doubt.
Great idea to invite him over, though!🙂
Posted by champranger
Poor FrenchKpricorn is now frenchporn 😆
Sorry could not help it.
@champranger:
How can he move on if we are friends?
And even if let's say he moves on,he will still see me,it's not like he's Houdini.
What he will tell me?I can't see you no more because you hurt me with that comment about that guy you said you like but i'm not even sure you like him or me but i do like you it's just that i couldn't tell you?
Nope,not moving on,that's a lot of work lol. He'll stay,deal with it and come back and i'll make sure he does.
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