Communication Issues

Ok, Caps. I need to know if I'm the only one with this problem. I have a hard time communicating my absolute true feelings (I have a very small "inner circle" -- like 2 to 3 people -- who know the "real me"). Why is this? Are we so busy being the politically correct? Or are we so busy trying to be accepted by the norm? Or are we afraid of being judged? Or is it that we are so shielded that we are uncomfortable being ourselves? I feel that my true feelings will offend the majority of the people around me. I'm very, very conservative in my opinions and political beliefs. However, Then again, I'm rather liberal on my sexual beliefs, astrology beliefs, etc. I'm even confused on how libeal/conservative I am.

*whispers *- please dont judge me

Posted by truecap
Ok, Caps. I need to know if I'm the only one with this problem. I have a hard time communicating my absolute true feelings (I have a very small "inner circle" -- like 2 to 3 people -- who know the "real me"). Why is this? Are we so busy being the politically correct? Or are we so busy trying to be accepted by the norm? Or are we afraid of being judged? Or is it that we are so shielded that we are uncomfortable being ourselves? I feel that my true feelings will offend the majority of the people around me. I'm very, very conservative in my opinions and political beliefs. However, Then again, I'm rather liberal on my sexual beliefs, astrology beliefs, etc. I'm even confused on how libeal/conservative I am.

*whispers *- please dont judge me

I feel bad for you, caps. Communication is the key in a relationships with all the people, not only the ones we love.

I think a lot of people feel the way you do but most of them overcome the fear of being judged to a certain extend...
You just have to look at communication as a work to be done, since caps are so big on working and getting job done 🙂

I had a big problem expressing my feelings until my most dearest person passed away. That's when I realized how important it is to tell how you feel, even it makes you super uncomfortable, just because you might never get another chance to say what you have to say!!!!
I, also always remember that my words can make someone's day and then I just say it. Besides it's not always about me! I can be uncomfortable for a while, no big deal.

Sounds like me *sigh*

I have this fear that if I tell someone how i'm feeling..i'll scare them away. I have no problems communicating with family and friends but in a relationship (or in the pursuit of one) I get choked up and I end up regetting it deeply later.

I guess thats why my dating life is in such a damn rut now.

Posted by saggie123

Posted by truecap
Ok, Caps. I need to know if I'm the only one with this problem. I have a hard time communicating my absolute true feelings (I have a very small "inner circle" -- like 2 to 3 people -- who know the "real me"). Why is this? Are we so busy being the politically correct? Or are we so busy trying to be accepted by the norm? Or are we afraid of being judged? Or is it that we are so shielded that we are uncomfortable being ourselves? I feel that my true feelings will offend the majority of the people around me. I'm very, very conservative in my opinions and political beliefs. However, Then again, I'm rather liberal on my sexual beliefs, astrology beliefs, etc. I'm even confused on how libeal/conservative I am.

*whispers *- please dont judge me

I feel bad for you, caps. Communication is the key in a relationships with all the people, not only the ones we love.

I think a lot of people feel the way you do but most of them overcome the fear of being judged to a certain extend...
You just have to look at communication as a work to be done, since caps are so big on working and getting job done 🙂

I had a big problem expressing my feelings until my most dearest person passed away. That's when I realized how important it is to tell how you feel, even it makes you super uncomfortable, just because you might never get another chance to say what you have to say!!!!
I, also always remember that my words can make someone's day and then I just say it. Besides it's not always about me! I can be uncomfortable for a while, no big deal.

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I like this!

My dating life is in a rut too CapSoul. I have no problems laughing and somewhat joking with a guy, almost to the point where I'm seen as a homegirl, and I'll talk about his feelings in general, but will absolutely not talk about mine. I just hate the questions that comes after what I say, which usually reveals that I really don't put much thought into how I feel, and I don't think is a Cap thing since my Cappie friend expresses himself wonderfully, but then again, maybe he doesn't either. He put a lot of thought into a situation, but if I ask him how he feels, or he starts to reveal feelings he'll go on about it for a second, then stop midway and say "I don't know." I do that a lot too.

As far as telling a guy how I feel about him, it's probably not happening ever. My phone was off for about a week and I switched services, so when I got the new number I text my Taurus friend and he was like "aww, you missed me didn't you?" and of course I had to twist it so he'd say it first, and even after that I was still hesitant to say it. Just stubborn, but I'm sure that type of behavior is extremely exhausting for the other person. I actually feel a bit sad when a guy starts to fish for ways to get me to reveal something because it's like, dang it, I can't. At-least not now, and guys like to know pretty early how you feel about things.

I am actually curious:

Do you feel anything? ( don't mean it in a mean way 🙂)
Do you experience highs and lows even if you don't share with others?
Do you analize your feelings?

So here is another question or two 🙂

In what circumstances you let your guards down with a girl you are seeing?
What can help to ease your cautiousness and help to give some feelings out?

I've noticed that my cappie likes complements a lot... It makes him feel good about himself, I always say something nice to him(he is the sexiest, the best, the sweetest and so on), and mean it every time.

Posted by saggie123
I am actually curious:

Do you feel anything? ( don't mean it in a mean way 🙂)
Do you experience highs and lows even if you don't share with others?
Do you analize your feelings?

Yes, Yes and Yes!

I say things that get misinterpreted a lot. Sometimes things don't come across the way I mean them.

Posted by truecap
I say things that get misinterpreted a lot. Sometimes things don't come across the way I mean them.

Hmm .... We are so similar. I wonder if it's been a mistake and I'm not a sag but a cap! LOL

Capricorn Men
what if a girl trusts you absolutely , accepts you as she sees you without asking you any questions about your feelings and intentions, does not doubt your sincerity or good intentions, let's say treats you as if you are a true gentleman who would never do anything malicious to her, even than you do not feel like open up to her?

Posted by ShahBano
Capricorn Men
what if a girl trusts you absolutely , accepts you as she sees you without asking you any questions about your feelings and intentions, does not doubt your sincerity or good intentions, let's say treats you as if you are a true gentleman who would never do anything malicious to her, even than you do not feel like open up to her?

I think they would but on their cap time frame 🙂

ok for debate'sake
you do trust her , why you do not know it yourself yet but still you do.
would you then initiate the expression of your feelings even when she is unaware of them in the first place.

let's say you have observed her for three months in the same house dealing with kids,elders and her own friends and her studies;running the household,she was entrusted the responsibility of taking care of the household where she and you both were guest. she does not know that you are watching/observing her. she is being just herself.
so you like her, actually you like her a lot--what grounds/ supportive evidence would you need to have to trust her?

Posted by cowpuncher
I used to worry about being judged when I was a younger Goat, and wanted to be perceived as more normal. Not so, anymore. Now I let my Capricorn Freak Flag fly. I'm happier that way too. I know who I am, I know what I think, I know where I stand. That's a much more honest, fulfilling place to be than trying to be 'accepted by the norm' for me. If we are unable to be our true selves, will anybody really ever get the chance to know us for who we really are?

My best friend told me one day "You are your own person aren't you?"

Yep! I have my own opinions and don't usually run with popular opinion just because its popular. My inner circle definitely know where I stand.

I'm a sag cusper with a venus in cap and I face the same problems.

I just can't seem to communicate effectively. Especially in relationships.

My aqua says I become really quiet when something's bothering me, and I get robotic with how I say things, like I have no feelings behind them. And he's right. Inside it's like fireworks, but outside I'm frozen.

And I think I've got a complex about how I sound and what I say....I take ages to send a text thinking of what words to use and how to phrase things. *sigh* Hard work being cap venus.