libra wanting capricorn

hello everyone my name is lisa and i want so much more from this capricorn guy, but friendship is what he's offering. i've known mr. cap for now almost 2 years....their was an immediate attraction, this cap was very mysterious at times. we would talk about anything for long periods of time, such as family,friends...just anything...i really liked his whole demeanor...very laidback type of guy.i'm in my mid 20's, i have no kids, i have my own place, and own ride...and a decent job, quite independent i would say for myself. mr. cap is in his mid 30's, he has 3 kids..he lives with family, and is between jobs.... yea i know he has baggage, but who doesn't....any how in the beginning cap would text and call, at the time i was getting out of a relationship...so i wouldn't too much pay him any mind. he was still persistent, but noticing i wasn't being so responsive to him...i guessed when i started feeling him a little more...he will back off...but still respond? in the beginning i wasn't crazy over cap...after getting to know him a little more and being intimate after 6 months...i fell lol....yea i know judge me ....i started to want more like him asking me out and quality time. cap told me he wouldn't be able to give me a relationship at the present time, due to he has a lot on his plate...such as he has his kids mainly on weekends...and work and so for....i just thought it was excuses, like what guy wouldn't make time...we didn't have sex alot but when we did it was always good...he would disappear for like 3 days in the beginning and shoot me a text, then it became like every week....now it's more than 2 weeks... i guess my question would be to any male or female capricorns why doesn't he want more? should i cut my losses? ...i can't help but think about him everyday, i stopped initiating contact because i feel like he should b e chasing me i'm a great woman.....why don"t he see that?

champranger...what were u gonna say?

you think 6 months is not long enough?

Ouch. You know my bias against Capricorn men is so negative ... just stay away girl.. isn't this the same dude we talked about in the past, Libra24?

It could be anything.. he could have gotten what he wanted and decided to dip or his home life and career sector could be frustrating him (May has been a tough month for numerous Caps according to the planets). When I'm going through, I isolate myself from everyone except the people who are near and dear and will comfort us if we needed.

So IDK.. I need the backstory. It really could be a variety of things that's making him switch moves like that.

hmmm at prettyqueenbee yes, same guy....and maybe so..but i've decided that i have to move on..welll we've never started you can so...but it's not me not having my self together it's him

@champranger..... i don't think it's so much of what he got...cause trust me it wasn't like that with us...he had came out of a 6 year relationship which didn't work out.... it had been 2 years when i met him.. i'm not saying you wrong it's just capricorn guy didn't come to me with relationship offer..i believe he has a lot of baggage that he can't consider it

Hmmmmm...I think he's moved on because in MY opinion, 95% of Cap men, when in love, it's for the long haul. They generally don't play games. He has other things going on and most Cap's are very organized and rather predictable human beings, and do not do chao's well. Structure and Organization for Capricorns is like air....just like BALANCE is for Libra's, and when out of balance, they are confused about everything.

And exactly!! you are a great women, so let him come to you if he wants you. Do not call or text anymore.

"champranger" unless you are totally reserved, I don't think 6 months is too long of a time to become intimate with someone that you really like. Some folks don't even wait a month, let alone 6 months. Yeah, idealistically and morally, we all should probably strive to be married before sex is involved, but in reality, we know that's not likely.

Posted by PrettyQueenBee
Ouch. You know my bias against Capricorn men is so negative ... just stay away girl.. isn't this the same dude we talked about in the past, Libra24?

It could be anything.. he could have gotten what he wanted and decided to dip or his home life and career sector could be frustrating him (May has been a tough month for numerous Caps according to the planets). When I'm going through, I isolate myself from everyone except the people who are near and dear and will comfort us if we needed.

So IDK.. I need the backstory. It really could be a variety of things that's making him switch moves like that.

Hey, Hey! There's nothing wrong with Cap men.........

Posted by libra24
you think 6 months is not long enough?

There's nothing wrong with 6 months.

Perfectly acceptable amount of time.

he's not into you. if he were he'd be on you like white on rice. yes, even cap men. they don't give up the chase. They just do it quietly.

he probably honestly doesn't feel you are "the one" to fit his criteria. which is why you're here confused and dazed. cause you want him bad and you find his style and energy very irresistible.

@lib4lyfe... yea I agree about letting him come to me....but who has time for that it's almost been 2 years...and I'm still in the friend zone, yet Capricorn says he likes me...I need action...I just feel like he don't want me in that way.

@finclassy...I know that his kids are his main priority...I've accepted that...and true enough was willing to stick by him , but the more I get close, he pushes away...mixed signals...but the signs are noticeable..he just not stepping up....he shouldn't wanna lose me either, I haven't done anything wrong....right?

@lisabethur8..i've mentioned that to him, about he's not into me...he tells me I'm wrong...and he just have a lot on his plate. and what do you mean I'm not the one criteria....I'm sorry but I disagree..i have my life on track...I'm hardworking....no kids, own place...very attractive....he's the one not meeting the criteria...are you sure cause I don't like to brag but Capricorn said he adore those things about me.... I'm not a party person...I just want love and security.

so you're saying that he don't wanna start anything with me because his life is not on track or he's just not into me period?

@caplove....ok...that's what I'm trying too do...even tho he's in the back in my mind..i have to get over him..he did once say that he doesn't feel like he's good enough for me...do you think he will come back around?

Posted by libra24
@lisabethur8..i've mentioned that to him, about he's not into me...he tells me I'm wrong...and he just have a lot on his plate. and what do you mean I'm not the one criteria....I'm sorry but I disagree..i have my life on track...I'm hardworking....no kids, own place...very attractive....he's the one not meeting the criteria...are you sure cause I don't like to brag but Capricorn said he adore those things about me.... I'm not a party person...I just want love and security.

i don't believe you because you wouldn't be here complaining 😄

Dating a man with a child or children is tough .... I don't like it. Unless he's like 45-65 years old and all of his kids are adults. ^__^ Those are the type of men I date. Won't you try a man who's his age or maybe even a little older? But who actually does have his shxt together and can provide you with the things you need and desire in a man?

And as far as what everyone else has said in the thread, I agree with them.

Posted by libra24
@lisabethur8..i've mentioned that to him, about he's not into me...he tells me I'm wrong...and he just have a lot on his plate. and what do you mean I'm not the one criteria....I'm sorry but I disagree..i have my life on track...I'm hardworking....no kids, own place...very attractive....he's the one not meeting the criteria...are you sure cause I don't like to brag but Capricorn said he adore those things about me.... I'm not a party person...I just want love and security.

The fact that you may not the be the one to him has nothing to do with your looks, or where you are in your life. You sound great, like you have your shit together and like you care about this Cap a lot. But what I've learned is that regardless of how great I am, regardless of how hard I try, if someone's not into me, it's on them, not me, because I'm a great person 🙂 So if this is the outcome, that you're more into him than he's into you, don't sweat it.

But, from what I've read, it seems that he likes you. We don't give out compliments unless we mean them, and if we have nothing nice to say, we just don't say anything at all. Let him chase you. Maybe he will come around when he has his life in order a bit more.

Posted by Caplove

holy hell, you waited 6 months!? **claps hands**

Seriously, bravo.

Posted by libra24
@lib4lyfe... yea I agree about letting him come to me....but who has time for that it's almost been 2 years...and I'm still in the friend zone, yet Capricorn says he likes me...I need action...I just feel like he don't want me in that way.

Oh yes....I agree...I wasn't saying wait around for him to come to you. Please do not do that. Carry on with your life and if he comes around and you happen to still be available, then let nature takes it's course, but He'll to the Na'll, don't ever sit around and wait for No Man!

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Posted by Caplove

holy hell, you waited 6 months!? **claps hands**

Seriously, bravo.

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lmao yes! BRAVO ... the Fire in me would go insane lol

so it's been 3 weeks and capricorn just now text me ....u been doing alrite friend...should i ignore and continue to go on with my life without him...or do i respond casually? what do you guys think

Respond casually as it's a direct question, if you want to see what he wants.

Maybe ask him how he has been ...my cap said he would not disappear for three weeks unless he wasn't into the girl or there was some major life event.

but i've already unfriended him from facebook....and even though we are friends...i want him to know that's not cool so i really don't want to respond, what do you think...i'm really tired of the disappearing...i will say the last couple of times he 's been initiating...but still why do he think this is acceptable.

what did you say sunmoonstars

It's possible that he thinks you are too good for him. He may not make you happy. It could be about compatibility as he has so much baggage?

so do i respond? i ant him to know he can't just treat me this way, i mean even though he's asking how i'm doing, doesn't make it ok....isn't 3 weeks too long

Have you been intimate with him or is this a friendship only?
Sorry if too prying feel free to pm me

i have it's been about 2 months though...and he last contacted me on mother's day, of course i want more...but we're friends ....read my intro on page 1 so you can get familiar

lol yea tell me about it, he confuses me...why are cappies so difficult? it is best to let him lead right, because i've pored my heart out already

@caplove he wants to see me like right now...but its like 11:46 that's late i guess he wants to come over, what do i do, i don't want him to think its ok to contact me 3 weeks later and see me what do i do? decline? or accept

Sounds like he's the one that needs to figure things out for himself. You have already told him what you want. I don't like it when cap men test the waters with you on commitment and then pull back. Makes me feel like they cannot be counted on.

Calling you "friend" seems odd...do you have a title with him?

You deserve someone better who has their life together. I think a cap guy who doesn't is a handful to deal with and you may have to compromise way too much for an undetermined amount of time. Think about if you want that and why...

i did ..i told him it was late and i'm in the bed, was their something important he needed to talk to me about, and that i was free tomorrow if he wanted to see me...his response was kool.....i think he's mad....then again i've never declined my cap before even if it was late....im like wow right now, what the hell is kool

@sunmoonstars we're friends that's what he wants

Yeah...this guy sounds like he got accustomed to your nice libran nature...and when you are even a bit colder he can sense it. I have mars and venus in libra, so sometimes it's hard for me too. Try asserting yourself more with him... You deserve a straight answer.

yea... exactly, see the thing is that he has never asked me out like a date or something like that, but i'm learning to put myself first. he knows how i feel and he 's use to me initiating contact, but i've put a stop to that... i can't do that no more thats his job...i just don't get it, he tells me he can't give me a relationship, but yet he wants all the benefits that it come s with. then he says we're friends. WHAT DO HE FREAKING WANT UGHHH

@sunmoonstars you're right, no more being ms.nice,i'm not taking his bull sh $ $ anymore, he need to step it up

exactly... i really didn't wanna respond to any of his texts, but it's too late.i wanted to wait 3 weeks like he waited to contact me lol...but what can i say we're not in a relationship only friends so i can't expect that, but what i can expect is to be treated like a queen so if it takes me to lose him completely out my life..then so be it...i have my life on track...i'm not a doormat, do you cappies like when someone tell you NO, or stand their grounds

Personally, I fxckin hate the word, "NO." Unless it's something like "No babe, I didn't forget to put the money in your account." lmfao, but all jokes aside- Some Caps can be self-righteous if not all of them...

but then again, I'm so used to getting my way and running the show, that it OCCASIONALLY tickles my fancy when someone stands their ground and puts me in my place. So it depends on the person really.

I agree with fnclassy. I think you are just his escape temporarily from his shitty reality. I don't believe he has any real intentions to take things seriously with you and all the signs are there proving that. He says you are too good for him, but that does not affect him when it comes to sleeping with you. No communication for 3 weeks and when he does decide to reach out its 11 somethin' at night. Guuurl, let him go. Be thankful he does not want anything serious with you because from what you have said about him he sounds like a hot mess!

Posted by libra24
exactly... i really didn't wanna respond to any of his texts, but it's too late.i wanted to wait 3 weeks like he waited to contact me lol...but what can i say we're not in a relationship only friends so i can't expect that, but what i can expect is to be treated like a queen so if it takes me to lose him completely out my life..then so be it...i have my life on track...i'm not a doormat, do you cappies like when someone tell you NO, or stand their grounds

In my experience, Cap males like it when a woman stands their ground! Have the courage to say what you want and think...when they are messing up, call them on it. However, make sure to do it in a respectful way. They can be quite sensitive to any criticism, and will internally brood over it for a long time if they love you. Stand your ground if you know you are right, they like consistency and honesty. Cap males can be really stubborn but will listen and take what you say into consideration if they respect you.

Posted by PrettyQueenBee
Personally, I fxckin hate the word, "NO." Unless it's something like "No babe, I didn't forget to put the money in your account."

LOL you're hysterical!

@CC She needs to talk to him to "know her place"

CC, bad kitty.

Um, Lisa... what CC is saying (in a much nicer manner)

Is to basically get over it.. and him. He's a MALE Capricorn, so he's a certified loser by default. Male Caps have their PhD's in BUM-ology. Not to mention he's broke with a shxtload of kids... terrible combination. I think you know what to do (that's what CC means by "stupid questions."... you probably just needed to "hear" or see others say it. I was the same way with that shxtty Scorpio I dated on and off for 30,000 years. Sometimes it takes words from someone else to HELP you GET the hint. And that's okay. But you have declare that today (or yesterday) is the day where you are done. Because one thing I can say about ALL Caps is that we don't play games...

If a Capricorn wants you, they WILL have you.. trust me.... and if they don't want you, their ACTIONS will show you. He doesn't have to come out and say "Hey, Lisa I don't want you." He said it through his actions by not talking to you for weeks among other things. Judging from what you're telling us, he doesn't want to be with you. AND THAT IS OKAY!!! The world isn't going to stop. Date around! It's too many men, too much meat, and too much money out here to be worried about a 30 year old, who's a brokie with a Brady Bunch clan.

Move on girly. And live life.

you have a good deal going for yourself. Be patient. Dont sell yourself short. The best thing you should offer this man is friendship. He has to get his life together. He can't do anything for you came he knows that. Entering a serious relationship would be too emotional.

thank you guys for your input, I understand...life goes on