Cuffing season, Capricorn edition

I really need help with this question!!

If a Capricorn man (aqua moon) you've been hooking up with casually starts suggesting going out for dinner, should I start perusing him more to show that I'm into it? He mentioned doing that for my birthday next month but I was so suprised, I'm not sure if I should have been more firm about wanting to do that (my cap Venus stops me from showing too much). He's also mentioned that he wants to see my place. It's sort of progressed from dating last year or so briefly (didn't go well, I was going through a lot at the time) then just acquaintances, to fwb and he's really beginning to open up when I do see him now (he very rarely displays emotion and I used to take that as being disinterested, but he's said some deep things, even while cooly, it shows he has a heart in there). We talk about everything and cuddle for hours. I just wish he pursued me more. He seems to lean back but is enthusiastic when I suggest seeing him, he even said its a privilege to seen me. But he's also a workaholic 24/7 and going on a trip soon. I want to cuff this Cappy but I'm not sure how.. I REALLY like him. He's three decades older than me if that's a factor.

Good sign imo.

Go and have a good time. Tell him what you're looking for.

May I ask how old you are?

In my opinion: Don't tell him what you're looking for. Go out and enjoy your time together just as you have been, being receptive to his invitations.

Hmm both interesting responses, thx 🙂

I'm 26 (but my b day is next month) and he's 56 I believe (b day this month).

I actually got a bit miffed because he calls me "buddy" occasionally (I assumed he was setting boundaries, he literally calls everyone that). So I brought it up to him that he doesn't need to go out of his way to set them, I won't assume anything unless otherwise discussed. Then to my suprise he said "no no I'm sorry, if you hate it I'll stop, it's a habit and not about setting boundaries or anything like that at all." Contrastingly, he calls me darling too.

So, he had an "out," I mean he could have just said ok if he wanted boundaries, I'm thinking..

Yay to breaking boundaries! Ugh I want things to be official.

One of my family members has that sun-moon placement as well.

He sounds like he does like you since he's made the effort to suggest going out on an actual date. He might not be sure if you like him too and is being cautious. If both of you continue to be like that then it might not get anywhere. So yes, if you like him too, show more interest and enthusiasm because Capricorns are afraid of failure and he might keep you guys at the fwb/acquaintance level that you are right now.

Posted by themilkyway36
One of my family members has that sun-moon placement as well.

He sounds like he does like you since he's made the effort to suggest going out on an actual date. He might not be sure if you like him too and is being cautious. If both of you continue to be like that then it might not get anywhere. So yes, if you like him too, show more interest and enthusiasm because Capricorns are afraid of failure and he might keep you guys at the fwb/acquaintance level that you are right now.

Thanks for that insight, it makes sense.. I'll send him a text tomorrow as a feeler and mention having dinner soon. This would make sense because I've been told by guys sooo many times that I'm impossible to read, they thought I hated them, etc. I have a lot of cap in my chart constantly trying to supress my inner Pisces emotions because it's too embarrassing, I think I go overboard in the other direction and seem aloof. But honestly, I'm afraid of failure too, and rejection hurts my Pisces heart, so I'm trying to protect myself as well.

And lol I have to see him again anyway, he lent me a book (historical doc) and I borrowed a pair of his socks since it's cold out. ? I'm gonna read it soon and let him know what I think, more as a statement to let him know I appreciate it, I love learning about the subject and that I believe he has good taste in literature. I'm trying to compliment him, as I think caps like to feel helpful 🙂

I know, I'm trying to be more open. I'm so sensitive that I end up repressing everything.

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Posted by themilkyway36
One of my family members has that sun-moon placement as well.

He sounds like he does like you since he's made the effort to suggest going out on an actual date. He might not be sure if you like him too and is being cautious. If both of you continue to be like that then it might not get anywhere. So yes, if you like him too, show more interest and enthusiasm because Capricorns are afraid of failure and he might keep you guys at the fwb/acquaintance level that you are right now.

Thanks for that insight, it makes sense.. I'll send him a text tomorrow as a feeler and mention having dinner soon. This would make sense because I've been told by guys sooo many times that I'm impossible to read, they thought I hated them, etc. I have a lot of cap in my chart constantly trying to supress my inner Pisces emotions because it's too embarrassing, I think I go overboard in the other direction and seem aloof. But honestly, I'm afraid of failure too, and rejection hurts my Pisces heart, so I'm trying to protect myself as well.

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I get that, I'm a Capricorn Sun and I have a Pisces Venus so I really don't like to show any emotions even if I feel them. Much of it is forced in order to show somewhat of an interest, but I guess a lot of guys might have thought I was disinterested or unreadable too because of the lack of emotion I show towards people sometimes especially if I'm purposely trying to suppress some confusing/strong inner emotions. I don't want them to know or see my vulnerabilities or possibly do so in the future if they end up hurting me.

I feel like there's no in between for me sometimes; I either show too little emotion or I show too much (mostly in friendships though)

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Posted by themilkyway36
One of my family members has that sun-moon placement as well.

He sounds like he does like you since he's made the effort to suggest going out on an actual date. He might not be sure if you like him too and is being cautious. If both of you continue to be like that then it might not get anywhere. So yes, if you like him too, show more interest and enthusiasm because Capricorns are afraid of failure and he might keep you guys at the fwb/acquaintance level that you are right now.

Thanks for that insight, it makes sense.. I'll send him a text tomorrow as a feeler and mention having dinner soon. This would make sense because I've been told by guys sooo many times that I'm impossible to read, they thought I hated them, etc. I have a lot of cap in my chart constantly trying to supress my inner Pisces emotions because it's too embarrassing, I think I go overboard in the other direction and seem aloof. But honestly, I'm afraid of failure too, and rejection hurts my Pisces heart, so I'm trying to protect myself as well.

I get that, I'm a Capricorn Sun and I have a Pisces Venus so I really don't like to show any emotions even if I feel them. Much of it is forced in order to show somewhat of an interest, but I guess a lot of guys might have thought I was disinterested or unreadable too because of the lack of emotion I show towards people sometimes especially if I'm purposely trying to suppress some confusing/strong inner emotions. I don't want them to know or see my vulnerabilities or possibly do so in the future if they end up hurting me.

I feel like there's no in between for me sometimes; I either show too little emotion or I show too much (mostly in friendships though)

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Same. I feel any significant combo of Cap/Pisces can make for a very repressed individual (emotionally).

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Posted by themilkyway36
One of my family members has that sun-moon placement as well.

He sounds like he does like you since he's made the effort to suggest going out on an actual date. He might not be sure if you like him too and is being cautious. If both of you continue to be like that then it might not get anywhere. So yes, if you like him too, show more interest and enthusiasm because Capricorns are afraid of failure and he might keep you guys at the fwb/acquaintance level that you are right now.

Thanks for that insight, it makes sense.. I'll send him a text tomorrow as a feeler and mention having dinner soon. This would make sense because I've been told by guys sooo many times that I'm impossible to read, they thought I hated them, etc. I have a lot of cap in my chart constantly trying to supress my inner Pisces emotions because it's too embarrassing, I think I go overboard in the other direction and seem aloof. But honestly, I'm afraid of failure too, and rejection hurts my Pisces heart, so I'm trying to protect myself as well.

I get that, I'm a Capricorn Sun and I have a Pisces Venus so I really don't like to show any emotions even if I feel them. Much of it is forced in order to show somewhat of an interest, but I guess a lot of guys might have thought I was disinterested or unreadable too because of the lack of emotion I show towards people sometimes especially if I'm purposely trying to suppress some confusing/strong inner emotions. I don't want them to know or see my vulnerabilities or possibly do so in the future if they end up hurting me.

I feel like there's no in between for me sometimes; I either show too little emotion or I show too much (mostly in friendships though)

Same. I feel any significant combo of Cap/Pisces can make for a very repressed individual (emotionally).

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Yep. My saturn is in Pisces too so I feel like that aspect is probably significant too.

Posted by Seraphlight
It doesn't sound like a partnership. I don't think this sounds fair to yourself.

I understand you thinking that. But I really genuinely care for him as a person, and he has a lot to offer in terms of stability (which I SO need as a Pisces) both emotionally and otherwise, that is, if this moves to the next stage. The sex is also great. 🙂

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Posted by LoisLane
I know, I'm trying to be more open. I'm so sensitive that I end up repressing everything.

Fuck it just tell him.

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It's taken me a long time to get back what I have with him, he really liked me last year and I had a meltdown (multiple stressors), basically embarrassed him in front of people in his circle. He wouldn't speak to me for literally almost a year. I had to apologize and ditch the immature behaviour. Things are good but I don't want to be too testy.

Posted by AneemA
"should I start perusing him more to show that I'm into it?"

Lol thought you were talking about perusing pink furry handcuffs into bondage sex activity

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Btw, isn't it of cappy nature to be constrained. I mean, they're unlike sagittarius so if you want to make him committed to you, wouldn't be hard.

True, but he has Aqua moon and Venus.. I think he wants to be committed to somebody but has certain reservations that I'm gently trying dissuade.. He got burned bad by his ex wife, and has a bunch of gold diggers after him, so I get it. But I think he knows that's not who I am (or will at least come to realize that).