Need Opinion...

Me and my cap man, have an on and off relations..at present we are okay...But just last month we were not in a good terms...And in our last date, i informed him that i'm engaged and planning to get married soon(my fiancee is working in another country)His reaction, seems fine with him..but he told me...wether i'm married or not..he will be always there for me...(But i don't believe him)...Recently, i send him messages that i still love him and care for him, and before i'm going to settle down...i want to spent time or special moments with him, to show all the love i have for him...

The question is: Would he let himself fall under my plan?...if yes...is it mean, he have other plan for himself also...

I'm a cancerian...i'm not cheating my fiancee!!!..First of all, my cap bf, has been cheating me from time to time, but still i let him to come back to my life again and again, coz i want to work out our relationship..and for what i'm doing to let him fall under my plan...is because i want him to feel and to know...that someday or somehow he will realize that there was a lady crazy falling in love with him...and i want to put that into his memories for life...Because, once i'm going to start settling down with my fiancee, i would never ever give face to my cap bf(i'll make sure of that) coz i will go with my future husband where ever he maybe...i'll take every risk just to be with him.---- "Take note, just recently i got engaged...and that time i was pissed off with this cap man"

During our times together...i never showed him my best and my true feelings to him, i never cared about his feelings...that is why sometimes he's distant and cold to me...till it is unbearable for me to stick with our relationship...Second thing is, if he is not with me for 1-week till 1-month..i just got to know he is seeing someone else..and this someones else is i know..it really hurts me..but still i'm just keeping it to myself..and still want to love him more..coz im thinking i know he would come back again to me and wishing someday somehow he will changed...now yah, he is back to me...but still i cannot guarantee if he will stop cheating on me?...Now, i'm engaged..and going to spend my life time with my fiancee and do my best to love him more than how he loves me...But i just cannot get out of my mind..about this cap bf of mine...i've been hurt by him..so before i'm moving on with my new life...i want him feel...what he's been missing...***archer..what is your sign?*** and thanks...for the opinion :-)

i'll shower him with gifts and love notes or messages, i'll give him the compassion that i never gave it to him before...i don't care..coz i love him..it's just i have to move on with my life..coz i'm feed up with his lies and cheats... and besides..i don't wanna play his games anymore..i want to end it..Since, there is a guy out there..loving me and giving me attentions..what i've been waiting and wanting.

emote gee,

It's so much better to just leave the guy then to cheat on him like he's cheating on you. After I see the way the scorpio and the cancer men were really about, I stop the relationship cold.

No hell and/or fury could keep me with them because I felt betrayed.

I am sorry to be so blunt... but I think you are crazy to be engaged and still worried about this jerk Capricorn and trying to show your love for him. Your poor fiance- I feel very bad for him. Maybe you should be on your own and heal yourself before entering a marriage with another who may not be getting a full commitment from you due to past issues you have...?

guys, thanks for the thoughts...First and foremost and to be honest, i'm not going to cheat my fiancee...i was just thinking, since i'm not yet knot to him...and i have this, lets say past lover (cap man) and still want me...i just had in mind i want to get revenge or even with him...i've been suffering a lot when i was with him..he is a cheater..i forgive him again and again because i love him!!!...since just recently i met a guy..offering me a life time love...Of course, its a right time for me to wake up and leave this jerk cap...

To archer: yes, i do love this cap man...but whay would i choose him...he is on and off with me...cheating around...and no plans about us...he is just saying things but not sticking on it...

I've heard that the best way to get even, is to live a good life.

Confirmation...why Cancer woman rub me the wrong way. I'm not being judgemental...seriously do whatever your heart desires emote gee. I just don't understand why you are with someone who wants to spend the rest of their life with you, and you are hanging on to the past. Thats not cool, I think your actions are selfish. And why would you want to marry someone that you don't have passion and love for? Your cheating yourself.
Marriage is forever...doesn't anyone believe that anymore? How sad...

To Sb: Getting even with him...if i follow my heart- He knows me as a giver...thats where i hooked him before...i will only hook him for one month...shower him with attention as long as he wants...after that...thats it...i will start telling him how i feel...and this is a cycle of life...sometimes your up and sometimes your down...He will be hooked or not...thats the end of it. Thats the end of my love story with him.

They said...The heart of the lady easily to develop to let fall inlove...by someone loving her unconditional.

gee, doesn't sound like love to me..

emote gee

Are you crazy, you should be putting your time and energy into the relationship that is healthy, not the one that is a huge mind game... You cannot change the capricorn and what if you get no reaction out of him, then what try a different strategy to get him back... You should forget about the cap. and use your time to focus on if you really should marry your fiance. I think you should really re-evaluate your situation and make sure you are ready for a LIFE-LONG COMMITMENT, and not just to get back at your ex. Forget the cap. and give your undivided attention to your fiance if you truly love him.

"Secondly, if your cap knows you are engaged and you choose to mess with him (even one last time as you put it), he will loose whatever love, respect (if any) he felt for you. He will welcome the opportunity to have sex with you, use you, and then discard you physically and mentally. So, if you really want to get back at this cap, just be happy with your finace, marry him and live a happy life, let the cap see what he missed."

Well said. Advice of the day.

I totally agree with CapGal!

gotta add to this...sorry but you are soooooooooooooooooooooooooo not ready to get married...i agree with the point made of feeling sorry for your fiancee, i have gone through a broken marriage after three kids and i'll tell you this, it is NO FUCKING PICNIC and people get hurt, esp the kids...and my ex-husbands and my problems had nothing to do with what you're talking about. you're going into a marriage with the intense desire to "get even, hurt, ger revenge" against another man, that's NO way to go into any marriage or even relationship, how would YOU feel if your fiancee was marrying you and planning on spending one last time with an ex lover who burned him before marrying you? think about it...do you think you'd be giving your blessing to that. Don't do this to either guy for God's sake, get your head out of your ass and think of someone else besides your own self for a minute. you're probably saying "who the hell is this bitch?" but i read these all these from time to time and this one has really floored me...how old are you anyway 12?

CapGal..Watch your mouth!!! Im nothing but a little slut!!! I don't think so!....First of all i'm not yet married! Second thing is, i didn't have yet sex..with my so called fiancee...third is, let say..my ex-cap lover, wants me to come back into his life..its because maybe, he is afraid of losing me?!!..just because..i informed him that i'm planning to get married in the future!!! Good for him!!!

Why? is it that bad...giving gifts and other things to a person that you love before..YOU WILL CALL IT CHEATING!!! what a shame!!!....

Cap

Just a minor correction. The awesome advice attributed to me was actually given by Capgirl(Read her post before mine;its kick ass)

CapGal...You want to know..why i get engaged while i'm still hold on to my ex cap? It is because i have future with my fiancee...who the hell a person doesn't want a good life?!...i post this topic...to ask opinoin, in order for me to know...if what would be the feeling of my ex-lover...if he fall under my games...then, knowing im getting married soon...i'm doing this doesn't mean i'm not faithful or loving my fiancee!...isn't it life is a game...wether you loose or win? and it depends how you play the game?