How to deal with this situation

As some of you know I am in a committed relationship with a Capricorn man. Its been 3 years we are together. we have gone through so much. I am head over heals in love with him can't even imagine my life without him.

Last night something happened which left me thinking about our relationship again. last night we as usual wished each other goodnight at 11 but I was having difficulty to sleep at almost 1:30 I opened whatsapp to read our old conversations (which I usually do when I miss him) and I saw he was online than after two minutes he went offline then again after a minute he was online like he was talking to someone I texted him saying "hey you are still awake" the message was delivered but he didn't open it I texted again saying whats up and again the message delivered but he didn't open. I waited for his reply and he continued going off and then on every couple of minutes which happened for almost half an hour then I closed whatsapp and slept.

In the morning he texted me and said he wasn't online as he was sleeping at that time I didn't reply and I am completely silent now because I know he is lying. I don't know how to handle this situation and what to think if someone chats with anyone at that time of night.

Posted by Vixen2
I don't know if what's app is like Facebook messenger but sometimes it says I'm on Facebook (or is "green") even when I am not actively on it...just because I may have fb open on a tab...either on my phone or tablet. It's actually annoying because I get all these messenger messages and I have to go back into the settings to turn off my status...I always keep it off but for some reason, whether it's an update or something, it will sometimes turn me back to green again...

I know fb shows fake that's why I never believed facebook but whatsapp isn't like that its status is much more reliable than facebook this never happened in whatsapp it could happen once but not after every couple of minutes

fake statuses*

He saw u were on and didn't respond on purpose

Prob thinks why you were on and then wondering if you were checking up on him

Now he knows you know and tried to get out of it by lying
To you. He was totally online when you saw him

He prob was really sleepy when he was doing this

So when he woke up he denied all knowledge of it

Posted by FrenchKpricorn
ask him why he's lying ?

Posted by Lala1393
Yeah ask him why he's lying
It's odd

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I have asked him but he always deny to admit that he is lying.

Posted by leow31
Are you sure he's lying? I personally HATE those kinds of apps because people think I'm online all the time and I'm not. I had issues with a similar app and family overseas trying to contact me - they got upset cause they would see me online and thought I was ignoring them - I wasn't even online / aware. -_-

Yes, leow31 I am sure he is lying

Apps can be incorrect. Several of mine have shown me to be online when my phone was on but I was not actually doing anything on my phone....

People can go on & off line as signals go in and out...especially if he lives somewhere where the phone signal is not clear. This has also been the case for me in the past...

Base your thoughts on his true actions, not on interpretation of app statuses.

Stop nagging. If there was the only case just let it go. Who knows, maybe here was spying on you. If you continue scrutinizing, it will work as a turn off. Unless it repeats constantly, don't let this crap out.

Posted by RumiLove
Hi Anna, isn't your cap a Scorpio moon, if I can remember correctly? 🙂

I think he must've been too tired or sleepy..definitely felt suffocated (not because of you, but maybe he was talking work with friend and just wanted to get it over with) .

I think, its wrong to expect a person(lover, husband, best friend) to respond to you the same way all the time. Maybe they are just not in a mood or doing some work etc and have naturally do not get a thought to inform or respond to you....these feelings are natural, atleast that's what I believe. And we must respect their actions/moods/space.. It was after all at 1.30 am that this happened.

Now... I may not be the right person to say this, but I believe we must just give space and overlook little things like this..

Dont question your entire relationship lol! (imo)

GOD yes

Posted by TaurusMarine
Stop nagging. If there was the only case just let it go. Who knows, maybe here was spying on you. If you continue scrutinizing, it will work as a turn off. Unless it repeats constantly, don't let this crap out.

And they say Caps are controlling and need y smh...
If she keeps pressuring him his aloofness will kick in and Scorpio moon won't trust her or feel trusted.

I say back off --keep this information in her head and see what happens.

what do you hope to achieve by pressing this point? and if you play it out in your head, what is the conclusion?

Watsapp. When I don't close the app but lock my phone it continues to show me online. Online and off...depending on strength of the signal from cellular network. Actually if a users screen is open it continues to even show msgs as read

well I know he was telling lie because in the morning he didn't open my txt and replied locally saying he wasn't online at that time. Thats's because whatsapp allows us to read txt through the main screen as soon as they are delivered without even opening them. let's suppose he was speaking truth in that case when he got up in the morning he would have seen 2 new msgs on the screen not the content. So how come he knew what was written in those txt if he wasn't awake when messages were delivered. This isn't the first time he lied. I remember I once made a post about him lying on very small issues which aren't even important. He is a pathological lier he lied about his age, his mother tongue, his family members and many other little things.

Posted by RumiLove
Hi Anna, isn't your cap a Scorpio moon, if I can remember correctly? 🙂

I think he must've been too tired or sleepy..definitely felt suffocated (not because of you, but maybe he was talking work with friend and just wanted to get it over with) .

I think, its wrong to expect a person(lover, husband, best friend) to respond to you the same way all the time. Maybe they are just not in a mood or doing some work etc and have naturally do not get a thought to inform or respond to you....these feelings are natural, atleast that's what I believe. And we must respect their actions/moods/space.. It was after all at 1.30 am that this happened.

Now... I may not be the right person to say this, but I believe we must just give space and overlook little things like this..

Dont question your entire relationship lol! My bestie(Aries sun w Capricorn moon) is like you.. But she behaves or does things herself the way she expects from her Taurus guy🙂 dont be upset.. Respond to him and just be normal. There are other big things that will be real indication to question your relationship. This is nothing Anna. (imo)

Yes my cap is a scorp moon. I agree with you that I must respects his moods but the main thing is his lies I even sat him face to face and told him that such small lies will ruin our otherwise strong relationship but whenever I talk about this thing he takes offense and get angry

Lmao

You know phones do wierd things when your sleeping. They check for wifi signals, run updates, etc

Posted by jeane
what do you hope to achieve by pressing this point? and if you play it out in your head, what is the conclusion?

I want him to tell me the truth no matter how bitter it is. the same thing I told him numerous times. I am seriously fed up now

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Posted by TaurusMarine
Stop nagging. If there was the only case just let it go. Who knows, maybe here was spying on you. If you continue scrutinizing, it will work as a turn off. Unless it repeats constantly, don't let this crap out.

And they say Caps are controlling and need y smh...
If she keeps pressuring him his aloofness will kick in and Scorpio moon won't trust her or feel trusted.

I say back off --keep this information in her head and see what happens.

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Some people need to fight and cause drama to feel alive in their relationship.

If my partner ever started to beef with me over something as silly as this. Omg im.bouncing

Posted by anna1
well I know he was telling lie because in the morning he didn't open my txt and replied locally saying he wasn't online at that time. Thats's because whatsapp allows us to read txt through the main screen as soon as they are delivered without even opening them. let's suppose he was speaking truth in that case when he got up in the morning he would have seen 2 new msgs on the screen not the content. So how come he knew what was written in those txt if he wasn't awake when messages were delivered. This isn't the first time he lied. I remember I once made a post about him lying on very small issues which aren't even important. He is a pathological lier he lied about his age, his mother tongue, his family members and many other little things.

Ahhh youre still living in the past.

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Posted by jeane
what do you hope to achieve by pressing this point? and if you play it out in your head, what is the conclusion?

I want him to tell me the truth no matter how bitter it is. the same thing I told him numerous times. I am seriously fed up now

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No youre not.

If you were you woulda left him by now.

You actually sound more scorp moon than him.

Constantly accusing.. Exhausting dude

This happened to me. I accused him of lying about being asleep bc I saw the icon that he was online so I KNEW he wasn't sleeping & I made a fool out of myself. I know I looked like a fool bc about a week later I was sitting on the opposite sofa as him @ his house & he wasn't near he phone at all & I was online & for kicks & giggles I checked to see if the icon was there..... The icon showed him as online & I clearly saw he wasn't. I believe if the app isn't completely closed or you're not logged off on your phone it can claim your on line, I guess.
But yes the icon lies but so do ppl so who knows

That could be a ongoing routine and u just so happen to wake up and see him on there. Either he’s telling you that so he won’t have to answer to you if it happens again or he dont feel its a need to tell u

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Posted by jeane
what do you hope to achieve by pressing this point? and if you play it out in your head, what is the conclusion?

I want him to tell me the truth no matter how bitter it is. the same thing I told him numerous times. I am seriously fed up now

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and if he doesn't admit to being online, what then?

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Posted by jeane
what do you hope to achieve by pressing this point? and if you play it out in your head, what is the conclusion?

I want him to tell me the truth no matter how bitter it is. the same thing I told him numerous times. I am seriously fed up now

and if he doesn't admit to being online, what then?

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Not a damn thing.

He lays the pipe well me thinks

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Posted by jeane
what do you hope to achieve by pressing this point? and if you play it out in your head, what is the conclusion?

I want him to tell me the truth no matter how bitter it is. the same thing I told him numerous times. I am seriously fed up now

and if he doesn't admit to being online, what then?

Not a damn thing.

He lays the pipe well me thinks

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if that is true, and very well may be, is there a need to raise the issue at all? all it will result in is a fight, hurt feelings and then the time to go back to how things are now.

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Posted by anna1
well I know he was telling lie because in the morning he didn't open my txt and replied locally saying he wasn't online at that time. Thats's because whatsapp allows us to read txt through the main screen as soon as they are delivered without even opening them. let's suppose he was speaking truth in that case when he got up in the morning he would have seen 2 new msgs on the screen not the content. So how come he knew what was written in those txt if he wasn't awake when messages were delivered. This isn't the first time he lied. I remember I once made a post about him lying on very small issues which aren't even important. He is a pathological lier he lied about his age, his mother tongue, his family members and many other little things.

Let's suppose that he was online and didn't tell you. Why on earth would he be online for two minutes and offline for 1 minute? If he wanted to avoid suspicion from you, wouldn't he just go offline entirely after you sent your message? If your app keeps having to reconnect itself, would you still be on at 1:30am? I don't know about you. It would drive me crazy that I keep losing connection that I would just let it be and go to bed.

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If he was really trying to creep he would be texting other chicks and deleting them afterward.

This what's ap shit is ridiculous...

Posted by PlutoMars44
This is so sillly. Please do not confront him about this because it is nothing. Modern technology and insecurities do not mix.

TOTALLY TRUE!