MsImpala66
@MsImpala66
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HELP!!
His daughter is his priority right now. Don't take it personally.
Thanks! I completely understand that his daughter (who is 23 and his only child) comes first. Well I'm a Virgo so of course I am probably over anazlizing everything LOL, I really like him but I guess I feel like I am pursuing him verse him pursuing me.
Ok so I should just be patient??
Ok so I should just be patient??
Posted by CapMusicc
He's being straight up with you. That's all. You're fine.
Oan, to understand us.. it's simple. We're awesome.
Lol. I always think this. We are simple people!
I think that's what complicates it.
Op- yes, just be patient.
What happened to his daughter?
Depending on how serious it is, it will take priority. The fact that he makes the effort to keep contact is a good sign. Definitely be patient. His daughter will come first always.
Depending on how serious it is, it will take priority. The fact that he makes the effort to keep contact is a good sign. Definitely be patient. His daughter will come first always.
@Cappgirl...
Thank you! I apprciate the advise =)
Thank you! I apprciate the advise =)
@ aquapiscescusp
I don't know all the details on what happened to his daughter, he won't talk about it but I think it has to do with medical. I understand his daughter will always comes first and I am not trying to over take that. I can be happy being 2nd. Thank you....I will definitely be patient, I just wanted to make sure I was doing the right thing. Again thank you for your advise =)
I don't know all the details on what happened to his daughter, he won't talk about it but I think it has to do with medical. I understand his daughter will always comes first and I am not trying to over take that. I can be happy being 2nd. Thank you....I will definitely be patient, I just wanted to make sure I was doing the right thing. Again thank you for your advise =)
Posted by MsImpala66
@ aquapiscescusp
I don't know all the details on what happened to his daughter, he won't talk about it but I think it has to do with medical. I understand his daughter will always comes first and I am not trying to over take that. I can be happy being 2nd. Thank you....I will definitely be patient, I just wanted to make sure I was doing the right thing. Again thank you for your advise =)
you are welcome 🙂 anytime
I don't mean this to hurt your feelings, but I will be direct and honest with you.
You've only been talking to him for two months. He doesn't see you as a girlfriend/significant other yet, just someone he's met and he likes. So, no, he's not going to clue you in on the intimate details of what is going on with his daughter. Plus, you haven't had enough time to establish trust. This is not personal against you, just bad timing.
So, yes, be patient. I don't mean stop your life and wait, but don't give up on him. He is still making an effort to contact you, so rejoice in that. He is definitely still interested. Otherwise, a cap would focus on what we need to and forget the rest.
Just be happy to hear from him when he does contact you. Don't pry. It's okay to ask how things are, but don't push for information. He'll tell you if he wants to, depending on what it is. Keep a positive attitude and be cool and he will appreciate that.
This isn't a "test" but it will tell him about your character and a lot about the type of person you are. So keep that in mind. Sometimes life throws us curves and how you handle that (whether it's yours or his) is a very important thing to know about someone.
Depending on the situation, maybe things will go back to normal, maybe not. Just don't let it hurt you or affect your self esteem. I hope it works out, but if it doesn't just blame it on bad timing and stay friendly. That way, if it doesn't work, he will always remember you fondly as that classy girl.
You've only been talking to him for two months. He doesn't see you as a girlfriend/significant other yet, just someone he's met and he likes. So, no, he's not going to clue you in on the intimate details of what is going on with his daughter. Plus, you haven't had enough time to establish trust. This is not personal against you, just bad timing.
So, yes, be patient. I don't mean stop your life and wait, but don't give up on him. He is still making an effort to contact you, so rejoice in that. He is definitely still interested. Otherwise, a cap would focus on what we need to and forget the rest.
Just be happy to hear from him when he does contact you. Don't pry. It's okay to ask how things are, but don't push for information. He'll tell you if he wants to, depending on what it is. Keep a positive attitude and be cool and he will appreciate that.
This isn't a "test" but it will tell him about your character and a lot about the type of person you are. So keep that in mind. Sometimes life throws us curves and how you handle that (whether it's yours or his) is a very important thing to know about someone.
Depending on the situation, maybe things will go back to normal, maybe not. Just don't let it hurt you or affect your self esteem. I hope it works out, but if it doesn't just blame it on bad timing and stay friendly. That way, if it doesn't work, he will always remember you fondly as that classy girl.
@Truecap
Thank you for your honesty, I do appreciate it. I am so confused when it comes to him. Like I mentioned he was so communicative with me in the beginning. I started to really like him then bam it all stopped. He mentioned a little to me about what happened to his daughter the other night but again that was very limited. He mentioned he wants to go slow he doesn't want to rush things which is fine with me, but half the time I feel like he isn't interested. Our communication now is very very limited. Do we talk everyday yes but majority of the time its me checking to see how he is doing. He will text me hello through out the day and he does have me call him every morning when I wake up. So I'm thankful for that communication. I'm trying to be patient but I keep thinking if he is interested he would make more of an effort. When I saw him this last week it was nice, actually we got intimate. I thought it might spark a little more but no went back to being the same.
This is my first time dating a Capicorn so I don't really know what to expect. I have read up on the good traits and the bad traits to try to understand him. But me being a virgo I think I am over analyzing things. Everyone is telling me he is just playing with me but I don't feel like he is, I feel like he just has a lot on his mind at the moment (that's what my intuition is telling me).
I need all the advise I can get right now.....Again thank you!!!
Thank you for your honesty, I do appreciate it. I am so confused when it comes to him. Like I mentioned he was so communicative with me in the beginning. I started to really like him then bam it all stopped. He mentioned a little to me about what happened to his daughter the other night but again that was very limited. He mentioned he wants to go slow he doesn't want to rush things which is fine with me, but half the time I feel like he isn't interested. Our communication now is very very limited. Do we talk everyday yes but majority of the time its me checking to see how he is doing. He will text me hello through out the day and he does have me call him every morning when I wake up. So I'm thankful for that communication. I'm trying to be patient but I keep thinking if he is interested he would make more of an effort. When I saw him this last week it was nice, actually we got intimate. I thought it might spark a little more but no went back to being the same.
This is my first time dating a Capicorn so I don't really know what to expect. I have read up on the good traits and the bad traits to try to understand him. But me being a virgo I think I am over analyzing things. Everyone is telling me he is just playing with me but I don't feel like he is, I feel like he just has a lot on his mind at the moment (that's what my intuition is telling me).
I need all the advise I can get right now.....Again thank you!!!
Yes, you're over analyzing.
Caps aren't easy. We can be distant and cold. I've been told I'm unreadable. We are often easily misunderstood. It seems like a cool thing he wants you to call him in the mornings. Why don't you tell him to call you instead?
I'll tell you though, if a cap isn't interested then we won't even think about contacting you when something is going on. You'll be the furthest thing on our mind (unless want something from you). Well, I can only speak for myself. But I just mean you want to make sure it's not a just hook up that he wants - because a cap will take that.
My advice is don't get intimate with him again. Make him work for it and right now he's not working hard enough. I don't mean be a cold fish, keep being receptive to him, but just don't give the goodies away for very little effort on his part. Don't accept crumbs then reward him with the good stuff is all I'm saying because it won't ever motivate him to do more. Besides a cap will appreciate what they have to work for more than something they haven't worked for. They want to earn what they get. So, hun, make him earn it!
Meanwhile, keep your options open and don't turn other prospects away. Remember, you're not in a comitted relationship.
Caps aren't easy. We can be distant and cold. I've been told I'm unreadable. We are often easily misunderstood. It seems like a cool thing he wants you to call him in the mornings. Why don't you tell him to call you instead?
I'll tell you though, if a cap isn't interested then we won't even think about contacting you when something is going on. You'll be the furthest thing on our mind (unless want something from you). Well, I can only speak for myself. But I just mean you want to make sure it's not a just hook up that he wants - because a cap will take that.
My advice is don't get intimate with him again. Make him work for it and right now he's not working hard enough. I don't mean be a cold fish, keep being receptive to him, but just don't give the goodies away for very little effort on his part. Don't accept crumbs then reward him with the good stuff is all I'm saying because it won't ever motivate him to do more. Besides a cap will appreciate what they have to work for more than something they haven't worked for. They want to earn what they get. So, hun, make him earn it!
Meanwhile, keep your options open and don't turn other prospects away. Remember, you're not in a comitted relationship.
Oh, he's contacting you, so I think its all good! I do think he's interested. I meant to say that too.
@truecap
Thanks again, your advise is extremely helpful. That's how I view him cold and distant, I am trying to be patient with him. Everytime I want to walk away, I hear a little voice in the back ground saying "patience". When we got intimate it was a spur of the moment, it was not even planned. It was we were in the heat of the moment. After the event (lol) he was very cuddly and attentive with me. I don't see us doing it again anytime soon.
Why would he be so responsive and communicative in the beginning, then just stop cold in his tracks? Is there something I can do to show him that he can trust me? That I will not do him wrong?
Again all your advise is helping!
Thanks again, your advise is extremely helpful. That's how I view him cold and distant, I am trying to be patient with him. Everytime I want to walk away, I hear a little voice in the back ground saying "patience". When we got intimate it was a spur of the moment, it was not even planned. It was we were in the heat of the moment. After the event (lol) he was very cuddly and attentive with me. I don't see us doing it again anytime soon.
Why would he be so responsive and communicative in the beginning, then just stop cold in his tracks? Is there something I can do to show him that he can trust me? That I will not do him wrong?
Again all your advise is helping!
It just takes time for us to trust. We have to see it and experience it little by little. Aren't you virgo's the same way?
@truecap
Yes we do take a while to completely trust but I know for me I give the benefit of the doubt in the begining until something happens then its hard for me to give them the trust.
Oh and I took your advice and asked him to call me this morning and he did =). To be honest I didn't think we was but he did....Made my morning start off on a good note.
I think because I over anazle every thing and I can't control things it makes me feel scattered, LOL...Sucks being a Virgo!
Yes we do take a while to completely trust but I know for me I give the benefit of the doubt in the begining until something happens then its hard for me to give them the trust.
Oh and I took your advice and asked him to call me this morning and he did =). To be honest I didn't think we was but he did....Made my morning start off on a good note.
I think because I over anazle every thing and I can't control things it makes me feel scattered, LOL...Sucks being a Virgo!
Yup us Virgos are very stubborn. And it has to be our way but we are willing to compromise for the right person.
@CoolCap
Thank you for your advice, I appreciate it. I've always been kind of a laid back Virgo, don't want to come across to pushy. I will let my Cap guy have the upper hand to a point. In the beginning he was controlling wanting me to take pics of what I was wearing and where I can and can't go. When I was sick with the flu last month he was calling me every hour and telling what kind of medicine to take or what to eat, even when to take a bath to break my fever. I can't recall a conversation where I might have come across pushy or told him he was wrong. I just noticed that whatever happen with his daughter he did a 180 on me. He says he hasn't changed that he is the same with me but I don't feel it. But again being a virgo we tend to over anazle things and make things bigger then what they are. I give him his space don't tend to bug him as much but I really don't see him making a big effort in the communcating department. For instance Saturday he stated he didn't do nothing all day and yet I got no communication until I initiate it first. It just confusing for me and as a virgo I don't tend to have very much patience.
Thank you for your advice, I appreciate it. I've always been kind of a laid back Virgo, don't want to come across to pushy. I will let my Cap guy have the upper hand to a point. In the beginning he was controlling wanting me to take pics of what I was wearing and where I can and can't go. When I was sick with the flu last month he was calling me every hour and telling what kind of medicine to take or what to eat, even when to take a bath to break my fever. I can't recall a conversation where I might have come across pushy or told him he was wrong. I just noticed that whatever happen with his daughter he did a 180 on me. He says he hasn't changed that he is the same with me but I don't feel it. But again being a virgo we tend to over anazle things and make things bigger then what they are. I give him his space don't tend to bug him as much but I really don't see him making a big effort in the communcating department. For instance Saturday he stated he didn't do nothing all day and yet I got no communication until I initiate it first. It just confusing for me and as a virgo I don't tend to have very much patience.
@Coolcappy
I did notice in the beginning he was very controlling, but since he pulled back he stopped. He does give his 2 cents on certain things but I tell him he can't control me and he normally laughs. Like this morning I mentioned that i wanted to get a new tattoo and he said "we will discuss it, I want to see the art work first". I laughed and said "well considering that there is no ring on my finger and it is my body I really don't need your permission". But of course I say it not stearnly but lightly. He has mentioned that he does like the way I dress, I don't show to much skin. I am very conservative when it comes to my apparell. There is one thing that he can not stand that I do, when he calls there are times I will say "Hey you", he can't stand the word Hey. When I will accidently say it to him he will hang up and call me back. Could this be the reason he is pulling away? He has told me time and time again that he feels like it is a disrespectful word, even though I don't mean to say it, it just bothers him.
As far as his daughter, I have not met her yet and from what I understand he has not mentioned me to her. Apparently the last relationship that he was in the woman cheated on him and that pissed his daughter off so he wants to take it slow and see where it goes first before mentioning me to her. Which I can totally understand, I have mentioned him to my friends but just in the sense of getting to know someone. I know that they have a very close relationship and I wouldn't change it but it scares me that if she doesn't approve and it goes further that she will make problems.
We did have a discussion a couple of days ago and I mentioned that I felt like I need to pull away. He responded why, I never told you to pull away but do what you feel you need to. I told him that I felt like I was crowding him, he satated he would tell me if you are. Since that conversation his communication has gotten a little better. I just don't want to look to much into it and it goes back to normal.
Again thank you for all your help, I appreciate it!
I did notice in the beginning he was very controlling, but since he pulled back he stopped. He does give his 2 cents on certain things but I tell him he can't control me and he normally laughs. Like this morning I mentioned that i wanted to get a new tattoo and he said "we will discuss it, I want to see the art work first". I laughed and said "well considering that there is no ring on my finger and it is my body I really don't need your permission". But of course I say it not stearnly but lightly. He has mentioned that he does like the way I dress, I don't show to much skin. I am very conservative when it comes to my apparell. There is one thing that he can not stand that I do, when he calls there are times I will say "Hey you", he can't stand the word Hey. When I will accidently say it to him he will hang up and call me back. Could this be the reason he is pulling away? He has told me time and time again that he feels like it is a disrespectful word, even though I don't mean to say it, it just bothers him.
As far as his daughter, I have not met her yet and from what I understand he has not mentioned me to her. Apparently the last relationship that he was in the woman cheated on him and that pissed his daughter off so he wants to take it slow and see where it goes first before mentioning me to her. Which I can totally understand, I have mentioned him to my friends but just in the sense of getting to know someone. I know that they have a very close relationship and I wouldn't change it but it scares me that if she doesn't approve and it goes further that she will make problems.
We did have a discussion a couple of days ago and I mentioned that I felt like I need to pull away. He responded why, I never told you to pull away but do what you feel you need to. I told him that I felt like I was crowding him, he satated he would tell me if you are. Since that conversation his communication has gotten a little better. I just don't want to look to much into it and it goes back to normal.
Again thank you for all your help, I appreciate it!
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