Hurt a capricorn man, how to fix it

What is the best way to make amends with a Capricorn guy with leo moon. I'm a virgo with pisces moon and we got on really well in college. I am a flirt, and have a thing for nerds and our relationship was changing. I didn't think i was his time, and I am pretty evasive when it comes to commitment.,Over the following weeks,I would feel his gaze and became flustered and honestly scared of letting someone get close to me. I genuinely like him and admittedly wanted him to like me - but I've been hurt badly before and was selfish in playing games. I became distant and in many ways pushed him away. We essentially ignore each other now, I know he is frustrated as I do have difficulty in letting my guard down. I'm so saddened by the way I Act - his reaction is understandable. But he still seems to have feelings for me, watching me, walking behind me to see my work etc.

So I want to apologise for this reflex of pushing people away, and the embarrassment I feel over my actions preventing me from approaching him.
How is it best to explain things to him and hope he can be patient and develop things slowly with me.
I can be quite wrapped up in my emotions, and I don't want to scare him or hurt him further.
How to fix things ?

Thank you

They tend to be stubborn. Once they've made their minds up about something it's hard to change their minds. Hope you get through to him.

Posted by 5033virgosun
What is the best way to make amends with a Capricorn guy with leo moon. I'm a virgo with pisces moon and we got on really well in college. I am a flirt, and have a thing for nerds and our relationship was changing. I didn't think i was his time, and I am pretty evasive when it comes to commitment.,Over the following weeks,I would feel his gaze and became flustered and honestly scared of letting someone get close to me. I genuinely like him and admittedly wanted him to like me - but I've been hurt badly before and was selfish in playing games. I became distant and in many ways pushed him away. We essentially ignore each other now, I know he is frustrated as I do have difficulty in letting my guard down. I'm so saddened by the way I Act - his reaction is understandable. But he still seems to have feelings for me, watching me, walking behind me to see my work etc.

So I want to apologise for this reflex of pushing people away, and the embarrassment I feel over my actions preventing me from approaching him.
How is it best to explain things to him and hope he can be patient and develop things slowly with me.
I can be quite wrapped up in my emotions, and I don't want to scare him or hurt him further.
How to fix things ?

Tell him exactly what you told us. You'll have to let your guard down and be vulnerable.

I was selfish in playing games. I became distant and in many ways pushed him away.

I'm always curious when people say things along these lines.. Were you aware of what you were doing while it was occurring, or did this realization come after the fact?

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Posted by 5033virgosun
What is the best way to make amends with a Capricorn guy with leo moon. I'm a virgo with pisces moon and we got on really well in college. I am a flirt, and have a thing for nerds and our relationship was changing. I didn't think i was his time, and I am pretty evasive when it comes to commitment.,Over the following weeks,I would feel his gaze and became flustered and honestly scared of letting someone get close to me. I genuinely like him and admittedly wanted him to like me - but I've been hurt badly before and was selfish in playing games. I became distant and in many ways pushed him away. We essentially ignore each other now, I know he is frustrated as I do have difficulty in letting my guard down. I'm so saddened by the way I Act - his reaction is understandable. But he still seems to have feelings for me, watching me, walking behind me to see my work etc.

So I want to apologise for this reflex of pushing people away, and the embarrassment I feel over my actions preventing me from approaching him.
How is it best to explain things to him and hope he can be patient and develop things slowly with me.
I can be quite wrapped up in my emotions, and I don't want to scare him or hurt him further.
How to fix things ?

Tell him exactly what you told us. You'll have to let your guard down and be vulnerable.

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This.

Posted by Andalusia
I was selfish in playing games. I became distant and in many ways pushed him away.

I'm always curious when people say things along these lines.. Were you aware of what you were doing while it was occurring, or did this realization come after the fact?

For me its never intently playing and toying with someone's emotions. Never anything malicious , never trying to make anyone jealous. light hearted flirting without realising the implications that i could and am taken very seriously and then i get scared (my own insecurity about someone wanting to get close , never because i dislike the person) and keep a low profile around them. After the realization i felt huge guilt and self loathing!

If this has happened to you, I'm sorry for the pain but generally it's the own persons fears being projected . it's feels like a personal rejection but usually its that persons own issues. In the way😢

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Posted by 5033virgosun
Thank you In retrospect the leo moon aspect means being pushed away/ignored was the worst way to handle my anxieties!
But i really love capricorns in any kind of chart positions !

That's bad!!! Ignore the leo moon and boy... You will be in trouble... But it you explain yourself with lots of compliments at the same time, you will (hopefully) be forgiven. Just let him know you are his "No.1 fan"!!!'

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Yees you are spot on. I think letting him know how highly i think of him, and the compliments as you said is a great way to handle him. Thank you so much for your reply

Posted by truecap

Posted by 5033virgosun
What is the best way to make amends with a Capricorn guy with leo moon. I'm a virgo with pisces moon and we got on really well in college. I am a flirt, and have a thing for nerds and our relationship was changing. I didn't think i was his time, and I am pretty evasive when it comes to commitment.,Over the following weeks,I would feel his gaze and became flustered and honestly scared of letting someone get close to me. I genuinely like him and admittedly wanted him to like me - but I've been hurt badly before and was selfish in playing games. I became distant and in many ways pushed him away. We essentially ignore each other now, I know he is frustrated as I do have difficulty in letting my guard down. I'm so saddened by the way I Act - his reaction is understandable. But he still seems to have feelings for me, watching me, walking behind me to see my work etc.

So I want to apologise for this reflex of pushing people away, and the embarrassment I feel over my actions preventing me from approaching him.
How is it best to explain things to him and hope he can be patient and develop things slowly with me.
I can be quite wrapped up in my emotions, and I don't want to scare him or hurt him further.
How to fix things ?

Tell him exactly what you told us. You'll have to let your guard down and be vulnerable.

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Thank you! I was thinking of sending him an email ? Would this terrify him as I'm not sure how openly emotional a male cap with leo moon can be. I think i should probably just man up and say it in person. Thank you for your response

Imo and experience, people do well with authenticity. If what you tell him is sincere and expressed with no expectations or strings attached, there is a greater chance of him responding in kind.