Capricorn Lover

Okay, so my friend that I have been seeing we have become lovers. It has been amazing. He knocks my socks off. 😛 So I was up front with Capricorn that I don't think we are the best match but we do make great bed mates. Is that bad just to want to be lovers? *sigh* I love the sex, but I am just not feeling remotely romantically and emotionally connected to him. We click so well on an intellectual level most of the time and the physical attraction is not over the top. I will admit I am only a little attracted to him physically. 😢 He just is not conscience about his health at all by eating crap and not excercising and that just drives me crazy. 😢 However on a sexual level he has sent me places I have never been. *sigh* I just hope he does not get too attached. Can Capricorns have very platonic lover sexual relations?

PD

FWB?? I can't do it personally... I think, in general, we need something deeper. But, maybe the guys are dif.

Yeah believe it or not, every time we have gotten together there has been no alcohol. Yeah neither of us have anything else going on and I think that is why this works well. Man I wish he were the guy for me, because he is a sweet man, but if there is not total chemistry there, I cannot be 100% in. We have been friends for a long time. Trust me I really do want the whole package, but I cannot lie about what I don't feel. I could not ask for a better lover though. He is such a gentleman always telling me how pretty I look, how soft and perfect my skin is, and how much he likes spending time with me. I sometimes wonder if there is something wrong with me why would I not be crazy about someone like this. ughhhh I swear that is the way it always goes ....we love the one who does not reciporcate and we reject those who treat us like gold. 😢

PD

Posted by MorningMist
I always thought platonic meant the absence of sex.

You know what ...you are correct. Sorry for using the word out of context.

PD

of the ones i know of, if they're not looking for a relationship it's fine, otherwise it's just wasting their time and they hate wasting their time. i think its good that you were honest with him about it. what did he have to say in return? is this something that he wants as well? also, you can't force a feeling that is not there and it's best to not try and force it or you end up feeling they way you do now. if it turns out that he think something more may come of this, i say do him a favor and let it go.

Yea I say they do when they feel they are in control....but FWB never ends great cause somebody always catch feelings.

Cancergem - "what did he have to say in return? is this something that he wants as well?"

He asked if I was serious and if I could handle that. I said yes, absolutely. To be honest I don't think he knows what he wants. He has been talking to some woman who is 10 years older than him that lives in Florida that he has never met in person or seen and he claims she is like a best friend and she has a husband that is termanilly ill. She really wants to be with him. I encouraged him to go out to Florida and meet her and see where it goes. I think he was floored that I would suggest this, but I honestly don't think he is the right guy for me. 😢 I told him I am so bohemian like and he is so traditional that we really make better friends and just lovers. 😢 The agreement was I was doing him a favor by having sex with him. Remember the wife did not put out for seven years. I cannot imagine that.....can you imagine no sex for seven years? It was totally respectful and genuine and was merely and honest token of my friendship to him.

Trap - Have no idea what you posted but I won't even ask or go there. I don't take anything here too personally.

Morningmist - Thank you for the compliment. *blushes*

Justsophs - I think you are correct about FWB never ends well.

So Capricorn has been calling, texting me like all the time. I have been busy and have had time to respond that much but I am sensing already a bit of attachment. I understand, when you are newly single it is hard, and it can be a bit frightening to be on your own and I am not going to be mean about it, but I am realistic. I am going to tell him we can meet for lunch or what not, but I am going to pull back especially the sex. He is a great guy, but he is just not the right guy for me. It has nothing to do with him as person but honestly I just don't feel that kind of chemistry I am looking for. I have contended that in reality with who I am I may be single for the rest of my life. I would rather be single than ever be with the wrong person for the wrong reasons. I want that for him as well. I don't want him to be with me because he is scared and I caught him off the rebound. I don't know maybe I am too much idealist but I want that burning passion where you cannot wait to see that person again, and they inspire you to be become the best person. I feel like I will know it when it happens and if it ever happens. Capricorn reminds me a lot of my ex-husband. Great guy just the wrong one for me. 😢

wth is wrong with attachment...

Posted by HappyCappy
wth is wrong with attachment...

Nothing is wrong with attachment as long as it is reciporacted. I just don't want him to get hurt, because I am not feeling more than friendship with him.

PD

oh...i see. when women make it clear for me were just friends thats fine. its just when they grow feelings is when it gets complex. not that i dont mind feelings. friends can be affectionate towards each other...depends on the use of the word love. if i do love someone as a friend ill tell them. im a naturally loving person anyway. but i do get attached sometimes...im still young lol

Posted by HappyCappy
oh...i see. when women make it clear for me were just friends thats fine. its just when they grow feelings is when it gets complex. not that i dont mind feelings. friends can be affectionate towards each other...depends on the use of the word love. if i do love someone as a friend ill tell them. im a naturally loving person anyway. but i do get attached sometimes...im still young lol

Happy Cappy - It is such a fine line to cross. I had been friends with this Capricorn for the last five years. When I see myself with a mate he just does not fit exactly what I am looking for. I know this is where he is heading, I am doing my best to be honest with him, and preserve the friendship. It is crazy that I would not be all over this relationship because I have my venus in Capricorn, but for some reason I am just not feeling it. I feel like we are some what similar but yet so distantly different. I have made a pact with myself long ago, I would never settle. That is what I feel like I would be doing. He deserves to be with someone who loves him completely and not just for parts of him, as this is what I am looking for as well.

Okay I met with Capricorn this afternoon again. We had a great time. Man the sex is just amazing. He begged me to meet with him, I really did try to make excuses why I could not meet with him. I had so much to do but I took some time this afternoon and met with him. Gee am I making this worse by continuing this little escapade?

PD