Have I lost my capricorn man for good

I was with this capricorn man for 3 months (we made it official between us 2months ago) Things were really good between us. We got on really well, we've never argued, we saw each other almost everyday.

Well last week he stopped speaking to me out of nowhere. We didn't argue, I didn't do anything to hurt or betray him. The day before he stopped speaking to me, he was at my house. We cooked dinner together, we ate dinner together, then watched tv together. I'm so hurt and confused.

He made a comment last week that he didn't want to rush our relationship (our relationship had moved quite quickly, but that was his doings, as I initially wanted to take my time), but he also made another comment that he felt in some ways not all, that I can take my time to sort out my affairs, which I can, but I thought he was a little cheeky for commenting on, as I am a single mother, who works full time and go to school in the evenings, and take care of some of my grandparents affairs for them on the weekends.

I've been sitting here wrecking my brain as to why he could have cut me off so. I have tried to call him (on 3 different occasions) and I have txt him twice. I've had no response. I've stopped trying but i really miss him, and I don't know if I will ever speak to him again

I'm sure you'll speak to him again. Just stop all contact for right now. Not another text, I mean it! Give him time.

I'm sorry to hear about your Cap. I'm sure you've read plenty about Caps going hot and cold. The thing is sometimes they need time to themselves. It may not necessarily have anything to do with you, but rather his need to reflect on things.

Since he made the comment about you both rushing and has pulled back, he may just be evaluating how he feels and where the relationship is going. The best thing you can do is give him his space.

Yeah, you will hear from him again. Try not to think about it too much...you won't get the answers from the universe, so it's wasted time. You seem like a very busy person with a lot on your plate. Put him allllll the way on the backburner, or stuff him in the oven where he belongs for now. The way he's gone about things is not cool.

Sorry to hear that he went cold with no warning. Cap guys can do that in the beginning of the relationship when they are thinking about things. It's frustrating but if you are still officially together, that is a good sign. Caps don't like to say anything when they are feeling unsure or angry because they don't want to say something they regret.

Scorpio you most likely did not do anything wrong. Men who have commitment issues will disappear and they usually disappear when everything is happy, united and/or perfect.

If things get too real and seem to be moving quick they disappear to SLOW everything down and in some ways to keep the relationship in the beginning stages where everything is fun, not real yet, not serious yet. Men with commitment ie commitment shy and/or commitmentphobic tend to rush, they tend to encourage the woman to move fast, they seem vulnerable which is very attractive to a lot of women but the down side is most women don't realize these kind of men eventually hit an emotional block/brick wall and they bolt out before the relationship can progress.

The important part isn't about him coming back. Take this down time to think about the type of guy you need in your life. Take this time alone to figure out if you can handle being with a man that will up and disappear on you. Use this down time wisely to figure out if he's the kind of man that will enhance your life or add more stress and strain to your life.

Posted by bnr7013
I dislike when caps do this but it's one of those quirks you learn to either ignore or move on from. We all have a "quirk" but caps usually pop back up like where's waldo on a Saturday night wearing a neon pink sweater in a field of daisies.

Ain't it the truth?!

Posted by JanuaryCappie


When something bothers me I get detached. I'm pretty bad at processing emotions let alone verbalizing.When my friend made me upset, she got the silent treatment for 1 week lol I admit, I was a jerk for that one.

Do you think?!!

Awwww guys, thank you all so much for you comments. I've been a good girl, and I have not contacted him since Saturday. I'm still a little hurt, and I still miss him, but if he doesn't come back, there is nothing I can do but move on.

I will keep you guys posted on what happens next

Tiki33 you're right. I should use this time to evaluate things. I really didn't like how he went about things. I deserved some kind of explanation.

Posted by Scorpio09
I've been a good girl, and I have not contacted him since Saturday. I'm still a little hurt, and I still miss him, but if he doesn't come....

Good job! I know you miss him and it's downright torture not to be in contact but you are being strong. Be proud of that. Sending you positive vibes and lots of hugs.

Thank you hiskittenmeow xxx

Scorpio09... How are things going? I'm dealing with a Cap (jan.8) and he does me the same way but when I give him his time he pops up! Truecap, JanuaryCappie, hiskittenmeow You guys are the best_??

Saglife333 he's still around some what, but I no longer have those kind of feelings for him

Yeah don’t call or text him!!! If you know he really likes you he will come back around they almost always do. My Cap friend still do this after years and I’m not official with him. I get upset and a little mad when he act like this but I shouldn’t because he always call eventually. Give him maybe a couple days or a week.

Please don’t ask him for no explanation unless he just give you one. Act like that didn’t phase you but don’t be so quick to see him.

Posted by faith $ golphin
Yeah don’t call or text him!!! If you know he really likes you he will come back around they almost always do. My Cap friend still do this after years and I’m not official with him. I get upset and a little mad when he act like this but I shouldn’t because he always call eventually. Give him maybe a couple days or a week.

...your cap "friend" does this because you've been his side chick for 578454 years now.


OP, this is grade A committmentphobe bullshit, tbh. You're also fading out of the honeymoon phase of the first 3-4 months and learning who he really is. The rule of thumb is three months. You will see their true self come out within that time. When you see them "suddenly change" this is the real person you're involved with.

Agree with Rocky. They can only be on their best behavior for a few months, then you see the true colors and the real personality of who they really are.

Oh hell, this thread is a year old.

Posted by truecap
Agree with Rocky. They can only be on their best behavior for a few months, then you see the true colors and the real personality of who they really are.

Yep. My mom told me about this when I was younger and it has been absolutely accurate. You want to see what a person is really like? Wait three months.

Posted by truecap
Oh hell, this thread is a year old.

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Sonofabitch. haha

The OP kinda gave an update though. lol @ he's still around. Of course he is. This type lingers because of user status. :/

rockyroadicecream your crazy 578454 years now!!!