Capricorn man likes to make jealous an ex?

So,my story with dating a capricorn man was lasting for about 6 months(me being a Virgo).
All good until i said iam not ready yet for the next level(getting intimate,iam slow person in that department).I told him i need more time ,i understand his point of wiew ,but wanted a bit of understanting for my slow aproach to relationship.180 degrees change from his part,not wanting to talk with me anymore(only once since we are not together,in a month).
Fast forward-i told him i want to go see him dancing(very good salsa dancer)so i did.
Surprise-he was saluting me briefly(nodding head) and that was all(no talking with me,nothing).I was with some girlfriends at my the table,so i didnt stare at him all night(LOL).
But i could see him being lets say different,having lot of fun,dancing with all the girls in his group,chatting with them ,laughing,overeacting (since he is such a reserved person ussually).
Anyhow at some point i left,without saying good bye or waving to him and went in a club with my girlfriends(which i dont ussually do,last time went in a club 3 years ago).
Next day i send him an offline message saying he is a great dancer,no reply.
I think i was a bit dumb to go there,but i did it,so i cant take time back.
So ,i decide it to let it go(after a crying session of 2 hours) and move on(still hard,though)

Maybe he just wanted to get laid and realized you wanted it to mean more, so he went to find it elsewhere.

Maybe he was trying to let you know how desirable he is.

Maybe he was hurt by your rejection, so he sheilded up and that is the only way he knows to hide his hurt.

Maybe he was with someone else that night.

Maybe he was showing off.

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Thank you ,guys for your replys(sorry for my english-)
Truecap-exactly is what i thought too-all those questions-)
Maybe to give silent treatment and stop thinking about it,i really dont know.

I'd just play it cool. See if you can tell what his actions are now. Be warm and friendly if he contacts you, but I wouldn't make any efforts to reach out to him.

I shoot in my foot,last night.
I saw him online and:

_I asked if he is upset with me?
_he said-no,why he should be upset?
_because we didnt exchange any word Saturday(when he was dancing).
_No answer from his part(he wrote 2 sentencences and he erased them,not sending to me)
_I said-i think you are busy ,i leave now,have a good evening.
_he said good night to you too.


That was all,but i broke No contact rule,maybe i will be more well behaved from now on..The thing is i can do ,no reach, people usually,but why i cant ignore him?
I MUST control my actions(iam a Virgo after all-)

I didnt want to get intimate bc i didnt feel we are on same wavelenght emotionally,yet(maybe we both hold it back,the emotions).
He is going dancing every saturday(he is doing this class with his brother-instructor type),so probably is his way of relaxing.He was inviting me to go to this classes ,if i feel like(that after break up).What s the point?Maybe ,just trying to be polite..
Anyway,best thing is just let it go and focus on my own(doing a gluten free diet at the moment which is asking for a bit of research and passion for cooking🙂.
Thanks for your input

The capricorn man contacted me online,out of the blue(exactly when i was talking with a friend guy online).
How he did sense that?
He invited me to go to his classes of dance next week ,because he will start a begginer class,him being the instructor.
It seemed a bit funny,since i said previously i like to watch their group dancing,never said to him iam eager to attend,seemed funny also he contacted me after some time.
Anyhow i said i will think about it and i gave him one little advice about the succes of the class(a bit of marketing idea).He said will think about it.
And then he just dissapeared from chat,without saying goodbye(LOL).
I found that rude..
Now,i dont know what to do-to go to classes or not to go?this is the question..

He's looking for clients maybe.

If you want to learn, then go. If you don't care about learning, then don't.

Just don't go as an excuse to be close to him.

So,i went to salsa classes ,it was great fun(is two times/weekly).
Iam doing quite a long distance to go there and also the hours are quite late,8 in the evening(yesterday was raining like crazy,but i went still)and i like it.
I cant make the delimitation yet if iam going for salsa or for seeing him(anyway,iam going for 1 month,since is such an alert type of dance,im learning quite a lot in a short time,i will reevaluate my feelings or attitude in short time ).
The strange part is i dont have a pair at salsa,so im dancing only with him(last time i was dancing also with the other instructor,last night only with him).The other instructor is his brother.
When the class finished i was leaving,not staying around,since he just zoom to the other people who are having class after our class.And is quite late,too.
Iam not trying to analyze,its just a headache to do that and iam not going to torture myself.
But just some time i send him an offline,telling he is good with his work(and he is really good,teaching everybody),though he was doing some remarks when i was faulting,but not in a mean way(just for the teaching sake).

It is quite awkward ,so probably i will quit after one month (since i paid the all month).
I didnt feel like butterflies in my stomach ,like other time when i used to see him,just a big admiration for his work and life style -doing his normal job daily,classes in the evening,iam not sure if he is working at the weekends too,like he use to do all summer).The awkwardness is still there,i can feel it ,so this is probably the main reason i will give up to the lessons.

If you like it, you can always take lessons somewhere else. If you're having fun, stick with it. You don't have to do it there. 🙂

Thank you ,Truecap!
First time when i went it was ok,second time kind of ok,too(but next day i was crying,so must be some feelings remaining in my heart).
And i think he can sense that and having a thrill from it!
I think from my point of wiew is becoming increasingly awkward for me,so probably i will go only 2 times,this week(so i will not lose all the money and i will give up on the other 4 classes i paid for).
I think i need it as a closure,thats why i went to classes,or just to see him-)?

Recognizing your own motives is 90% of the battle of overcoming your issues. Hang in there. 🙂

One thing I learned, is to NEVER initiate contact. It's very hard to not talk or think about him, but if you really want him back, you'll be needing EXTREME PATIENCE.
He'll come back one day when you moved on already. He won't care when you're crying your eyes out. He won't care if you declare your feelings to him. In fact, all of these will push him away.

Just let him be and move on. Another thing I learned with being with Capricorns, is that you need to be FIERCELY INDEPENDENT.

YOU SHOULDN'T CARE ABOUT THEM AT ALL. This will make them pursue you.

It'll take a while, and maybe you would move on for good and have a sense of dignity. Or if you really do love him, then wait patiently, He WILL come back. Just try to extinguish that emotional instability, sadness, and anger if you really want him back.

Fiercely independent or not clingy?
I think maybe a bit of care towards him,should be good?
I was going dancing again,i had so much fun-smiling and chatting with people,asking capy about the steps,being light and content!And yeah,wearing high heels too-).
At the end of class,who was aproaching me?asking me how was the class,how did i manage the piruetes?still find it difficult?-).was the capy!
I said -i think i mannage better now,dont you think so?
His answer was -absolutely,no doubt!-)
I said goodbye and he answered back with three goodbye formulas(goodbye,bye and good night-).
So,better to be light and having fun,time will tell if is something there!

hi,
iam back with my story and maybe i will get some light in my questions.
I kept very light my friendly relationship with the Cap man i used to date(paying few compliments about his dance and his ambition).
Only one time i said iam a bit nervous when iam dancing with him,not same thing happening with dancing with his brother.And he cut it off straight away,saying he i very busy
Anyway,same story,at dance class ,he is ignoring me,coming very close to me ,but talking to guys and laughing(he is very serious ,ussually).We are still dancing together as partners,though.
Anyway,thursday evening i went to a classical music concert with one of my guy friends and by chance i met on the way there, the Cap s brother(the other dance instructor),i smiled ,waved and said hello to him.
Today,i send an offline to my?Cap asking if he likes some grapes juice(home made),the one who becomes wine in few weeks time(i dont know the name exactly).
his answer was_ no,baby,iam fine thanks!
He said BABY_he didnt say that since July when he broke up with me.
Why he does that?iam puzzled.
Thank you in advance for your replies

It's just a figure of speech. I don't think he meant anything by it because his actions don't show it. He might be one of those types that calls everyone baby, honey, sugar - you know the type.

Sorry. Not trying to burst your bubble.

Thank you,Truecap.
He is very serious type,so using this pet name was just like a frisbee,i think(to see how high i can jump).
I asked why he said that and he answer was-did i call you that?it was because i like you as a friend??
I said -ah,ok then,...(and i used the pet name i used to give him).
Anyway,finally i made up my mind(because of crazy ignorance who he gave me when i went to dance classes_literally he was talking to everybody next to me,except me).
And Tuesday night,after the class i send him an offline-saying i find awkward all the ignorance between us and for me is a bit hard and soon to keep the friendship stage,maybe for him is a different story).
SO ,i made up my mind to just cut off all the ties with him(i think just now hit me the fact we are not an item and probably never will be).
So,i cried a lot,but felt relieved also.
Thank you ,Truecap.
Probably he wanted to keep on friendly basis ,just to not feel guilty,for dumping me or he just wanted to make more clients for his classes(which makes him a lousy person who will use people for his own benefit).
Anyhow,i look forward to my life and decide to ignore everything about him(is like a fog is lifting from my brain,pfew).

Good luck Mika. You're a sweet girl. Hoping the next guy will be the One!