My Mom is a Cap

Is this why she brought me up to be so career oriented? I have no domestic bone in my body >_>; and quite analytical in fact.

My mom was a Sag and dad a Virgo, I was brought up with an emphasis on morality and being a good person above all else. Education, occupational nor financial success were ever discussed (or encouraged, for that matter - they're position: I had to find my own way in the world, they felt the values they instilled in me would carry me through).

I, as a Cap parent, however, emphasize education above all else for my children as a necessary platform for success in life followed by strong moral values.

Posted by TG
Did she? My mom is a leo and she brought me up to be very career oriented, while my capricorn grandma and aunt brought me up to be pretty lazy. They never talked about career or anything like that. They just let me do whatever I wanted.
I'm a cappy too and tbh I think that work and career is boring and overrated. People should just revolt and refuse to go to work.

Well, yehp mommy-deadrest was always like "career career career! money money money! education education education!". Well that's interesting, cuz my dad is a Leo. Same speech as my mom but far more lenient when I decide on doing my career my way. X_X

I guess I made this topic because recently I spoke to my mom about how I feel that all my life I've been geared towards my ambitions and education. Then I complained that perhaps because of this focus I probably will be alone in my life and every relationship I may have might possibly be just distractions in attaining this "success" of mine. My mom's response was " No, I don't think you'll be alone. But I really do think you gotta get that career and finish up your masters. THEN you can dabble with love." This is where I kinda got pissed off.... It was one of those "MOM! I'm going, you weren't listening." convos.


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also judging from your profile picture you seem asian .. it's a very asian parent thing to do

lol...im lazy goat. but i always tried to focus on school growing up and being obidient when it suited me. cappy children are like that...lol

Posted by SeeingRed

Posted by TG
Did she? My mom is a leo and she brought me up to be very career oriented, while my capricorn grandma and aunt brought me up to be pretty lazy. They never talked about career or anything like that. They just let me do whatever I wanted.
I'm a cappy too and tbh I think that work and career is boring and overrated. People should just revolt and refuse to go to work.

Well, yehp mommy-deadrest was always like "career career career! money money money! education education education!". Well that's interesting, cuz my dad is a Leo. Same speech as my mom but far more lenient when I decide on doing my career my way. X_X

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Isn't it a bad thing that she focused on you having a good career. I would have loved if my mom were like that when it came to college.

When I was in elementary, middle school, and high school, both she and my scorpio dad were about *Education*Education*Education -- heavens I loved it. However, after my father past, things were different. Then I discovered that it was my father that really pushed the education element and she didn't want to argue over it so she did as well.

My mom basically wanted me to learn how to work hard and I did but after my father's passing she admitted that she wanted me to be more of the 'domestic goddess', if you well and focus more on that stuff and any job that bought in a decent amount of money would do just fine.

Before I moved the 1st time, I tried to be the domestic woman and I think I was pretty good at it but seriously, I had way too many ambitions to focus on how to keep a house looking *Divine* So, as soon as I moved, my main focus was school and because I worked to pay for school (like I'm doing right now), I had to put the domestic stuff aside.

I know my way around the house but it's not as important to me as my career and my other ambitions.

Oh and my moom isn't a capricorn, she's a pisces, I'm not sure if I mentioned that. She and I bump heads a lot on ambitions verse other things ^_^.

I think more than anything your mother wants you to be self-reliant. That's really all it boils down to with Capricorns.

I really like reading about the Virgo/Sag parenting dynamic. It goes to show that there's really no right or wrong way of doing things. Not stressing the big stuff until the time comes would send me to panic mode if my parents did that, but I'm glad it worked for you all. I think more than anything, parents need to understand the type of child they have and push in the areas that are needed instead of just pushing and forcing what they want to happen.

Oh, I have a taurus cousin who drives me completely insane. She does not listen and will not budge, especially not for me. Its like she knows that I'm a control freak, and she's known it since she was a baby. To cut it short, I can only deal with her in small doses lol.

You can't really teach a cappy there's more than one way. There are caps that are more flexible than others but it seems that we come as we are and develop our own minds early on and there's very little changing that. If you have a cappy parent, and If there is another way, you have to be strong in a non disrespectful way of course and prove it to us. We'll always push what we think is right to our kids, but we'll admire your strength and persistance in following your heart.