Let the distractions begin :(

So after months of flirting and opening up to each other, I finally got my Cap crush to agree to do something out side of work he was going to show me how to shoot guns either at a range or in his parent's backyard. We planned this last week and were supposed to do it tomorrow, but Sunday his grandmother whom he was very close to passed away. So obviously I don't expect him to want to really be around anyone, but what does suck as well is I will never know if he would have kept his word to hang out or not.

I made him a peach cobbler and signed a card for him I can see the pain all over him I just want to wrap him in a warm blanket and spoon feed him stove top pudding while watching Game of Thrones. MY fear is that this grief will put us back at square one and he will cut him self off from people and work him self sick.

How can I still be there for him, but not smoother him? I really am gonna have to distract myself or I will worry myself sick about him. When I start feeling like I am loosing someone I check on them too much and it is normally in an insecure and awkward way(Cancer moon). I feel like we were already at an awkward stage like he was just getting super close to me so it is at a stage where he will either distance himself or get even closer, but I feel like that depends on me I am just not sure how to approach things.

Posted by Capri-sun
Breath and let things happen naturally.

Be there for him if he reaches out to you.

If he's not reaching out, let your libra side keep you balanced. Meaning check on him, just don't overly baby him, unless he is giving you those cues.

If you were already in an awkward place then you really have nothing to lose. Either it will stay awkward or get better.

Yes he might shut down. Yes he might bury himself in work. You just have to accept those possibilitiesand let him grieve in his own way. If you truly care for him, then you'll be understanding of this.

Thanks I wont really know if he is dissapearing until next week. I have had to work in our other building all week so I have only seen him once this week.

Good grief. How can you make this about you?

How will you know if he would have kept his word? Wait. Give some time and see if he schedules something when he's over his heartache.

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Posted by Capri-sun
Breath and let things happen naturally.

Be there for him if he reaches out to you.

If he's not reaching out, let your libra side keep you balanced. Meaning check on him, just don't overly baby him, unless he is giving you those cues.

If you were already in an awkward place then you really have nothing to lose. Either it will stay awkward or get better.

Yes he might shut down. Yes he might bury himself in work. You just have to accept those possibilitiesand let him grieve in his own way. If you truly care for him, then you'll be understanding of this.

Thanks I wont really know if he is dissapearing until next week. I have had to work in our other building all week so I have only seen him once this week.

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men who CARE about you don't disappear...

why do women have a hard time with this

Posted by truecap
Good grief. How can you make this about you?

How will you know if he would have kept his word? Wait. Give some time and see if he schedules something when he's over his heartache.

I knew someone was going to say this. I wasn't trying to make it about me I was simply saying it was bad timing because he is finally loosening up not just with me but all around in his life and I didn't want it to throw him back into seclusion. Just talked to him a couple of minutes ago he seemed to be in a better mood which is good.

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Posted by ladylibra21

Posted by Capri-sun
Breath and let things happen naturally.

Be there for him if he reaches out to you.

If he's not reaching out, let your libra side keep you balanced. Meaning check on him, just don't overly baby him, unless he is giving you those cues.

If you were already in an awkward place then you really have nothing to lose. Either it will stay awkward or get better.

Yes he might shut down. Yes he might bury himself in work. You just have to accept those possibilitiesand let him grieve in his own way. If you truly care for him, then you'll be understanding of this.

Thanks I wont really know if he is dissapearing until next week. I have had to work in our other building all week so I have only seen him once this week.

men who CARE about you don't disappear...

I disappear from people I care about. People handle things differently.

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I don't believe people who care about others disappear without warning... nobody likes that feeling and especially not a cap so why would a cap do that?

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Posted by Capri-sun

Posted by aquapiscescusp

Posted by ladylibra21

Posted by Capri-sun
Breath and let things happen naturally.

Be there for him if he reaches out to you.

If he's not reaching out, let your libra side keep you balanced. Meaning check on him, just don't overly baby him, unless he is giving you those cues.

If you were already in an awkward place then you really have nothing to lose. Either it will stay awkward or get better.

Yes he might shut down. Yes he might bury himself in work. You just have to accept those possibilitiesand let him grieve in his own way. If you truly care for him, then you'll be understanding of this.

Thanks I wont really know if he is dissapearing until next week. I have had to work in our other building all week so I have only seen him once this week.

men who CARE about you don't disappear...

I disappear from people I care about. People handle things differently.

I don't believe people who care about others disappear without warning... nobody likes that feeling and especially not a cap so why would a cap do that?

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IDK I was being a pessy. I should be thinking positively.

Well you could let him know you're there for him. And if he needs you by his side do it. It's not about you.

Posted by aquapiscescusp

Posted by Capri-sun

Posted by aquapiscescusp

Posted by ladylibra21

Posted by Capri-sun
Breath and let things happen naturally.

Be there for him if he reaches out to you.

If he's not reaching out, let your libra side keep you balanced. Meaning check on him, just don't overly baby him, unless he is giving you those cues.

If you were already in an awkward place then you really have nothing to lose. Either it will stay awkward or get better.

Yes he might shut down. Yes he might bury himself in work. You just have to accept those possibilitiesand let him grieve in his own way. If you truly care for him, then you'll be understanding of this.

Thanks I wont really know if he is dissapearing until next week. I have had to work in our other building all week so I have only seen him once this week.

men who CARE about you don't disappear...

I disappear from people I care about. People handle things differently.

I don't believe people who care about others disappear without warning... nobody likes that feeling and especially not a cap so why would a cap do that?

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Yes, stay positive... trust in what you share 🙂