Get close to a Cap by pushing them away?

I (a gemini) noticed this with both my cap friend and boyfriend. They both seemed pretty standoffish yet warm in the beginning of our relationship. Then, a few months later they'll get me to my wit's end and I'll confront them on how something they did I couldn't take anymore. I would be to the point of basically wanting to end the relationship and all of a sudden my friend would want me to be her maid of honor and he want to be exclusive? HUH—

Yup.

I have noticed this also. What's up with that?

Sounds like you finally earned their respect.

Posted by CapTenn
Sounds like you finally earned their respect.

I guess so! I feel like I'm super accommodating- they get me to bend for them in ways I've never bent for anyone! I don't know how they do it! lol

Arden, gems are flexible. It doesn't take much. Lol. Careful not to bend too much without the return for your needs.

Maybe you stopped being clingy or needy for their attention and started appearing more confident and independent which = are attractive traits to a cap in both relationships and friendships.

*shrugs*

I don't think it has to do with "pushing them away", I think it has more to do with the way you are perceived.

*just a thought*

My boyfriend is a Cap. He has what I call "tunnel vision", but at the beginning of our relationship I thought it was him being distant. He gets his mind wrapped around something (work, project, etc) and loses focus on other things. I had to talk with him about this to make sure he understood how I felt and to understand what he was doing.

Caps are very head strong. If you don't earn your spot they will trample you and keep moving. You have to speak up immediately when something is off. Stand up and say what you have to say. They respect that. No whining allowed.

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Posted by MissLibra
My boyfriend is a Cap. He has what I call "tunnel vision", but at the beginning of our relationship I thought it was him being distant. He gets his mind wrapped around something (work, project, etc) and loses focus on other things. I had to talk with him about this to make sure he understood how I felt and to understand what he was doing.

Caps are very head strong. If you don't earn your spot they will trample you and keep moving. You have to speak up immediately when something is off. Stand up and say what you have to say. They respect that. No whining allowed.

Amen. As a Libra with a Capricorn myself, this post is eerily reflective of what I've learned.

The good news is, provided you speak up for yourself in a timely & rational fashion(rather than waiting until the point of frustration)they're likely to be receptive to this--not resistant & defensive.

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....and never ever embarrass them in public....

Posted by StillWater
OR cap men just suck.

What about the Cap young lady wanting to be maid of honor?

Or just Cap man hating? 🙂