reciprocity and capricorns by L. Goodman

'To love, and know that we are loved in return, allows us to approach gloriously near the higher levels of happiness of our aptly named Higher Selves. To love is not, by itself, enough. Nor is it sufficient to simply be loved. Reciprocity is the necessary ingredient for any romantic recipe, the yeast, the leavening - without which the emotions will starve for the lack of complete nourishment.

Another way to say "to love, and be loved in return" -is: "to need, and be needed in return." No matter how desperately the Saturnine man and woman's pride in their self-sufficiency may struggle against the knowledge, love and need are identical twins - though not in the context of a need for material things. Everyone, especially Capricorn, knows that one doesnt have to love one's banker, although one surely does need one's banker, from time to time. Or one's dentist. Or auto mechanic. Or the telephone company. Admittedly, we desperately need Ma Bell, but I know of no one who really loves the greedy, Midas-wealthy, domineering, monopolu-minded Matriarch (and never mind her Public Relations sweet-talk). When I say that "need" is synonymous with "love," I'm speaking of needing in an emotional sense, in the context of needing something related to the heart, not related to things of intrinsic value. However, under the law of the macrocosm-microcosm (as above, so below), the material type of need is what makes the pairs called "strange bedfellows," in politics and other areas of life.

You Capricorns, must remember that, in order for you to be able to love, the one you love must be vulnerable in some way, must have some weakness that only your strength can support, only your compassion can overlook - in short, must need you. In order to be loved, you must, yourself, be in some way vulnerable, possess some weakness, which only the strength of the one you love can support, only his or her compassion can overlook - and love you anyway - in short, you must need that person, just as that person must need you. Only when need is thus mutually experienced and exchanged by both partners, does love begin to grow.

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Such a delicate miracle as love can be so easily overbalanced, on one side or the other. It's impossible to love when all we feel is respect and admiration for someone, yet can find no vulnerabilities in him or in her which cause that person to need us, therefore causing us to feel needed. Conversely, its equally impossible to love when all we feel is sympathy or compassion for another person, yet can find nothing in him or in her to respect or admir, nothing that causes us to need the other pseron in order to make our own happiness compete. This sort of interchange of need is why love must be a two-way street - or be simply unrequited infatuation, on the part of the man or the woman."

Linda Goodman's 'Love Signs'

"yet can find nothing in him or in her to respect or admir, nothing that causes us to need the other pseron in order to make our own happiness compete."

admir = *admire
compete = *complete

😛

and *person

...bah

I read this and think about my own capricorn. He has an issue with balancing his life so everything fits together. Often he goes to extremes in good and in dark times instead of simply accepting not everything is yours and you owe it to yourself to balance. So I don't see this reading as 'you stop loving when not loved in return' message. I can see that to a capricorn that they must reminder to bring balance to the inner force so not to turn into Darth Vadar. (Yep I'm saying that Anakin Skywalker must have been a Capricorn because in his quest for greatness he was led astray before completing his destiny of bringing balance to a force when he himself wasn't balanced in his own wants and needs. In the end it is Vadar who brings balance to the force, not Luke. Course I named my cat Anakin so I spent a little too much time watching Star Wars as a girl.) You can be great, be vulnerable with the ones you love, and find a balance in this lifetime.

I am not sure what movie character equals an aquarius, but I'm sure he or she is as cool as I am.