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Help With Capricorn Man
I responded with " I _— you too". Was this the wrong thing to do?
Posted by evalani290
We women like to complicate things sometimes,don't we?
Just relax and be supportive,if he still checks on you,calls you and it's constant you have nothing to worry about.
He probably has a lot on his mind and he's just focusing on something that needs his immediate attention.
I wouldn't worry too much if i was you.
Give the man the peace of mind that he needs and you'll be fine,don't create problems where there aren't.
He's a practical man,you'll see a lot of that with time but that's a good thing. He probably got comfortable with you,again a good thing.
Don't put him through all that trial about "What's wrong", "Don't you love me no more?","Where have you been","YOU CHANGED". Please just don't...He'll tell you if somethings changed,trust him,trust the process and don't give up on him.
You'll be fine
Yes, I do have that tendency. Lol. I just hate to be strung along. But you're right. Thanks for your response.
Posted by FrenchKpricorn
maybe you were a challenge, and know he feels that he has nothing to prove, you loving and he loves you? What is the next step
I also agree with this. He does seem rather comfortable.
"Love you" said too early from a Cap signals his insecurities (my experience).
Distance is an issues for everyone, Caps above all. Beware, he may be seeing other people and you have no way to know it. Trad carefully into this, is my two cents.
Distance is an issues for everyone, Caps above all. Beware, he may be seeing other people and you have no way to know it. Trad carefully into this, is my two cents.
I mean, walk, sorry
Posted by KsamCancer
Do you perhaps know the rest of his chart? Like everyone else said though there may have been too little substance there initially, what do you have to fall back on after love is thrown into the air?
No, I wish that I did. _??'. Thank you for the encouragement though.
Posted by asha
"Love you" said too early from a Cap signals his insecurities (my experience).
Distance is an issues for everyone, Caps above all. Beware, he may be seeing other people and you have no way to know it. Trad carefully into this, is my two cents.
Thank you. If he is seeing other people, naturally, this is something that I would want to know. Any suggestion as to how to inquire or you think I should just let it unfold? I don't want to jump to conclusions or push him further away, but I do want to know.
You need to be patient with Caps. He's never not doing something, or thinking about something. Now that he's got confirmation on where you both are with the feelings, he's probably thinking about the logistics and reality of your relationship..such as the long distance.
I've noticed that my Cap needs a little bit of time to think about our future. He pays attention to what I say I want, and thinks about how to get us there. They like a challenge and take them seriously.
I know it feels abrupt sometimes when their attention drops, but if he's still regularly checking in and responding to you, it's probably Ok. Just keep being yourself. If you need reassurance, maybe try making some plans to meet up soon and see what he says.
I've noticed that my Cap needs a little bit of time to think about our future. He pays attention to what I say I want, and thinks about how to get us there. They like a challenge and take them seriously.
I know it feels abrupt sometimes when their attention drops, but if he's still regularly checking in and responding to you, it's probably Ok. Just keep being yourself. If you need reassurance, maybe try making some plans to meet up soon and see what he says.
He said I love you after seeing you only twice—
RED FLAG!!
People who profess love early, also lose interest early.
RED FLAG!!
People who profess love early, also lose interest early.
I would say, take it easy, wait and see how things develop. Stay alert that things may fall apart and don't invest yourself emotionally before you know the person better.
Long-distance is not easy and personally I would not pursue such a relationship and would put all my concerns on the table from the start. If he is consistent and fights for it, fine. If not, also fine.
My Cap also said "I love you" way too early and later proved to be insecure, immature and rather manipulative 🙂. We are still together though but our situation is quite a specific one.
Long-distance is not easy and personally I would not pursue such a relationship and would put all my concerns on the table from the start. If he is consistent and fights for it, fine. If not, also fine.
My Cap also said "I love you" way too early and later proved to be insecure, immature and rather manipulative 🙂. We are still together though but our situation is quite a specific one.
Wish you luck in love, with this man or with another one.
Am I the only one here thinking that he may be playing her or keeping her somewhere in the background while handling other "business?" I say this due to the early I love you(which I agree is a huge red flag even if it is sincere) and his distance. I'd like to know three things:
1. What's the rest of his chart?
2. Did you sleep with him and in that case, when?
3. Does he give you compliments on a regular basis and if this is the case, about what?
Sorry to be so blunt, but these are my honest thoughts in the matter and you don't have to answer if you don't want to, ofc.
1. What's the rest of his chart?
2. Did you sleep with him and in that case, when?
3. Does he give you compliments on a regular basis and if this is the case, about what?
Sorry to be so blunt, but these are my honest thoughts in the matter and you don't have to answer if you don't want to, ofc.
Posted by asha
Wish you luck in love, with this man or with another one.
Thanks so much. I appreciate your input.
Posted by HappyCapper
Am I the only one here thinking that he may be playing her or keeping her somewhere in the background while handling other "business?" I say this due to the early I love you(which I agree is a huge red flag even if it is sincere) and his distance. I'd like to know three things:
1. What's the rest of his chart?
2. Did you sleep with him and in that case, when?
3. Does he give you compliments on a regular basis and if this is the case, about what?
Sorry to be so blunt, but these are my honest thoughts in the matter and you don't have to answer if you don't want to, ofc.
Thanks for your response. This, too, crossed my mind. However, after our 1st date, we planned for him to come to my state and to spend time for a week. It had to be cancelled because I had a family member that died right around that time. I do realize it's possible that he may have other "business" in his state, but it seemed less likely with this scenario. I could be naive though. I'm just getting back into dating after a divorce, and this is the first man and Capricorn that I've felt a connection to since then. He, too, says that I'm his first love interest since his divorce 3 years ago.
As for his chart...no, I don't know the other details.
I did not sleep with him. There was opportunity, but it was interrupted. We are both very attracted to one another, in the interest of privacy, I won't go into great detail about the scenario.
He used to give compliments regularly and then switched to general convos, which is kind of what lead me to post in the first place. I really care for this man and want a future with him, and did not want to mess things up.
We did speak today, and it started off basic again, but then after awhile, (I guess intuitively, because I didn't make mention at all about how I was feeling) he began to pour out his feelings, which in turn shocked me a bit.
I stopped calling/texting him first to give him space in case he was "thinking". He took it that I was loosing interest...he said (?)...I guess I believe him...I don't know. Lol
His compliments are usually regarding physical appearance, yes. However, they sometimes are regarding character, etc.
I don't mind you're being blunt at all. I actually appreciate it, and your input. Thanks
Posted by FrenchKpricorn
I'm thinking that to but I'm covering my brocorn
Hey...no fair, lol
"He does seem rather comfortable."
Hmm. Guys who appear too sure of themselves could possibly read as a red flag.
"he began to pour out his feelings""I stopped calling/texting him first to give him space in case he was "thinking". He took it that I was loosing interest...he said (?)...I guess I believe him...I don't know. Lol"
What kind of feelings? Is he blaming his distance on your silence? Does he feel he has to "reel you in" a bit due to your silence to keep you hooked, you think? Or? What happened?
Hmm. Guys who appear too sure of themselves could possibly read as a red flag.
"he began to pour out his feelings""I stopped calling/texting him first to give him space in case he was "thinking". He took it that I was loosing interest...he said (?)...I guess I believe him...I don't know. Lol"
What kind of feelings? Is he blaming his distance on your silence? Does he feel he has to "reel you in" a bit due to your silence to keep you hooked, you think? Or? What happened?
Posted by HappyCapper
"He does seem rather comfortable."
Hmm. Guys who appear too sure of themselves could possibly read as a red flag.
"he began to pour out his feelings""I stopped calling/texting him first to give him space in case he was "thinking". He took it that I was loosing interest...he said (?)...I guess I believe him...I don't know. Lol"
What kind of feelings? Is he blaming his distance on your silence? Does he feel he has to "reel you in" a bit due to your silence to keep you hooked, you think? Or? What happened?
The feelings that he talked about were almost the same as prior..."how he loved me, wished we lived closer,...how he wants to express how he feels physically, etc.".
He blamed the distance actually on a situation that he had (verbal confrontation) with some close to him. He explained it before but apparently it dragged out & he said he basically shut down from everyone. Is this typical for a Cap? I can understand not talking to THAT individual but like I said he did keep contact but not in the same way.
I did wonder if he brought this up to see where I am with things because I didn't bring up his "distance", he did. I also wasn't any different...attitude wise.
"he had (verbal confrontation) with some close to him. He explained it before but apparently it dragged out & he said he basically shut down from everyone. Is this typical for a Cap?"
You betcha. One little incident like that can send a cap into a dark place where they can close off from everyone, just want to be alone in their thoughts. They will climb out of it and be normal again, but the length of time it takes depends on the cap and what the situation was.
But, I can also see this:
"I stopped calling/texting him first to give him space in case he was "thinking". He took it that I was loosing interest...he said (?).."
If I get the feeling someone isn't interested, then I would back off. HOWEVER, he's the male and he should be the one initiating 75% of the contact. All you have to do is tell him you were glad he called or you were happy to hear from him. That should be enough to encourage him to keep contacting you. If he's expecting you to make most of the contact, then he's not putting out much effort. Just keep that in mind.
You betcha. One little incident like that can send a cap into a dark place where they can close off from everyone, just want to be alone in their thoughts. They will climb out of it and be normal again, but the length of time it takes depends on the cap and what the situation was.
But, I can also see this:
"I stopped calling/texting him first to give him space in case he was "thinking". He took it that I was loosing interest...he said (?).."
If I get the feeling someone isn't interested, then I would back off. HOWEVER, he's the male and he should be the one initiating 75% of the contact. All you have to do is tell him you were glad he called or you were happy to hear from him. That should be enough to encourage him to keep contacting you. If he's expecting you to make most of the contact, then he's not putting out much effort. Just keep that in mind.
Posted by truecap
"he had (verbal confrontation) with some close to him. He explained it before but apparently it dragged out & he said he basically shut down from everyone. Is this typical for a Cap?"
You betcha. One little incident like that can send a cap into a dark place where they can close off from everyone, just want to be alone in their thoughts. They will climb out of it and be normal again, but the length of time it takes depends on the cap and what the situation was.
But, I can also see this:
"I stopped calling/texting him first to give him space in case he was "thinking". He took it that I was loosing interest...he said (?).."
If I get the feeling someone isn't interested, then I would back off. HOWEVER, he's the male and he should be the one initiating 75% of the contact. All you have to do is tell him you were glad he called or you were happy to hear from him. That should be enough to encourage him to keep contacting you. If he's expecting you to make most of the contact, then he's not putting out much effort. Just keep that in mind.
Thank you. I thought it might have been an excuse. This was very helpful as the other posts were.
Hmm, I would really like to see the rest of that chart. Don't you have anything to go on? The place of birth may not have to be very precise.
If I were you I would see to it that you met again and I would not under any circumstances sleep with him at that time. Holding back on the sex is the only way to suss out a player, imo, and I'm still not sure about this one. But who knows - I really hope it works out! 🙂
If I were you I would see to it that you met again and I would not under any circumstances sleep with him at that time. Holding back on the sex is the only way to suss out a player, imo, and I'm still not sure about this one. But who knows - I really hope it works out! 🙂
I completely agree with HappyCapper.
Posted by HappyCapper
Hmm, I would really like to see the rest of that chart. Don't you have anything to go on? The place of birth may not have to be very precise.
If I were you I would see to it that you met again and I would not under any circumstances sleep with him at that time. Holding back on the sex is the only way to suss out a player, imo, and I'm still not sure about this one. But who knows - I really hope it works out! 🙂
I will see what I can get in regards to his chart. I plan on setting up something within the month to see him again, especially since he seems to be back to himself again. I'll keep you all posted.
I do have another question...once a Cap male is married...does this "distance" thing with them continue into the marriage? I mean as a husband, can a Cap potentially be MIA until they sort things out in their head? Any input is appreciated.
When I was married, I still needed my alone time. I still went into dark places occasionally. If I was hurt or upset, I would shut out the world. My ex felt like I shut him out sometimes. I still felt like I was committed and I didn't ignore him, it's just when I went inside my head, he felt the draft. But I did open up to him enough to tell him what was going on and told him I just needed some space. So, it's not like I did it without letting him know.
Probably why I'm not married anymore. 🙂
Probably why I'm not married anymore. 🙂
I was there, I just wasn't "there". I didn't disappear or go anywhere. I was just quiet for a while.
Thanks, truecap...I was thinking about this, and I'm one who is all about communication and hate being shut out. It gives me more to think about.
I agree with truecap - I do it too. I'm not sure about this, though, because we have both (especially truecap) a lot of scorpio energy and it may be that that trait may be a bit more pronounced in us due to that. What do you think, truecap?
Posted by HappyCapper
I agree with truecap - I do it too. I'm not sure about this, though, because we have both (especially truecap) a lot of scorpio energy and it may be that that trait may be a bit more pronounced in us due to that. What do you think, truecap?
I dunno, I have three cap placements, two scorpio and one strong aqua placement. Not sure what to blame it on.
The gem never understood the need for space because he never needed any. It made it hard on our relationship.
Posted by CancerLeoCusp
Thanks, truecap...I was thinking about this, and I'm one who is all about communication and hate being shut out. It gives me more to think about.
Just realize when they shut out the world, it includes you because you're shut out too, but it's not about you and it's not personal.
There are a number of things that cause one to shut down. It could be a work problem, a slight by a friend, a slight by a stranger, a decision they're trying to make, some kind of "aha" moment as to understanding why their parents did what they did and they're analyzing, could be wanted to contemplate the meaning of a book they read, someone besides you hurt their feelings. They'll probably talk about it when they climb out of the dark place and then you'll understand, but until then you just have to be patient and confident. Nurturing won't help, just being around is all you need to do.
Posted by truecapPosted by CancerLeoCusp
Thanks, truecap...I was thinking about this, and I'm one who is all about communication and hate being shut out. It gives me more to think about.click to expand
Just realize when they shut out the world, it includes you because you're shut out too, but it's not about you and it's not personal.
There are a number of things that cause one to shut down. It could be a work problem, a slight by a friend, a slight by a stranger, a decision they're trying to make, some kind of "aha" moment as to understanding why their parents did what they did and they're analyzing, could be wanted to contemplate the meaning of a book they read, someone besides you hurt their feelings. They'll probably talk about it when they climb out of the dark place and then you'll understand, but until then you just have to be patient and confident. Nurturing won't help, just being around is all you need to do.
Ok, good to know. Nurturing is my nature, and instinctively I would want to do that immediately, but now I get it. Thanks.
Happy Capper
Hmm, I would really like to see the rest of that chart. Don't you have anything to go on? The place of birth may not have to be very precise.
I didn't have the birth time...but based on the response, his chart reads:
Sun: Cap
Rising: Aries
Moon: Cap
Does this help?
Hmm, I would really like to see the rest of that chart. Don't you have anything to go on? The place of birth may not have to be very precise.
I didn't have the birth time...but based on the response, his chart reads:
Sun: Cap
Rising: Aries
Moon: Cap
Does this help?
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