Pisces male talking to female Capricorn needs to be reassured she's still interested please

So I've been talking to the Cap girl for about a month now and at first we would hang out a lot I knew from the start she was gonna be busy a lot cause of the way she is but stil she mad enough time for me so we could go to the park, I'd buy her food and show her I liked her just by throwing scuttle hints like very light flirting or just doing goofy stuff to make her laugh, I even got her some food and medicine when she was sick (nothing too expensive so she wouldn't get too mad) and I got her information pertaining to her career to help build it, were both in college and she's a freshman I'm a junior and I even woke up at 5 am to take her to the airport to go back home for thanksgiving break. She's told me a lot of personal things but all we've done is hugged and I've only really took her out once and that was to the park since I'm very busy myself! My point is two weeks-three weeks ago she slowly started texting me less and less or just forgetting to reply. I know you have to give caps space so they can be themselves and not feel clustered so I never send more than three messages and I rarely send two. If I send the second one she usually immediately replies and we have a short burst of convo before she slowly just kinda disappears again and I've been patient cause the space thing and all but I freak out cause I don't hear from her all day and I don't wanna send a second text and start annoying her. It's come to a point where I'll send a message and if I don't send another I won't hear from her for three days But then she'll send me a message saying "hey you, wryd" or something like that. It's coming to the end of the semester and we both have finals so I'm hoping she's just been super busy (she's told me she has been) but I'm just worried she's just slowly losing interest in me and I don't want that. I've decided that next time we hang out to just have a serious talk with her tell her that I like her so we're on the same page and that she doesn't have to tel me how she feels yet but that I just want her to let me know if she doesn't wanna be anything more than friends. Is that the right move? Does it sound like she's still interested? Am I being to distant or too nice? I just really need help man cause I like making her laugh and she's stable but when I don't hear from you for two days unless I send a second message it worrys me cause i don't know if she wants me to send her another message or if she wants me to wait or what help please

The way she says "hey you" btw always seems flirty and it really makes me happy she also always says stuff like "I'll keep that in mind" when I tell her something I like. But at the same time I feel like she doesn't actually know anything about me or cares at all

She's so distant and I've told her some personal things too but she never ask me about them or anything like that but I kinda just realized she just doesn't care and that she's not someone I can go talk to about past issues which is fine, also so is it ok for me to double text her if I haven't heard from her all day or should I just wait till she responds?

Also one of my friends (Taurus male) said I gotta switch it up alittle because I'm

Being too nice and I have to make her want me by just not talking to her or just being extra dry when I text her or by doing something like setting ground rules. Me personally I don't engage about things unless it really bothers me and I'm a sweet guy who's been hurt by it a lot so I hate being sweet but I still do sweet things cause I'm stupid so idk should I listen to him and just be extra dry with texting or just not even reply for a week or is that a bad call?

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She's so distant and I've told her some personal things too but she never ask me about them or anything like that but I kinda just realized she just doesn't care and that she's not someone I can go talk to about past issues which is fine, also so is it ok for me to double text her if I haven't heard from her all day or should I just wait till she responds?

Either or to your last question.

Can you maybe give me an example without going into details or specifics of what you told her about & she doesn't ask about. When I'm interested I typically ask about things

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Father use to beat me and how I haven't had a successful relationship because I attract girls without my best interest

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She's so distant and I've told her some personal things too but she never ask me about them or anything like that but I kinda just realized she just doesn't care and that she's not someone I can go talk to about past issues which is fine, also so is it ok for me to double text her if I haven't heard from her all day or should I just wait till she responds?

Either or to your last question.

Can you maybe give me an example without going into details or specifics of what you told her about & she doesn't ask about. When I'm interested I typically ask about things

Father use to beat me and how I haven't had a successful relationship because I attract girls without my best interest

Hmm, that's something I would've been more open with you about and sensitive to. Tread lightly with her.

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Right? So should I talk to other girls while talking to her just in case she just randomly loses interest in me? Or will she actually tell me that she just wants to be friends?

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She's so distant and I've told her some personal things too but she never ask me about them or anything like that but I kinda just realized she just doesn't care and that she's not someone I can go talk to about past issues which is fine, also so is it ok for me to double text her if I haven't heard from her all day or should I just wait till she responds?

Either or to your last question.

Can you maybe give me an example without going into details or specifics of what you told her about & she doesn't ask about. When I'm interested I typically ask about things

Father use to beat me and how I haven't had a successful relationship because I attract girls without my best interest

Hmm, that's something I would've been more open with you about and sensitive to. Tread lightly with her.

Right? So should I talk to other girls while talking to her just in case she just randomly loses interest in me? Or will she actually tell me that she just wants to be friends?

At this stage in my life I actually tell people when I'm no longer interested. It hasn't always been that way.

Dating other people, I'm not sure that's the best route to go either. I suppose if nothing is official then it wouldn't hurt.

The sooner you get to hang out, the better. That should give you clarity when you have the conversation with her. If possible hold off on dating others until then.

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Sounds like a good plan.

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She's so distant and I've told her some personal things too but she never ask me about them or anything like that but I kinda just realized she just doesn't care and that she's not someone I can go talk to about past issues which is fine, also so is it ok for me to double text her if I haven't heard from her all day or should I just wait till she responds?

She probably doesn't want to be invasive

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Idk I'm very confused

im a cap female and im talking to a pisces male right now......for about as long as you've been talking to your cap.......hmmm!! its hard to tell if she likes u..... u sound just like him he has told me some of his secrets... but if u leave her alone for awhile... if she likes u she will reach out.... eventually..... and when we are busy we do not like to be disturbed at all until we contact u... ex: he will text me when im at her work i won't text him until i get off work... i am a very Focused individual....and in the beginning he would text me all the time and i wouldn't respond it would be hours to days...so he stop texting me and we went about a week of not texting and he came across my mind and i texted him... so give her space to miss u or to think about u.... but first tell her how u feel because we like straightforwardness in people.... and once u do that let her know that u will give her the space that she needs... and if a month goes by and nothing!!! she does not like u romantically.... i say a month because when we're busy time flies by...for us so..... give it time we are slow when it comes to romantic.... we build a friendship before we explore romantic feelings for someone.... not in all cases but most... good luck...

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im a cap female and im talking to a pisces male right now......for about as long as you've been talking to your cap.......hmmm!! its hard to tell if she likes u..... u sound just like him he has told me some of his secrets... but if u leave her alone for awhile... if she likes u she will reach out.... eventually..... and when we are busy we do not like to be disturbed at all until we contact u... ex: he will text me when im at her work i won't text him until i get off work... i am a very Focused individual....and in the beginning he would text me all the time and i wouldn't respond it would be hours to days...so he stop texting me and we went about a week of not texting and he came across my mind and i texted him... so give her space to miss u or to think about u.... but first tell her how u feel because we like straightforwardness in people.... and once u do that let her know that u will give her the space that she needs... and if a month goes by and nothing!!! she does not like u romantically.... i say a month because when we're busy time flies by...for us so..... give it time we are slow when it comes to romantic.... we build a friendship before we explore romantic feelings for someone.... not in all cases but most... good luck...

Thank you the only real issue is she's gonna be going home for a month because our semester is over, so should I be worried cause I won't see her for a month and should I just get ready to never hear from her again until she gets back or what?

Thank you the only real issue is she's gonna be going home for a month because our semester is over, so should I be worried cause I won't see her for a month and should I just get ready to never hear from her again until she gets back or what?



so that means she will have time to think of u... tell her how u feel before she goes.... it will give her time to think about where u guys stand..... if she likes you in a romantic way that month will give her the time she needs to decide weather you guys are a good match... caps we move slow but not slow like cancers.... just tell her how you feel... we are very honest individuals we don't string people along.....

Her level of interest will match your level of interest.

You've only given her sporadic texts and a park lunch. No dates. No phone calls. No consistent communication.

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im a cap female and im talking to a pisces male right now......for about as long as you've been talking to your cap.......hmmm!! its hard to tell if she likes u..... u sound just like him he has told me some of his secrets... but if u leave her alone for awhile... if she likes u she will reach out.... eventually..... and when we are busy we do not like to be disturbed at all until we contact u... ex: he will text me when im at her work i won't text him until i get off work... i am a very Focused individual....and in the beginning he would text me all the time and i wouldn't respond it would be hours to days...so he stop texting me and we went about a week of not texting and he came across my mind and i texted him... so give her space to miss u or to think about u.... but first tell her how u feel because we like straightforwardness in people.... and once u do that let her know that u will give her the space that she needs... and if a month goes by and nothing!!! she does not like u romantically.... i say a month because when we're busy time flies by...for us so..... give it time we are slow when it comes to romantic.... we build a friendship before we explore romantic feelings for someone.... not in all cases but most... good luck...

The only issue I have with your response is that you don't really like the guy.

What you described is how I would treat someone if I was not interested. If I'm interested in someone my mind is on them 24/7, whether it's work or school. If I have time during work then I'm responding. If I'm not that attracted then you can wait until I get off of work.

Just some differing opinions to consider OP.

As far as her being home for a month, that's why I said the sooner the better for the meeting. If I like you, I'd keep in touch while at home and I would not forget about you.

If she isn't interested, then there will probably be little effort put forth on her part over the break.

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and u know what that is true im not head over heels for him but i enjoy his company... he's a great person.... as bad as it sounds... he is growing on me...

Update there was an event going on today that she asked me if I was going to, I said yes and she said she wanted to go so I said we can go together she agreed (more emotion then that just don't feel like typing it out)

so fast forward to like 4 she says she's going to go hang out with friends the event starts at 6 I text her at 5:54 asking if she wants to meet there or she wants to walk with me. She replies I'm not going to be able to go enjoy and take pics.

I'm really hurt by this cause I hate being ditched like that but all I sent was "will do!"

My point is I've already made a promise to myself I'll tell this girl

How I feel

I've been patient and waiting and it's getting hard and irritating that I'm literally last place. So can I just go ahead and text her how I feel and be done with it cause as I see it happening I won't see her at all for two weeks. And I'm really close to just ignoring her and swimming away. It's disrespectful to just ask someone somewhere then decide last minute I don't wanna go oh whoops forgot about that one guy.

Ok so update, update I got to meet and talk with her and tell her how I feel. I was at the library and couldn't study cause I kept thinking about talking to her so I went ahead and texted her asking if we could hang real quick cause I wanted to see her before I started studying she agreed and I went by and saw her we were looking for somewhere to sit but everywhere was wet so I asked if we could just go into her dorm and she at first agreed and told me I could meet all her roomates(close friends) but then realized she'd have to go back upstairs and come back downstairs to get me and we both agreed it was too much trouble so I walked her to some Christmas lights she's starting to act more goofy around me which I love and asked her how her day was she told me how it had it's ups and downs because of the rain and everything we talked for like 30 minutes until I got the courage to tell her what I wanted to say so I told her how I like her and what I liked about her and she kinda just listened and kept smiling a lot and waiting for me to finish. Then she told me how much she appreciated me telling her that and apologized about her texting habits (she looks at her phone and forgets to reply cause she gets busy so she says she never intentionally ignores me) then she told me how she's not really looking for a relationship right now she just wants to make friendships and connections and how she has a habit of thinking of everyone as friends and not realizing people have romantic feelings for her but she kinda knew I liked her. So here's where it gets weird even though she says she just wants to be friends its more because she wants the connections and worries she's not ready for another relationship yet because she's alittle guarded and doesn't want to get hurt again. She kept apologizing and when I asked her if she still wanted to hang out with me alone she said yes she does! But she doesn't want it to make me like her more? I told her how I really am a "sensitive guy" and showed her the drawing I made for her and she was so happy she was laughing a lot and it was a really good time the talk went really well and easy and we even ended up spending like an hour outside just talking. So my thing is this, I like her a lot and I understand it takes patience so should I keep trying(I said I'd take her to the movies earlier this week and when we had the talk she asked if we could still go I said it's up to you and she said she'll tell me in the morning) cause I can tell she's warming up to me or does her "I just want friends right now" mean I should accept it and just be happy with friends and move on to another girl? (I only talk romantically to one girl at a time)

Side note

She told me how some other guy took her to the movies and tried to put his hand around her and she told him flat out no and how he pouted and how he told her afterwards how he liked her and her response was not pleasant it was just brutally honest. So I think that's good cause she was really happy even after we talked about it and said that I'm someone she cares about and likes spending time with me and then it confuses me

Posted by Piscesmale7777
She's so distant and I've told her some personal things too but she never ask me about them or anything like that but I kinda just realized she just doesn't care and that she's not someone I can go talk to about past issues which is fine, also so is it ok for me to double text her if I haven't heard from her all day or should I just wait till she responds?

Never asking questions is my attitude too. Nothing to do with not caring. I dont ask too many questions to people in my life be it friends or probable boyfriend . For me that is giving space and i believe when people want to share something then they will . Also sometimes i dont know what to say ..specially when i have to console a person.

I have been asked so many questions by guys....sometimes it felt like i was being interviewed .

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tell her how u feel before she goes

just tell her how you feel... we are very honest individuals we don't string people along.....

I agree with that

Yes, take her word....please.

No matter what her actions say, she spoke what she is going to stick with.