Posted by RooSagicornPosted by simsim88Posted by RooSagicornPosted by simsim88Posted by RooSagicornPosted by simsim88
also what should i do? should i keep my distance? i hate mind games lol. im bad at them (sag venus lol)
i am being patient and i have been reaching out to him even though he stopped (every couple of days texts) good morning or how you doing ext.. nothing crazy.
me not texting him at all, isnt me... lol
You know when they get like this it is tough. My ex boyfriend struggled in our relationship a lot. Always feeling insecure and not good enough. Twice he disappeared completely, once he came back. So the thing is you can’t make them come back, you have to let them work through it. Personally when he stopped initiating and responding to my messages, I stopped too.
You have to always be yourself, but if he’s not making effort and not arranging to see you, what do you really have? When you’ve poured your heart out & they are still in their little cave there just isn’t much you can do. Btw I’m Cap Venus, Mercury & mars but sag sun.
In the end, he went off to find someone else to make him not be miserable.. instead of dealing with why he was miserable ( like i was trying to get him to do) his only issues with me were really about him. But I had to figure it all out later from things he had said when he was working through it.. cuz later when he disappeared he again refused to deal with it. The comments were we’ll talk soon. I promise we will get together.. yeah not so much. Those are going away comments. Continuing to reach out does not help. This btw was from someone who was planning a future together.. but you know he was right. I’m better off without him.
Hope this helps you somewhat.
thank you for sharing this story.
he admitted to me that he does have feelings for me and wants to be with me for many years.... we went from talking daily to nothing!! he used to blow up my phone for two months daily..
then emotions kicked in. and he started to worry and analyze.
when i text him he does reply. asking how my day was and stuff and is sweet... but i decided to spot because i dont want to be the only person putting effort.
when i asked him wtf is going on... he replied... "Not worries for nothing sammy ok...see you soon... enjoy vegas""
i was in vegas for couple of days.
anyways like i said,,, i decided to hold back, i went above and beyond for this dude if he wants me he can come back...
Also his very similar to my EX (venus in virgo) ... my ex also did this,,,, detaching to analyze the situation when it got intense (when he fell for me hard).... i asked my ex about it last night and he confirmed it
Ugh this stuff is frustrating. I was with this guy 8 months, he disappeared for 3 months, came back for 5 months. Multiple declarations of his love for me, two Mexico vacations, and planning a life together ( he wanted us to move to Mexico together). And poof!
From what happened with him, he would start struggling with insecurities that i’d leave him and that I was better off financially than him. Etc after about 3-4 months. And then it was this big push-pull.. the first time he disappeared I didn’t reach out after the second week. He came back 3 months later but then he freaked himself out 4 months later. It was never me, it was him planning &then freaking 🙄 it’s like dude chill!! Just enjoy life. Yeah so I really think it’s best to let him come for you. Let him figure it out, and hey he might just be too late... take care of you.
that's messed up... i wounder what your guy's venus/mars was.
mine didnt do the planning it was all me.... we didnt really plan anything... just enjoyed the moments and told eachother "you're mind and i'm yours" and that we want to be with eachother for many years.
i know for a fact with my guy, his first bf (only bf) left him after 9 months and he never saw him again or got a reason... closure... and because of that he told me he wants to be 10000000% sure before he picks his next partner that he wont do that.
so i decided to take it slow and wait for me.... but the distancing gave me mixed singles.
by from my experince with my ex (virgo venus) my ex confirmed he did the same to put his emotions in check and analyze because he fell for me hard and it was clouding his judgment...
i hope its the same case here lol and its just a matter of time
Mine has issues which he’s admitted to. 2 divorces and yeah he wants to make sure it’ll work but hey I was the same. But I didn’t do the freak outs. Anyway he’s Cap Venus/Pisces mars. We are both Cap Venus which is a tough combination, and his Pisces Mars was in fantasyland lol. He can’t deal with his reality. And yes it was messed up.
Well just let him process it, and see what happens.click to expand