GunFireHarmony
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Capricorn man says he needs time to think
He was telling me it wasn't like he didn't have any feelings for me, but he said at the time he didn't feel like he was ready for a serious relationship. He thought by rushing in to it he would be, but he realized he wasn't. He also feels like I'm too good for him, even though I kept reassuring him that wasn't the case. Apparently other outside sources kept telling him that, like people from work, etc.
He also felt a bit pressured about going in to the relationship. People, like my mother (who is his boss) kept asking him questions like, "when are you going to ask her out?" He said he didn't want to make anyone mad or disappoint anyone by not going in to the relationship. So I told him he needs to think about what he wants, not how I'm going to feel or what other people think.
He told me that he never really had a girlfriend any more, and he was so used to being alone. He kept telling me that there wasn't anything wrong with me and that I was a nice person, but he would like to think for a while. He said that I can still call him whenever I want, and he will as well, and even try to call more. Even though it's just been a day, he texted me this morning "morning 🙂" (which he never really did before), and called me during the afternoon. All the conversation consisting of was him checking to see if I was alright, and asking if I ate. He also said if I ever needed anything I can always ask him.
Basically my question is, do you all think I should start moving on from this man? Do you think he's done with me? Or do I wait and see what happens?
He also felt a bit pressured about going in to the relationship. People, like my mother (who is his boss) kept asking him questions like, "when are you going to ask her out?" He said he didn't want to make anyone mad or disappoint anyone by not going in to the relationship. So I told him he needs to think about what he wants, not how I'm going to feel or what other people think.
He told me that he never really had a girlfriend any more, and he was so used to being alone. He kept telling me that there wasn't anything wrong with me and that I was a nice person, but he would like to think for a while. He said that I can still call him whenever I want, and he will as well, and even try to call more. Even though it's just been a day, he texted me this morning "morning 🙂" (which he never really did before), and called me during the afternoon. All the conversation consisting of was him checking to see if I was alright, and asking if I ate. He also said if I ever needed anything I can always ask him.
Basically my question is, do you all think I should start moving on from this man? Do you think he's done with me? Or do I wait and see what happens?
^^ good advice.
When you're dealing with Cap/Aqua influence... better watch out. They are looking, seeking for "the one."
Once they have it, they don't ever let go.
Look at Denzel Washington. Although his Venus is in Scorpio.....but he does have an Aquarius moon.
Still, that Fixed venus/moon for a man, usually they won't ever let go.
When you're dealing with Cap/Aqua influence... better watch out. They are looking, seeking for "the one."
Once they have it, they don't ever let go.
Look at Denzel Washington. Although his Venus is in Scorpio.....but he does have an Aquarius moon.
Still, that Fixed venus/moon for a man, usually they won't ever let go.
sorry for the men who have mutable venus/moon....you need a FIXED venus/moon gal to use her yellow sticky pads on you, super glue her butt onto your mutable self.
what the hell??
http://hollywoodlife.com/2013/07/10/denzel-washington-divorce-cheating/<BR>
hollywood makes me sick.
http://hollywoodlife.com/2013/07/10/denzel-washington-divorce-cheating/<BR>
hollywood makes me sick.
ANOTHER ONE—?? Ellessque, hello. Sorry my impulsivity. :p
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He said, "You're worrying because I didn't call you back right? Well, I ran out of credit, here, listen to my phone balance."
ugh, so capable
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I left him alone for a week
wrong
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my mother (who is his boss)
What—
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He kept telling me that there wasn't anything wrong with me and that I was a nice person, but he would like to think for a while.
*forever
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He also feels like I'm too good for him, even though I kept reassuring him that wasn't the case.
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He kept telling me that there wasn't anything wrong with me and that I was a nice person, but he would like to think for a while.
= not sure in himself
== (Wait a second! I'll buy your mama's company, charge my phone, ..., ... ..., and come back. Oh, is it snowing outside the window? It was summer a second ago...)
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Even though it's just been a day, he texted me this morning "morning 🙂" (which he never really did before)
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and called me during the afternoon. All the conversation consisting of was him checking to see if I was alright, and asking if I ate. He also said if I ever needed anything I can always ask him.
Basically my question is, do you all think I should start moving on from this man? Do you think he's done with me? Or do I wait and see what happens?
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Basically my question is, do you all think I should start moving on from this man?click to expand
ofcourse
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ANOTHER ONE—?? Ellessque, hello. Sorry my impulsivity. :p
I wouldnt put too much stock into celebrities and hollywood. For us who are into astrology, and enjoy it, it is part of the perks of seeing crap like this happen. You can't always have it good, because when you're dealing with Hollywood, and temptations of the world, and if they aren't strong enough to withstand the temptation it happens. But it also shows we are all very human. Human with great flaws.
My January Cap uncle is monogomous/faithful, you name it. But him and his family live in a very remote country and place where it's peaceful, away from the craziness of life and people who want to take things from you. My December cap uncle has his problems but he's living his life now in a remote place too, alone, sadly. We worry about him alot, but he makes his travel rounds to his children and visit them.
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ANOTHER ONE—?? Ellessque, hello. Sorry my impulsivity. :p
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Capricorn man says he needs time to think
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he said ... he didn't feel like he was ready for a serious relationship.
And this:
He also feels like I'm too good for him
As Elle said, keep it moving!
He's breaking up with you, but trying to be nice about it. He doesn't want to hurt your feelings. He will if you force him to, so best to wave buh-bye and find another guy.
Posted by ellessque
one more thing......
he *will* keep contacting you.
caps are not like scorps....it's not black and white for them.
if he still sees you as a friend, he will not desert you. you just have to retrain your brain back to friend. any contact he makes is not necessarily an introduction back into relationship status.
This is true. If he contacts you, don't read anything into it. For some reason, we don't mind being freinds with our exes.
your cap guy has the same placements as the girl i'm talking to.
She told me specifically "i like you" because you don't smother me like other people. Keep that in mind in the long run.
Hang in there and be patient and see what it can develop into. Patient is key, remember that.
i'm curious to know what his other placements are?
She told me specifically "i like you" because you don't smother me like other people. Keep that in mind in the long run.
Hang in there and be patient and see what it can develop into. Patient is key, remember that.
i'm curious to know what his other placements are?
Thanks for all the replies guys, I have been reading them. I just feel sick in my stomach, I can't eat, and I feel like someone ripped out my heart and gutted me.
Your words of wisdom are very appreciated.
This is his whole birth chart:
Sun Capricorn
Moon Taurus
Mercury Capricorn
Venus Aquarius
Mars Scorpio
Jupiter Aries
Saturn Sagittarius
Uranus Sagittarius
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio
Lilith Leo
Asc node Pisces
Your words of wisdom are very appreciated.
This is his whole birth chart:
Sun Capricorn
Moon Taurus
Mercury Capricorn
Venus Aquarius
Mars Scorpio
Jupiter Aries
Saturn Sagittarius
Uranus Sagittarius
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio
Lilith Leo
Asc node Pisces
wow.... same exact chart.
except her moon is in cancer and her rising is cap as well.
I agree with ellessque and champranger about the communication and distance.
Don't push too hard or show weakness as he could take advantage of you for his own needs (it's happened to me), just hold your own for the time being. See if he comes around if not then you will be "friend zoned". This is all from personal experience with my Cap.
Let me reiterate holding your own ground, as hard as that may be to do for you, just be patient. They are VERY VERY SLOW and i'm sure you want an answer or clarification right now. Keep your emotions on the DL only slightly express them and "hint" to him here and there. That is what I have been doing with mine and she is SLOWLY giving in. It's not manipulation in my opinion on my part, but purely mirroring her emotions and what she is allowing me to see so that I can connect on her level.
Hope that makes sense...
except her moon is in cancer and her rising is cap as well.
I agree with ellessque and champranger about the communication and distance.
Don't push too hard or show weakness as he could take advantage of you for his own needs (it's happened to me), just hold your own for the time being. See if he comes around if not then you will be "friend zoned". This is all from personal experience with my Cap.
Let me reiterate holding your own ground, as hard as that may be to do for you, just be patient. They are VERY VERY SLOW and i'm sure you want an answer or clarification right now. Keep your emotions on the DL only slightly express them and "hint" to him here and there. That is what I have been doing with mine and she is SLOWLY giving in. It's not manipulation in my opinion on my part, but purely mirroring her emotions and what she is allowing me to see so that I can connect on her level.
Hope that makes sense...
Oh wow, it's been a while since I posted here.
Again, thanks for all of your advice a few months back.
Here's an update:
We're back together.
I finally decided to focus on me, after trying to show him I was there for him when he needed a friend. It seemed like he appreciated it. Then being the scorp I am, I decided to let him know I still had feelings for him (after 2 months of us being broken up) and that I wasn't expecting anything from him. He said "I still have feelings but..." and that's it. I had enough at that point, I really just wanted to move on, I didn't want to feel like this anymore.
I stopped talking to him after that, for a week and two days. Then, to my surprise I got a call from him at 1:22am. He said he had something important to say. So ended up picking me up from my house, and we went to a local hotel together (outside, on the beach)
Then he just grabbed me close, not giving me much of an option to refuse him. This happened a day before Christmas.
He spilled everything. "I always did love you, it's just that people made me feel like I wasn't good enough for you, but now I don't care what they have to say." and "You're the only person I want". All this felt like a Christmas miracle honestly. I finally decided to give up and focus on myself, then BAM, he comes right back.
For him tell me all of this, and not even initiate sex.. All he did was hold me close til the sun came up. He told me "I love you", and replied, telling him I loved him too. Then he held me tighter and said "I love you more".
He even got me a Christmas present.
So yeah.. we're back together, I'm more relaxed now, and trying to stop worrying so much. I love the fact he's with me even though he knows how I worry, and my insecurities.
I had a friend of his tell me, "He really cares about you, just give him some time. The reason why he keeps pushing you away the way he does is because he doesn't want to get hurt. Just continue being you. I've never seen him with a girl like this before."
Again, thanks for all of your advice a few months back.
Here's an update:
We're back together.
I finally decided to focus on me, after trying to show him I was there for him when he needed a friend. It seemed like he appreciated it. Then being the scorp I am, I decided to let him know I still had feelings for him (after 2 months of us being broken up) and that I wasn't expecting anything from him. He said "I still have feelings but..." and that's it. I had enough at that point, I really just wanted to move on, I didn't want to feel like this anymore.
I stopped talking to him after that, for a week and two days. Then, to my surprise I got a call from him at 1:22am. He said he had something important to say. So ended up picking me up from my house, and we went to a local hotel together (outside, on the beach)
Then he just grabbed me close, not giving me much of an option to refuse him. This happened a day before Christmas.
He spilled everything. "I always did love you, it's just that people made me feel like I wasn't good enough for you, but now I don't care what they have to say." and "You're the only person I want". All this felt like a Christmas miracle honestly. I finally decided to give up and focus on myself, then BAM, he comes right back.
For him tell me all of this, and not even initiate sex.. All he did was hold me close til the sun came up. He told me "I love you", and replied, telling him I loved him too. Then he held me tighter and said "I love you more".
He even got me a Christmas present.
So yeah.. we're back together, I'm more relaxed now, and trying to stop worrying so much. I love the fact he's with me even though he knows how I worry, and my insecurities.
I had a friend of his tell me, "He really cares about you, just give him some time. The reason why he keeps pushing you away the way he does is because he doesn't want to get hurt. Just continue being you. I've never seen him with a girl like this before."
Glad it all worked out. 🙂
Posted by GunFireHarmony
So yeah.. we're back together, I'm more relaxed now, and trying to stop worrying so much. I love the fact he's with me even though he knows how I worry, and my insecurities.
this is very cute, i can relate
great update
Thanks!! Part of me is still scared, but I'm willing to see where it goes 🙂
Aww that's so sweet glad it worked out for u
I think it really did help, thanks again! 😄
For him to stick around even though I'm insecure, and have "daddy" issues, means the world to me.
And him listening to my feelings (even though sometimes he's just like "you just need to relax") blows my mind.
For him to stick around even though I'm insecure, and have "daddy" issues, means the world to me.
And him listening to my feelings (even though sometimes he's just like "you just need to relax") blows my mind.
Wow GunFireHarmony!! You posted this on 10/01/2013 --- Im sure by now so many things have happened .. Reading your initial post is like me ready what's exactly happening to me right now ... I need some advice ..
My Capriporn ... He is;
Smart
Handsome
And has so many other qualities that are amazing and we have been together for 6 months and I sort of did the same thing you did , I told him he needed to work on his Communication skills because I felt like I didn't know whether we were dating or just hanging out.
We would go to the movies together eat together hang out about three or four times per week and never the word girlfriend has come into this relationship.
I feel like today I have pushed him away even further because he sent to me that maybe we should only be friends and that he needs time to work on himself. He stated there is absolutely nothing wrong with me that I am great that we should be friends and then see what happens from there. I have no idea what to do. My mind is telling me to let him go but my heart says be patience .... Please advise me .. Thank you
My Capriporn ... He is;
Smart
Handsome
And has so many other qualities that are amazing and we have been together for 6 months and I sort of did the same thing you did , I told him he needed to work on his Communication skills because I felt like I didn't know whether we were dating or just hanging out.
We would go to the movies together eat together hang out about three or four times per week and never the word girlfriend has come into this relationship.
I feel like today I have pushed him away even further because he sent to me that maybe we should only be friends and that he needs time to work on himself. He stated there is absolutely nothing wrong with me that I am great that we should be friends and then see what happens from there. I have no idea what to do. My mind is telling me to let him go but my heart says be patience .... Please advise me .. Thank you
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Wow GunFireHarmony!! You posted this on 10/01/2013 --- Im sure by now so many things have happened .. Reading your initial post is like me ready what's exactly happening to me right now ... I need some advice ..
My Capriporn ... He is;
Smart
Handsome
And has so many other qualities that are amazing and we have been together for 6 months and I sort of did the same thing you did , I told him he needed to work on his Communication skills because I felt like I didn't know whether we were dating or just hanging out.
We would go to the movies together eat together hang out about three or four times per week and never the word girlfriend has come into this relationship.
I feel like today I have pushed him away even further because he sent to me that maybe we should only be friends and that he needs time to work on himself. He stated there is absolutely nothing wrong with me that I am great that we should be friends and then see what happens from there. I have no idea what to do. My mind is telling me to let him go but my heart says be patience .... Please advise me .. Thank you
You'll have more luck creating a new thread instead of piggy backing on a two year old thread.
Just sayin'
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His sun sign is Capricorn, and his Venus is in Aquarius, according to this website: http://astro.cafeastrology.com/cgi-bin/astro/natal<BR>
Anyways, lately my Cappie has more distant than usual. I left him alone for a week, and when I did hang out with him, it wasn't for very long. We hung out for almost 3 hours, then I dropped him home, only to have one of his friends to take him back out. I have no problem with him hanging out with his friends, but just acknowledge me.
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