I have a question for all you cappys. I've been with my boyfriend for 2y and its been great. I know he loves me but this last two weeks have been so weird. He turns 30 tomorrow.so I'm not sure if this is playing apart, but he lied to me about working on NYE to go out and as he said get drunk and not be serious. He only got caught bc my friend saw him and called me. We haven't been fighting or anything so I was so confused by this. I've never met these friends and he said he didn't invite bc he just wanted to have fun with his friends. I still don't understand his actions bc I let him do that often and trust him so I never get jealous or anything. Now he is in this self loathing thing like he doesn't deserve me and how he loves me. I told him that relationships take work and I'm willing to work but if he wants out then not to use this as an excuse. I told him I love him and I think our biggest issue is that he continues to compare his vial crazy ex to us and that often prevents us from moving forward and in order for us to move forward he has to live in the now. He said that was a huge issue but he really does love me and sees a future with me, but he doesn't understand why he wants to have his friends separately from us. That that confuses him and he isn't sure if it's bc his ex humiliated him and would always cause a scene when they were with his friends. Do other cappy fear things like this and revert back to thier past? He is now acting like he isn't the great guy I know he is abd doesn't deserve me I'm so confused by this he has never acted like this. We agreed to continue our relationship because we love each other I'm just not sure how to help him trust his heart and us. Any advice is appreciated
