how do you mastered living in the present

Dear caps

I have a cap stellium in my 5th house and I easily obsess about the romantic future. I have a hard time enjoying the present moment because I automatically think about the next steps etc. Does anyone feel/felt the same and if so, how did u manage living more in the present moment instead of throwing stones in your own way?

Sun aqua
Ac leo
Moon cap
Venus cap
Mercury cap
Neptune cap
Uranus cap
Saturn cap

True... I hope I learn this along the way

Are you serious? All that Cap in you?! I don't think I've ever seen a chart like that before.

Posted by AquaNextDoor
Dear caps

I have a cap stellium in my 5th house and I easily obsess about the romantic future. I have a hard time enjoying the present moment because I automatically think about the next steps etc. Does anyone feel/felt the same and if so, how did u manage living more in the present moment instead of throwing stones in your own way?

Sun aqua
Ac leo
Moon cap
Venus cap
Mercury cap
Neptune cap
Uranus cap
Saturn cap

You can only learn and reflect on your growth by focusing on the past.
You can plan out only so much for the future, since the winds of change can blow you around like a leaf in the wind.
Living in the present would be like living like you had no tomorrow or yesterday almost. coming at every interaction fresh and carrying out every action and goal with a passion as if you were dying the next day.

With relationships, it's best to let the grow organically, as a Capricorn you want to become the flow and get things on the fast tract to exclusivity/marriage/etc. Patience, you are a Cap, so you have the power to endure the wait. In the meantime, focus on other goals and experiences while you wait/hunt for a lover, that way you won't feel like you're wasting your time or feel stuck living outside the present moment.

Yeh.. since I broke up with my aries exhusband in 2012 I always tried too hard to gain back a secure and steady ground in the love department. But now I think "my ex nd I were working for years to become what we were" it was serious from the beginning but still our relationship grew naturally over months/years. I have to keep that in mind. Thats why rushing always ended tragic since then.

Posted by tiziani
Cap man on the street:"Hey girl, you got some Cap in you?"


AquaNextDoor:"Yes. Yes I do."


(awkward silence)

Cap man:"... Can we start over?"

Buhahahhahahaha kinda(!) true... sadly..

Its like he has been my only serious and secure experience til now and if I dont get the same security I get extremely insecure, clingy... yuck. I dont like being that way and I see how it blew some really nice opportunities.

With that much cap in your chart I am going to treat you like a cap. I think you will be happy to know that capricorns get better and better as the years go by. Saturn just keeps whacking us over the head until we get it right. And you will get it right too.

...at least that's what I keep telling myself. Any day now, any day now. 😉

But also, the above is true. Just acknowledging your problems is the first step to fixing them, right. What you are doing(clinginess, etc.) are things you apparently think are stupid and I'll tell you what I do to break bad habits or just me being silly or acting stupid:

Warning! This does NOT work for everyone - It can, in fact be dangerous for some people, depending on the issue - but not in your case, so here it goes:

I overdo things until I get so tired of, bored of, or angry at myself and my actions, that I can't help but to stop. That's right, when saturn doesn't do it's job, I act a stand-in.

For instance, when I think it's time to get out of a down period, I read the most depressing poetry ever written(really purple prose works too) and write some of my own, listen to really depressing music, all the while I'm sitting in the corner of my bed covered in pillows and give crying an actual river my absolute best shot. It actually ends with me laughing at myself at times.

Some things you can't overdo irl with just you, like clingyness, since you need other people for it, so what you do is play the scene in your head. Think you with your favourite guy. He is acting like a normal human being. You are needy, clingy, insecure in the worst way possible - you direct the scene. You are supposed to be so embarrassed over your own behaviour that you can hardly continue. Then do it again. And again until you had enough(read: until you have made your mistakes over and over again until saturn is satisfied that you learned your lesson) And then you move on. The really weird thing is that it actually works for me, and believe it or not, it's an actual therapy method, according to a friend and psychology student. It only works when you are ready to take care of the problem, though, but you seem to be, so...

I really hope this is of any use to you, because after this confession of pure crazy I may have to quit DXP out of sheer embarrassement.

Oh wow!! Thank you so much happycapper for sharing!! I'll definitely do that since it really makes sense to me what you are saying. Never thought about it that way... I'm extremely good in making up head scenarios lol I don't even have to make up a story since my head is filled with embarrassing overdone texting, overdone doubting and overdone stupid clinginess. Especially with that cancer guy I was falling for so hard, I blew it "par excellence" *bangs head on table* and to be honest if I remember all of it and even make up a little more in my head I will be too embarrassed to ever see him again so this will work I guess!!

Thank you so much for sharing 🙂

Please keep me posted. 🙂