Is he looking for a respone

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hurt-heart
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Dating a Capricorn for two months, he recently came out of a relationship of three years, but it had been going badly for about a year, she moved out last August and they finally split all together in March...Twice he has told me that he feels he is not ready to date, needs time, this last time I told him to take the time and we'll see what happens later on, he wanted to stay together..This time I got a little pissed off and told him the same thing, that if he needs time, take it then I was going to leave and he talked me into spending the day with him.. That night he told me that he was scared because he loves me and that relationships never work out for him and he talked about us living together in the future..Said that he dosen't get to spend enough time with me...

Is this a rebounder— Dosen't feel like it, as I just had my heart ripped out by a rebounding Libra, or maybe it is and I just don't care enough at this point, or sometimes I feel like he's pushing me to get a response about my feelings..

Any Advice—
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hurt-heart .. I'm not entirely sure I understand why you are pressuring him if he is trying to recover from a break-up and needs time with you to just be light and free, so he can heal.

You say fine, he can take time to heal .. but, then get pissed off and want to leave him.

If a person needs extra time to heal from an injury and is doing so while talking to you and sharing this with you, reminding you that you are important to him ... then why is there a lack of compassion for him during this healing process?

A re-bounder would be a person who pushes full-force ahead to capture you completely, so he can distract himself from this past injury .. this isn't happening in the this case .. he is telling you that he wants to continue trying to develop a relationship with you because he cares about you very much .. however, he's not ready to make a serious one until he can get past/over his emotionaly injury.

My suggestion to you would be to back off from having an official dating routine since he isn't quite comfortable with this yet, and at the same time, maintain a loyal casual relationship in which you both are comfortable in knowing that the purpose of taking it slow is with intentions of growing together.

The last thing anybody should do when trying to develop a relationship is to push hard and fast for committment, with hasty plans for the future before you've even had the chance properly get to know each other.
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hurt-heart
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well,it was definately a rebounder..We broke up this weekend, his dad is passing away they are taking him off machines this week, the day he heard that, he said he was unsure of everything..The next day we decided to break up, he said he needs his ex-girlfriend right now..Said mabey we could see each other again in the future, I closed this door immediately..I wish him well and I understand how he needs her at this point..