I need help with this Capricorn Sun, Mars and Venus man!

hope everyone is doing well!

two months ago i met this guy who's sun is Capricorn along with his mars and venus! and moon in leo

we hit it pretty fast and since the day we met, we spent lots and lots of time together.... almost daily actually! we got to the gym together and have lunch.

he introduced to me to his friends as his partner, kisses me in public, took lots of pictures together! everything was good.

all was going perfect till two weeks ago things started to change!

when i asked me what are we? he said he likes me a lot, and wants me for many years. yet wants to be 1000% sure im the one before he seals the deal because he was hurt many times before (which is ok)...i told him its ok i can wait..no rush! because i do love him. he told me that he doesnt think his good enough for me because im more successful and he would understand if i "try with someone els"...

that same week he got busy and we couldnt see eachother.

he went from texting me every morning "good morning" to hardly anything....

especially last week NOTHING AT ALL (i decided to give space and see if he comes to me)



i sent a risky text last night; asking him what the hell is going on!

i cleared the air and told him my intentions and how i feel (i want to build a life with him)

i invested lots into him also ...gifts and stuff and went out of my way to make him see how serous i am

and told him how much it hurt me that he told me i should try with someone better.



He apologized for that and i realized because he got jealous of people hitting on me.

then tells me not to worry for nothing and that we will see each other soon!





i just find it wierd how it went from seeing eachother daily and chatting daily to two weeks of hardly anything. i mean anything!!



can anyone shed some light for me on what should i do?

also if a Capricorn man isnt interested anymore,.... will they tell you? or play games like this....





more info about me!!

capricorn sun

moon virgo

mars aries

venus sag

Thank you all for the replies, glad to hear its how they operate and it isn't something personal against me.

i know for the fact every relationship he was in ended bad for him. he got hurt a lot! that's why i invested so much to show him i am different which i am. i do love him and want to build something solid with him.

i was told before that i need patience and now i know why, yes we both are sun Capricorns but his mars/venus is in earth (capricorn) while im pure fire in those placement (aries/sag). our core values the same... respect, loyalty ext... but the way we operate is completely different. im very impulsive and a risk taker and not scared to share my emotions.... honestly i consider myself a sag that has his sh!t together haha.

he told me in a text reply... that i should not worry for nothing and that he will see me soon with a smile face.

hope that happens soon, i miss the guy lol

Also a random question to add...

will a capricorn sun,venus and mars (his a pure cap) tell you if he lost interest in you?

for an example if he decides he doesn't want me, we he come clean and tell me?

i know for a fact he loves me and has feelings for me... so i hope that will make him stay & the fact im an awesome person to him.

i just hate how earth signs dont follow their heart as fire signs do... yet always keep coming back (my ex was all virgo, drove me crazy). while fire signs, if they fall in love. they brag about it and show it... give up everything for the person lol

also what should i do? should i keep my distance? i hate mind games lol. im bad at them (sag venus lol)

i am being patient and i have been reaching out to him even though he stopped (every couple of days texts) good morning or how you doing ext.. nothing crazy.

me not texting him at all, isnt me... lol

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also what should i do? should i keep my distance? i hate mind games lol. im bad at them (sag venus lol)

i am being patient and i have been reaching out to him even though he stopped (every couple of days texts) good morning or how you doing ext.. nothing crazy.

me not texting him at all, isnt me... lol

You know when they get like this it is tough. My ex boyfriend struggled in our relationship a lot. Always feeling insecure and not good enough. Twice he disappeared completely, once he came back. So the thing is you can’t make them come back, you have to let them work through it. Personally when he stopped initiating and responding to my messages, I stopped too.

You have to always be yourself, but if he’s not making effort and not arranging to see you, what do you really have? When you’ve poured your heart out & they are still in their little cave there just isn’t much you can do. Btw I’m Cap Venus, Mercury & mars but sag sun.

In the end, he went off to find someone else to make him not be miserable.. instead of dealing with why he was miserable ( like i was trying to get him to do) his only issues with me were really about him. But I had to figure it all out later from things he had said when he was working through it.. cuz later when he disappeared he again refused to deal with it. The comments were we’ll talk soon. I promise we will get together.. yeah not so much. Those are going away comments. Continuing to reach out does not help. This btw was from someone who was planning a future together.. but you know he was right. I’m better off without him.

Hope this helps you somewhat.

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thank you for sharing this story.

he admitted to me that he does have feelings for me and wants to be with me for many years.... we went from talking daily to nothing!! he used to blow up my phone for two months daily..

then emotions kicked in. and he started to worry and analyze.

when i text him he does reply. asking how my day was and stuff and is sweet... but i decided to spot because i dont want to be the only person putting effort.

when i asked him wtf is going on... he replied... "Not worries for nothing sammy ok...see you soon... enjoy vegas""

i was in vegas for couple of days.

anyways like i said,,, i decided to hold back, i went above and beyond for this dude if he wants me he can come back...



Also his very similar to my EX (venus in virgo) ... my ex also did this,,,, detaching to analyze the situation when it got intense (when he fell for me hard).... i asked my ex about it last night and he confirmed it

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Is this a guy on guy relationship?

Or are you female?



Leo moon's like space

guy + guy.

leo moon also like reassurance and security.

i dont mind giving space.. i like it also.... in fact his the one who said he would love to see me daily lol.

ooo cap mars ❤️

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also what should i do? should i keep my distance? i hate mind games lol. im bad at them (sag venus lol)

i am being patient and i have been reaching out to him even though he stopped (every couple of days texts) good morning or how you doing ext.. nothing crazy.

me not texting him at all, isnt me... lol

You know when they get like this it is tough. My ex boyfriend struggled in our relationship a lot. Always feeling insecure and not good enough. Twice he disappeared completely, once he came back. So the thing is you can’t make them come back, you have to let them work through it. Personally when he stopped initiating and responding to my messages, I stopped too.

You have to always be yourself, but if he’s not making effort and not arranging to see you, what do you really have? When you’ve poured your heart out & they are still in their little cave there just isn’t much you can do. Btw I’m Cap Venus, Mercury & mars but sag sun.

In the end, he went off to find someone else to make him not be miserable.. instead of dealing with why he was miserable ( like i was trying to get him to do) his only issues with me were really about him. But I had to figure it all out later from things he had said when he was working through it.. cuz later when he disappeared he again refused to deal with it. The comments were we’ll talk soon. I promise we will get together.. yeah not so much. Those are going away comments. Continuing to reach out does not help. This btw was from someone who was planning a future together.. but you know he was right. I’m better off without him.

Hope this helps you somewhat.

thank you for sharing this story.

he admitted to me that he does have feelings for me and wants to be with me for many years.... we went from talking daily to nothing!! he used to blow up my phone for two months daily..

then emotions kicked in. and he started to worry and analyze.

when i text him he does reply. asking how my day was and stuff and is sweet... but i decided to spot because i dont want to be the only person putting effort.

when i asked him wtf is going on... he replied... "Not worries for nothing sammy ok...see you soon... enjoy vegas""

i was in vegas for couple of days.

anyways like i said,,, i decided to hold back, i went above and beyond for this dude if he wants me he can come back...



Also his very similar to my EX (venus in virgo) ... my ex also did this,,,, detaching to analyze the situation when it got intense (when he fell for me hard).... i asked my ex about it last night and he confirmed it

Ugh this stuff is frustrating. I was with this guy 8 months, he disappeared for 3 months, came back for 5 months. Multiple declarations of his love for me, two Mexico vacations, and planning a life together ( he wanted us to move to Mexico together). And poof!

From what happened with him, he would start struggling with insecurities that i’d leave him and that I was better off financially than him. Etc after about 3-4 months. And then it was this big push-pull.. the first time he disappeared I didn’t reach out after the second week. He came back 3 months later but then he freaked himself out 4 months later. It was never me, it was him planning &then freaking 🙄 it’s like dude chill!! Just enjoy life. Yeah so I really think it’s best to let him come for you. Let him figure it out, and hey he might just be too late... take care of you.

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that's messed up... i wounder what your guy's venus/mars was.

mine didnt do the planning it was all me.... we didnt really plan anything... just enjoyed the moments and told eachother "you're mind and i'm yours" and that we want to be with eachother for many years.

i know for a fact with my guy, his first bf (only bf) left him after 9 months and he never saw him again or got a reason... closure... and because of that he told me he wants to be 10000000% sure before he picks his next partner that he wont do that.

so i decided to take it slow and wait for me.... but the distancing gave me mixed singles.

by from my experince with my ex (virgo venus) my ex confirmed he did the same to put his emotions in check and analyze because he fell for me hard and it was clouding his judgment...

i hope its the same case here lol and its just a matter of time

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also what should i do? should i keep my distance? i hate mind games lol. im bad at them (sag venus lol)

i am being patient and i have been reaching out to him even though he stopped (every couple of days texts) good morning or how you doing ext.. nothing crazy.

me not texting him at all, isnt me... lol

You know when they get like this it is tough. My ex boyfriend struggled in our relationship a lot. Always feeling insecure and not good enough. Twice he disappeared completely, once he came back. So the thing is you can’t make them come back, you have to let them work through it. Personally when he stopped initiating and responding to my messages, I stopped too.

You have to always be yourself, but if he’s not making effort and not arranging to see you, what do you really have? When you’ve poured your heart out & they are still in their little cave there just isn’t much you can do. Btw I’m Cap Venus, Mercury & mars but sag sun.

In the end, he went off to find someone else to make him not be miserable.. instead of dealing with why he was miserable ( like i was trying to get him to do) his only issues with me were really about him. But I had to figure it all out later from things he had said when he was working through it.. cuz later when he disappeared he again refused to deal with it. The comments were we’ll talk soon. I promise we will get together.. yeah not so much. Those are going away comments. Continuing to reach out does not help. This btw was from someone who was planning a future together.. but you know he was right. I’m better off without him.

Hope this helps you somewhat.

thank you for sharing this story.

he admitted to me that he does have feelings for me and wants to be with me for many years.... we went from talking daily to nothing!! he used to blow up my phone for two months daily..

then emotions kicked in. and he started to worry and analyze.

when i text him he does reply. asking how my day was and stuff and is sweet... but i decided to spot because i dont want to be the only person putting effort.

when i asked him wtf is going on... he replied... "Not worries for nothing sammy ok...see you soon... enjoy vegas""

i was in vegas for couple of days.

anyways like i said,,, i decided to hold back, i went above and beyond for this dude if he wants me he can come back...



Also his very similar to my EX (venus in virgo) ... my ex also did this,,,, detaching to analyze the situation when it got intense (when he fell for me hard).... i asked my ex about it last night and he confirmed it

I went through this ordeal with a Capricorn. She had similarities with others but had been cheated on twice in her past 2 relationships. Also Capricorns are the hardest workers I’ve ever seen. So they stay busy a lot. But we hit it off and dated for a few months. She started growing distant after a while decided to break up. 3 days later she wants to get back together after I don’t talk with her for a few days. Then she kept making plans with me and bailing again and again. You can only keep making exceptions and excuses for people so long. So I told her she was flakey and stopped talking to her altogether. But she decides to hit me up again a year later. We hang out and it goes really well. We ended up kissing two different times but she disappears again. I spent a lot of time talking to her and waiting around to just end up getting hurt repeatedly. Also they are so busy all the time they are always meeting new people. So you could end up competing with someone else. Good luck with everything but I wouldn’t personally spend too much time waiting around for him to make up his mind.

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damn that would drive me crazy!!!

im not putting my life on hold and actually deleted his number to spot me from reaching out.

i went above and beyond for him and proved to him im serious about what i want and he said he wanted the same but does have fear issues (family rejecting him because his gay and getting dumped)

every time i make plans he cancels because his tired of busy (which is mostly true and he stays at home im friends with the rooomate i got a spy lmao, in fact he hardly ever goes out.)

because i have so much fire (sag/aries) in me while sun in capricorn im very impatient and dont like reading between the lines.... because im a blunt and direct.

anyways i decided to move on. i did enough, if he wants me he can hit me up....

he said "i promises we'll do something this weekend" yet he still didnt reach out. lets see if his a man of his word.

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also what should i do? should i keep my distance? i hate mind games lol. im bad at them (sag venus lol)

i am being patient and i have been reaching out to him even though he stopped (every couple of days texts) good morning or how you doing ext.. nothing crazy.

me not texting him at all, isnt me... lol

You know when they get like this it is tough. My ex boyfriend struggled in our relationship a lot. Always feeling insecure and not good enough. Twice he disappeared completely, once he came back. So the thing is you can’t make them come back, you have to let them work through it. Personally when he stopped initiating and responding to my messages, I stopped too.

You have to always be yourself, but if he’s not making effort and not arranging to see you, what do you really have? When you’ve poured your heart out & they are still in their little cave there just isn’t much you can do. Btw I’m Cap Venus, Mercury & mars but sag sun.

In the end, he went off to find someone else to make him not be miserable.. instead of dealing with why he was miserable ( like i was trying to get him to do) his only issues with me were really about him. But I had to figure it all out later from things he had said when he was working through it.. cuz later when he disappeared he again refused to deal with it. The comments were we’ll talk soon. I promise we will get together.. yeah not so much. Those are going away comments. Continuing to reach out does not help. This btw was from someone who was planning a future together.. but you know he was right. I’m better off without him.

Hope this helps you somewhat.

thank you for sharing this story.

he admitted to me that he does have feelings for me and wants to be with me for many years.... we went from talking daily to nothing!! he used to blow up my phone for two months daily..

then emotions kicked in. and he started to worry and analyze.

when i text him he does reply. asking how my day was and stuff and is sweet... but i decided to spot because i dont want to be the only person putting effort.

when i asked him wtf is going on... he replied... "Not worries for nothing sammy ok...see you soon... enjoy vegas""

i was in vegas for couple of days.

anyways like i said,,, i decided to hold back, i went above and beyond for this dude if he wants me he can come back...



Also his very similar to my EX (venus in virgo) ... my ex also did this,,,, detaching to analyze the situation when it got intense (when he fell for me hard).... i asked my ex about it last night and he confirmed it

Ugh this stuff is frustrating. I was with this guy 8 months, he disappeared for 3 months, came back for 5 months. Multiple declarations of his love for me, two Mexico vacations, and planning a life together ( he wanted us to move to Mexico together). And poof!

From what happened with him, he would start struggling with insecurities that i’d leave him and that I was better off financially than him. Etc after about 3-4 months. And then it was this big push-pull.. the first time he disappeared I didn’t reach out after the second week. He came back 3 months later but then he freaked himself out 4 months later. It was never me, it was him planning &then freaking 🙄 it’s like dude chill!! Just enjoy life. Yeah so I really think it’s best to let him come for you. Let him figure it out, and hey he might just be too late... take care of you.

that's messed up... i wounder what your guy's venus/mars was.

mine didnt do the planning it was all me.... we didnt really plan anything... just enjoyed the moments and told eachother "you're mind and i'm yours" and that we want to be with eachother for many years.

i know for a fact with my guy, his first bf (only bf) left him after 9 months and he never saw him again or got a reason... closure... and because of that he told me he wants to be 10000000% sure before he picks his next partner that he wont do that.

so i decided to take it slow and wait for me.... but the distancing gave me mixed singles.

by from my experince with my ex (virgo venus) my ex confirmed he did the same to put his emotions in check and analyze because he fell for me hard and it was clouding his judgment...

i hope its the same case here lol and its just a matter of time

Mine has issues which he’s admitted to. 2 divorces and yeah he wants to make sure it’ll work but hey I was the same. But I didn’t do the freak outs. Anyway he’s Cap Venus/Pisces mars. We are both Cap Venus which is a tough combination, and his Pisces Mars was in fantasyland lol. He can’t deal with his reality. And yes it was messed up.

Well just let him process it, and see what happens.

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i hate Pisces, i would cut someone off if that was in their chart hahaha...

sorry to hear about your experince.

im gonna give my guy some time but within reason.... because for me respect is very important... if he cant even check on me compared to how he was, then i dont want that garbage anyways.

Update!!!

we talked and he said he doesnt want a bf and doesnt have feelings for me.... after intense dating and spending time together & telling me many times before that he has feelings for me and wants me for many years.

he said he doesnt to get hurt that will affect his school and work ..

he asked if we could please stay friends and told me we will chill soon....

i deleted his number and moved on.... aint nobody got time for this sh!t.

now im focusing on my business and investing in my venus virgo man that lives in a different country. he randomly called me that night to check on me and admitted that he never lost feelings for me,,, it was just the distance (after 2 years)... with lots of money i can fly in weekly now.

also thew venus in virgo,,, never left!! and at end of the day, thats what is important for me.... screw selfish capricorns