I Love You

Just hoping for some input from the very evident amount of Cap lovers out there...My little Sis is dating a Cap man and complains all the time that he never shows her any affection in the small areas of everyday life. Ex: Doesn't say that he loves her ever by word of mouth, Doesn't act as though he's interested in her as much as he is in himself, etc etc... She's my Sis and i worry about her and her life so any help would be wonderful. Does this seem to be the norm with Cap Guys or just this one?

Hey thanks bran..it's very evident that u have insecurity issues..i can read people pretty well and by some of your posts..you act as though your driving the big monster truck when in fact your in the yugo. Thanks for you comments though. OH yeah, i'm a guy and i have no problem telling my girl that i love her but you must huh.

Yee-ha, Judah, thank you!

If he doesn't act like he's interested in what she has to say and is doing, etc.... and isn't showing it by "actions" (man-speak for 'love'- etc.), then yes, you appear to have a right to be concerned.

May not be him being a Cap., but rather a jerk, or whatnot?

That's cool bran...nothing personal...Just my little Sis.

What constitutes a fair woman capman?

I despise double standards and have never had any towards my cappy friend at any point..known him 6 months now..yeah there were pride issues at the start..I respect his privacy and give him all the distance he needs..he always asks me to call him..we actually get on brilliantly now..I do with most earth signs..I just think they do contradict themselves quite a lot but don't admit to it..and also having the last word..sometimes you just have to accept friends for their faults too. But its interesting you say actions, I mean what kind of things should we look for..For example, my Cappy friend bought up the fact that he has sent me an Ipod Itrip (for the car), a Lost Series 2 dvd copy that he did for me, this film that he recommended etc..do these things constitute actions? should I think hell if he's bought all these things for me, he must really like me? I am there for him whenever he needs someone to lift him up..he knows his sentiments are reciprocated..or does he I wonder? what actions should I take to make him of this..He knows I can take a joke so we playfully banter all the time..we have a great friendship..

Hello MissM, just wondering if you need too here the words, "I LOVE YOU"? I know you do...Is it that important for you too hear those words from your love verbally or can he show his love in a different way and it be understood without the words? Just curious.

It's very important for me to hear those words. Two years ago my two year relationship with a Libra ended because he could not say those words in those entire two years, I think he was showing me with actions - he said he was and the actions were pretty amazing, I couldn't go home one Christmas and he made the entire Christmas dinner, he even made mashed potatoes from real potatoes and once I got a bit drunk and slipped and he came under me so I fell on him, we both fell and he was hurt, he said he'd rather get hurt than see me hurt. He kept on telling me that he is not "verbal" about his feelings but in the end the actions were not enough and I was never completely sure how he felt about me. His current girlfriend complains to me that she is not completely sure how he feels, I tell her but does he show you, hang in there. I can tell everyone what a great guy he is but inside I know I couldn't handle someone who couldn't tell me that they loved me or leave me if they didn't. If you don't say it specifically then I am not really sure and you know it's insecurity that creates the psycho girlfriend - you don't need to say it every day, but I'd like to hear it once in a while.

Thanks for being honest Cchic. So hearing those words is that important too you? Did you try and explain this too your ex of 2 yrs before you broke it off? Did you love him that much and just didnt know that he may not feel the same because he never said it verbally? So if your with someone now...do they express to you their love verbally?

I'm kinda with you on this one Bran...Although I may complain sometimes too....I personally would not want a man to be as emotional as me...and when they behave that way it is a HUGE turno off and I begin to view them as being "weak"...I know that may not be right, but its the truth,for me...But an occasional "I love you" at the right time is appreciated.

Judah..I am not in love with him..not at all..we are just good friends..I was intrigued by him at the start but if he can play the patience game then, hell bring it on cos so can I..I have brilliant reserve. But I am not in a relationship with him, neither do I want to be..when heart starts to rule the head thats when problems start...

Capman..thanks for that wonderful insight..Yep in public, I am the one who sits in the crowd, not saying much but very observant..he knows that about me..he also knows that whereas most girls call him up, admit to liking him etc, I would never do such a thing. I have to be as certain as he is as to whether to pursue this any further..I know he values my opinion cos its the blunt truth..and nothing but. We have had our share of arguments but its great to have different opinions and I learn a hell of a lot from him..like I said, he's a great friend. At this stage, there are no emotions involved..I admire his patience. As and when it happens and if I am not already in a relationship then by all means, I shall consider it..but he said to me right at the beginning, he has to really get to know someone as a friend before he starts to develop those kind of feelings and I respect that.

And capman, your right you don't have to say "I love u" to secure a relationship..little actions mount up over time..any good woman will realise this. I have always lived by not forcing someone to say these 3 words..I would rather they said it in their own time, however long it takes..people who need to hear these words constantly are insecure within themselves.

capman
That was a brilliant message about the capricorn temperament..where did u get tat info from or was tat just ur personal take?

Have u noticed that cap men will go thru any kind of histrionics rather than saying those 3 simple words..its just as if they will admit ILY, and poof! something would make 'em disappear from the face of the earth..

I need help before I do something bad. I have been having a relationship with a cap for just over a year now. He decided two days after telling me he still loves me and misses when he doesn't see me that he needs to let go. I haven't heard from him in 3 weeks. He won't reply to emails, phone or messages I leave. He says we can be friends but thats all. Yet he won't talk at all to me. I've left messages on his phone and he never calls back.

I don't know what to do. I can't accept it is over becuse just days before he was not like this, this is driving me crazy. I cry all the time and I send messages telling him how much he is hurting me. Does he just not care over night? Is that possible? How can his feeling just chenge so quickly. Are caps that shallow?

Please I need some advice.

It seems I've posted this in two places...sorry. I didn't think it went through and I had meant to put it under capricorn. I'm new..it shows. I can't delete it either.

Do Capricorn men tend to show their emotions in their hands? I know it probably sounds silly.....but has anyone ever noticed how their hands seem to give away what they are feeling or thinking?

Holly.. I think Cap more than other signs are likely to pull away after expressing emotion. I'm a Cap. moon - when I open up I'm more aware of the death of relationships. Psychologically, expressing my love for someone is like walking into a state of impending doom. I haven't been emotionally involved with any Capricorn Sun males - but a few with at least 1/3 of their planets in Capricorn. They are reserved and cautious in love. I've heard so much about Cap. Sun males who freeze up in relationships... I really do think it's a "I'll leave you before you leave me" kind of thing - even if they aren't aware of what they're feeling or what's driving them to do it (fear). It isn't that he's forgotten about you or cares any less. Maybe he just doesn't know what to do. Capricorn isn't any more shallow than the other signs, relatively. I think the human race has evolved to live on more of a shallow level in itself. It is easier for a Cap. individual to thrive in this society because he or she isn't expected to expose the depths of themselves. I can only say so much considering we don't know more of the background - Is this his first emotional display to you? What's going on in his work and/or home/family life? I'm sorry to hear of this - I know it's painful. Know that if it weren't painful for him he would have no problem talking to you.