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Why do cap men come back?
How Do Capricorns Heal From Breakups?
Capricorns usually heal from breakups by going quiet, throwing themselves into work, and avoiding talking about their feelings at first. Many people notice they act fine on the surface while staying busy and emotionally shut down. In real situations, the emotions often hit later once things slow down and distractions fade. Their healing process is slow, controlled, and rarely visible in the beginning.
It's called being a selfish control freak. I had to deal with similar bs from one and I'm an Aries too.
Time to ice the douche out. There's no secret underlying love/lust. These guys, when off in the deep end, turn into grade A crazies that want to keep you under their control.
You are not some toy of his that he can play with as he pleases, but hide away from everyone else because he's being selfish.
My ex cap also came back,i am not sure exactly why,but i feel like he can't see me dating other people but all for himself. The difference then and now is he wants to hang around with me more often and when i don't even have an interest and seeing someone else.
My Cap tried to come back to me after 8 months of radio silence!
I imagine they either:
1) need someone to stoke their ego for a moment;
2) ......or their cock, lol;
3) need to remind themselves why they left you.
I've been on dxpnet for the past 8 months, looking for a "disappearance" story with a happy ending. I haven't found any.
Best way to deal with his "comeback" is by ignoring it. That is what I did. Try it too. You have no idea how good it feels.
YOU COULD SAY NO MORE ITS DONE DON'T BOTHER ME AGAIN.
Posted by Undine
My Cap tried to come back to me after 8 months of radio silence!I imagine they either:
1) need someone to stoke their ego for a moment;
2) ......or their cock, lol;
3) need to remind themselves why they left you.I've been on dxpnet for the past 8 months, looking for a "disappearance" story with a happy ending. I haven't found any.
Best way to deal with his "comeback" is by ignoring it. That is what I did. Try it too. You have no idea how good it feels.
Thiiis. Once I iced out the one that was being a dick, the feeling was pretty empowering. It took all the power away from him and it protected me from any further bullshit attempts.
Besides, regardless of sign, if ANY ex pops up out of nowhere wanting to catch up, hang out, whatever they want to label it as, it's always either for sex or ego stroking. Very rarely is their appearance of any genuine interest in being friends.
DAMN AQUAS ALWAYS GOT THE ANSWERS
WE CAPS DON'T EVEN REMEMBER YESTERDAY.
Update!!!
I ran, did the deed.
I had a good face to face talk with my cap.. I said hey Im not going to be immaturely punished over your emotional insecurities. If you're not ready for a relationship. I'm not waiting around, and I will not go back and forth with you.
He did a stubborn grunt, and I went on my merry way.
Plus I have a date tonight 🙂
BOOM! Like a boss.
Posted by Sangfroid
I've experienced this with Mars Cap/prominent Scorpio guys as well and none of them were Solar Caps. I've never dated another Cap so I can't say if Solar Cap males are more likely to behave this way than other men.RUN! I know this is easier said for me than it is for most other women to do.
When dealing with these types of men....RUN anyway!! or run to them!!
Off the top of my head, Rod Stewart got molested by an older woman (Solar Cap with Cap Mars) w/Lunar Scorp and sings Maggie May - the much older woman who broke all the rules for him, and all the taboos.
Some cap guys like the chase and the attention u give them..once they have u then they don't need to chase any more. As soon as u stop giving them attention boom they reappear or when we try to move on boom they reappear whn we are making moves to see other people.
The cap guy senses u have pulled right back so they look over their shoulder to see why u arnt chasing any more
Maybe the cap guys here can give some input into whether they come back because they have and are sensing you have lost interest/pull back method or because they want u to re-engage the chasing.
Does the cap guy want you back or is he doing it cos he is missing the attention you gave. This only a cap can answer.
Obviously we all have our instincts and can guess why only ur cap guy can truely tell u why he is doing it
We can only tell you how the game is played...
Hmm this is an interesting thread. My ex Cap would always come back for me after a while. Although I would always initiate contact, and he would seize that moment to get back with me. It's like he's been waiting for me to contact him.
Oh wow! That's exactly what he does, as soon as I have no longer given him any attention...usually at about 3 weeks I can tell he panics that I may have moved on.
Always. Always a super luring ice breaker as well. Some kind of caring concern toward me and my child.
Perhaps a family tragedy and I am there for support which turns into him wanting me back.
Then I find out the person that passed was like a 2nd cousin he never met.
Tricky I know.
I just want the cycle to end. I'm tired now 😢 no more games! The incessant driving by my house at 4 am doesn't help his case either..extremely territorial regardless of us being OFF not on.
Anyhoo...just thought I'd add some more. :-/
Well I'm a Virgo woman and I asked my capricorn bf for space because I found a pic of his ex in some questionable clothing in his phone. He claims he loves the ground I walk on and he's always telling me how special I am to him but his actions lately says other wise. Anywho I miss him dearly and tried showing him that I was sorry for asking for space. He told me once when I asked for space how that made him feel but that's the only way I know how to handle situations without hurting someone's feelings. Anyway I've texted him at least 30 times and I called him twice and nothing....so I took it a little further and I sent a little treat bag to his house with everything he enjoys AND NOTHING soooo I sent a edible arrangement to his job and guess what NOTHING!!!!!! At this point I feel unappreciated and I'm done with our whole relationship. ...maybe he was doing it to teach me a lesson. Well lesson learn.....I've deleted everything ever dealing with him down to his number and I don't remember those. My healing process. I love him dearly and probably always will but me coming back after that isn't likely. Missing him but will be ok. Thanks for listening ?
Cap men "come back" when they've had a fight or are pissed off with their gf. That I do know lol!
Posted by vwarner
Well I'm a Virgo woman and I asked my capricorn bf for space because I found a pic of his ex in some questionable clothing in his phone. He claims he loves the ground I walk on and he's always telling me how special I am to him but his actions lately says other wise. Anywho I miss him dearly and tried showing him that I was sorry for asking for space. He told me once when I asked for space how that made him feel but that's the only way I know how to handle situations without hurting someone's feelings. Anyway I've texted him at least 30 times and I called him twice and nothing....so I took it a little further and I sent a little treat bag to his house with everything he enjoys AND NOTHING soooo I sent a edible arrangement to his job and guess what NOTHING!!!!!! At this point I feel unappreciated and I'm done with our whole relationship. ...maybe he was doing it to teach me a lesson. Well lesson learn.....I've deleted everything ever dealing with him down to his number and I don't remember those. My healing process. I love him dearly and probably always will but me coming back after that isn't likely. Missing him but will be ok. Thanks for listening ?
Once you beg they loose respect and start torturing you with the ice out to teach you a lesson. The best way is to apologize once and then it is their turn to put on their big boy shorts and communicate.
Not a cap guy, but I'm a cap girl. My pov is that sometimes I do check in on some exs to see how they are doing , I like to hear that they are doing good. If it's not very often then mostly likely it's just a hey how have you been. I don't want them to chase me.
On the other hand.
If keep messaging, calling, texting , Snapchatting whatever I genuinely care. Especially if I'm asking more personal questions directly like are you seeing anyone. Or if I bring up something about when we were together that's like a subtle hint (I miss you) . If I'm flirting then definitely a good sign. I want to try again , I want to see if we've grown as people. I very much believe that people mature and get better. I know I do. I'm not the same selfish shithead I used to be. If they are telling you they changed and want to try again then they mean it. Or at least I do. If I get a fair good chance I'll prove it. If given the chance I'll prove it. If you want to talk in circles about how you're unsure it's going to make me unsure I get all thrown off because I came up with a "wooing" game plan, and now my plans are on a tight wire and I get all wobbly. If your unsure say your unsure if it's more of the yeah I want to try again, then dip your toe in and give it a test . See if it's still there.
Never experienced my Cappie man leaving me then coming'back..? We've "broken up" ..overnight.. because of me.. I had cold feet because the Long Distance was getting to me so I told him I needed a break but we got right back together early the next day. Also, whenever I ask my cap if he wants to be friends, until our timing and schedules get easier to balance w/ our relationship, he straight up says "No, I want you." Never had a problem with him being real about me, no matter how "aloof" he is... He doesn't want anyone else to have me. SO he's not even risking a break.
The time I broke up with my cap.. he said he doesn't necessarily like or agree with my decision, he likes me alot. But he has to respect my decision..(Grown man shit)
Next day, I texted.. "Hey, would I be "coo coo" if I told you I wanted you back, the distance is hard for me, but I can't see myself without you..." he responded, "I wouldn't call you coo coo.. Nothing would surprise me, but I want you too.."
Maybe it's other placements of your cap?
My Cap's Placements:
Capricorn Sun
Aquarius Venus
Taurus Moon
Pisces Mars
My Placements:
Scorpio Sun
Sagittarius Venus
Libra Mars & Moon
Capricorn Rising
Posted by poison_ivy
Never experienced my Cappie man leaving me then coming'back..? We've "broken up" ..overnight.. because of me.. I had cold feet because the Long Distance was getting to me so I told him I needed a break but we got right back together early the next day. Also, whenever I ask my cap if he wants to be friends, until our timing and schedules get easier to balance w/ our relationship, he straight up says "No, I want you." Never had a problem with him being real about me, no matter how "aloof" he is... He doesn't want anyone else to have me. SO he's not even risking a break.The time I broke up with my cap.. he said he doesn't necessarily like or agree with my decision, he likes me alot. But he has to respect my decision..(Grown man shit)
Next day, I texted.. "Hey, would I be "coo coo" if I told you I wanted you back, the distance is hard for me, but I can't see myself without you..." he responded, "I wouldn't call you coo coo.. Nothing would surprise me, but I want you too.."
Maybe it's other placements of your cap?
My Cap's Placements:
Capricorn Sun
Aquarius Venus
Taurus Moon
Pisces Mars
My Placements:
Scorpio Sun
Sagittarius Venus
Libra Mars & Moon
Capricorn Rising
It's his Taurus Moon *hearts*
Posted by poison_ivy
Never experienced my Cappie man leaving me then coming'back..? We've "broken up" ..overnight.. because of me.. I had cold feet because the Long Distance was getting to me so I told him I needed a break but we got right back together early the next day. Also, whenever I ask my cap if he wants to be friends, until our timing and schedules get easier to balance w/ our relationship, he straight up says "No, I want you." Never had a problem with him being real about me, no matter how "aloof" he is... He doesn't want anyone else to have me. SO he's not even risking a break.The time I broke up with my cap.. he said he doesn't necessarily like or agree with my decision, he likes me alot. But he has to respect my decision..(Grown man shit)
Next day, I texted.. "Hey, would I be "coo coo" if I told you I wanted you back, the distance is hard for me, but I can't see myself without you..." he responded, "I wouldn't call you coo coo.. Nothing would surprise me, but I want you too.."
Maybe it's other placements of your cap?
My Cap's Placements:
Capricorn Sun
Aquarius Venus
Taurus Moon
Pisces Mars
My Placements:
Scorpio Sun
Sagittarius Venus
Libra Mars & Moon
Capricorn Rising
It's his Taurus Moon *hearts*
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Can you break down a person w a Taurus moon for me?? Pretty Please?? LOL! 😉
Posted by LibraLovesHim
Cap men "come back" when they've had a fight or are pissed off with their gf. That I do know lol!Old ass thread
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Yep! You're learning to read how long ago this was posted. LOL
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
I have been seeing this cap guy off and on. I will end the relationship for several different reasons, and same for him he has ended it too. Once for him, and twice by me. Every time I move on and go forward with my life and start dating someone new, he sabatages my relationship.
Then wants to work things out. I'm unsure why he does this? I love him, and he loves me(I think). But I'm frustrated with these antics. As soon as I give him another chance he blows up over something small and needs space...I feel like he's trying to punish me for not behaving or doing as he wishes.
Now we're in another one if these he needs space and wants nothing to do with me....but he went above and beyond the call of duty to make sure my relationship with someone else crashed and tells me I need to wait before I date anyone. What does this mean? Does he think i should wait on his time before I date someone else? Is it he really wants nothing to do with me or that he wants to be with me and wants us to heal before we try again?....and doesn't want me to see anyone else in the meantime.
Please help me! I'm broken, I love him but every time I try to move on when he does this "I want nothing to do with you" stuff...he blocks other potential suiters!
He is also 10 years older than I.
I'm an Aries, Scorpio rising, cancer moon, taurus mercury, mars gemini, venus Aries.
He's capricorn, Scorpio rising, Virgo moon, Capricorn mercury, venus in Sagittarious, mars in Capricorn.
Well, Scorpio rising, Moon in Cancer not really stablelising your emotions I guess...When men irritational, they need a woman who is more logical, opposite attraction, unless he is gay😉
Why don’t you give yourself time and space to reflect what do you really want in life? Relationship falls, you are not alone, but it’s okay, love is still beautiful thing. Don’t give up. Don’t rush to go into next relationship, it only shows you didn’t care your past and can come across as disrespect to your exs. Also appeared your weakness of being alone.
Stay busy, be positive. You got hurts is simply you are allowing them to do so. You are a doorkeeper to your own heart, take good care of yourself, girl. Life is good with love and without love.
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I have been seeing this cap guy off and on. I will end the relationship for several different reasons, and same for him he has ended it too. Once for him, and twice by me. Every time I move on and go forward with my life and start dating someone new, he sabatages my relationship.
Then wants to work things out. I'm unsure why he does this? I love him, and he loves me(I think). But I'm frustrated with these antics. As soon as I give him another chance he blows up over something small and needs space...I feel like he's trying to punish me for not behaving or doing as he wishes.
Now we're in another one if these he needs space and wants nothing to do with me....but he went above and beyond the call of duty to make sure my relationship with someone else crashed and tells me I need to wait before I date anyone. What does this mean? Does he think i should wait on his time before I date someone else? Is it he really wants nothing to do with me or that he wants to be with me and wants us to heal before we try again?....and doesn't want me to see anyone else in the meantime.
Please help me! I'm broken, I love him but every time I try to move on when he does this "I want nothing to do with you" stuff...he blocks other potential suiters!
He is also 10 years older than I.
I'm an Aries, Scorpio rising, cancer moon, taurus mercury, mars gemini, venus Aries.
He's capricorn, Scorpio rising, Virgo moon, Capricorn mercury, venus in Sagittarious, mars in Capricorn.